How do I stop thinking about my fears?

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Last Updated: 07/03/2017 at 11:21am
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AkankshaP
January 29th, 2015 6:58pm
you should not stop thinking about your fear then they will always remain, the only difference will be that you will be naive to them. instead of that you should work on overcoming them, to keep yourself a stronger person.
Yuki2714
November 9th, 2015 4:36pm
If you want to stop thinking about it, then busy yourself with fun and worthwhile activities with your family or friends. Go out on a vacation or a trip. Play sports. Just fun, fun, fun. But if you want to permanently forget it, then face it and courageously shatter it with all your might and never fear again.
smileitswhit
January 27th, 2015 6:51pm
sometimes you have to focus on the good and positive thoughts. The fears will always be there to take over if you let them.
Anonymous
May 11th, 2015 9:02pm
Play a game like "5, 4, 3, 2, 1" Name 5 things in the room around you Name 4 things you're touching Name 3 things you can hear Name 2 things you can smell Name 1 you LIKE about yourself
TEMI4LIVE2
May 20th, 2015 1:01pm
1. Change the negative thought into a positive one. For example, if you are worried and focusing on what could go wrong in a situation, change your thoughts to what could go right. The mind can only think one thought at a time; so changing the negative into a positive eliminates the negative. 2. Use an affirmation. Begin affirming to yourself something positive and self-supporting. The mind will focus on what you are repeating to yourself. Use humour and fun. We get very serious and stressed when we’re thinking negative thoughts. Think of something funny to change the energy, or do something fun like going to a movie or having a night out with friends. Don’t let your negative thoughts have power over you. Be proactive in eliminating them. 3. Remind yourself that the negative thought you are thinking is “only a negative thought.” It has no power other than what you give it. Negatives gain momentum from your thinking them over and over again. So stop thinking them.
Clouder
July 23rd, 2015 9:55am
One approach that I've found effective is to learn to accept the thoughts as they are. When thoughts about fears arise, let them be there instead of immediately trying to push them away. It might help to label the thoughts and observe them in a neutral way, for example, 'Worries are arising... shoulders are tensing up and chest is tightening...' By taking on the role of a neutral observer, you distance yourself from the thoughts/fears and give yourself some space to respond in a mindful way. In time, the thoughts/fears will pass. This can also reduce anxiety over time, as you learn that it's okay for the thoughts/fears to be there and learn to trust that they will pass on their own if you let them.
frostyMoon72
April 6th, 2015 8:13am
Start accepting your fear and once you do that you can start changing it and not letting it take over your life. ignoring the problem only takes it away for so long
openHeart76
May 13th, 2015 10:46am
I think it's truly hard to stop thinking about our fears. Instead, we should channel those fears into something constructive. For example- if you have the fear of failure, instead of thinking 'why bother, I'm just going to fail anyway?', one should think, 'I'm going to try my hardest because this is the way I won't fail.'
Anonymous
May 28th, 2015 3:15am
You can always try to busy yourself with other things, thereby distracting yourself from your fears! Consider taking up a hobby of a sort, or devoting more time to things that you love (and less time being idle, and alone with your thoughts).
beautifulshoulder220
July 21st, 2015 7:20pm
Relax , think about positive things . If you like playing a sport or singing or any kind of hobby , focus on that to keep your mind completely focused.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2015 7:46pm
The best way to stop your fears, is to overcome your fears. There really is no better way, I know it's an easy thing to say, as most fears simply seem impossible to ever overcome, but have you ever really tried to overcome them!
kthepoet13
December 7th, 2015 2:23am
Well... there are two options for this one. You can face them (which I highly suggest), or you can distract yourself from them (which I don't suggest). Facing your fears may not be easy, but it's better that way.
kimmy500
February 22nd, 2016 4:00am
What i try do is i find a happy show to watch on tv or if there is no televison around i grab my headphone and listin to muisc. I also journal my fears in my journal i write in everyday. because sometimes writting them out on paper will help you not think about them.
ZoodleDoodle
July 12th, 2016 8:01pm
The best way that I have found to stop thinking about my fears is to start thinking about something else. I write, so I'll think about a story instead. Or I'll hum a song. Think of it like substituting something you like for something that worries you.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2016 11:52am
if you are anxious about fears then learn relaxation techniques and therapies to face them.you will live a fear free life
GoatyGirl
August 9th, 2016 9:10pm
I think about fears that I have conquered and how I can conquer this one. I often ask family and close friends for help along the way
BigGreenCat
August 29th, 2016 12:52am
Learn to have something else you focus on instead. Learn to focus on things you love to do or are good at.
Dawn04
October 11th, 2016 12:14am
Try to distract yourself with other more pleasant things while you slowly start working on winning over your fears.
Anaiviv01
June 13th, 2017 10:25am
Face your fears one by one. Put them to paper. Look at them - just ink on a page. Get in touch with me if you need some motivation to overcome your fears. Please consider that fears themselves are not a bad thing: they keep us alive. The problem is when we feel paralyzed because of them. Stay strong, try harder!
rallygirl
July 3rd, 2017 11:21am
To stop thinking about your fears, try distracting yourself with things that make you happy! This differs from person to person, but can include reading, going out with friends, exercising, enjoying a nice hot drink, or chatting with a therapist or a listener on 7 cups.