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How can I put down my phone and go to sleep?

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Last Updated: 06/01/2022 at 3:04am
How can I put down my phone and go to sleep?
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Tracy-Kate Teleke, PsyD, M.A., LMFT

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I assist adults and couples in CA experiencing relationship challenges and interpersonal struggles including anxiety, depression, and a myriad of other life challenges.

Top Rated Answers
lauram95
February 18th, 2017 12:16am
You need to plan a set time where you will put your phone down and try to stick with it. Possibly try and keep your phone away from your bed to stop you from reaching for it.
alexxhere
June 14th, 2016 6:16am
I have problems doing this as well. I would set a timer on your phone and then when you see the time is up, remember what you thought earlier about it being better to go to sleep and persuade yourself to.
BlueRaspberries77
June 16th, 2016 9:26pm
Try to have a set time to switch your phone off and get some rest. E.g give yourself an hour after you get into bed and then after the hour get to sleep,
greatfulGrace21
August 16th, 2016 8:53am
Usually I use my phone if I can't sleep and just look on Facebook or something and it usually gets me tired. But I just tell who I can (if talking to someone) I have to go to bed.
Anonymous
August 30th, 2016 12:46am
Try turning off your phone by at least 10pm at night and giving it to a parent or somebody else in the house who you trust and allow them to hide it in a place you won't find until morning. Then you won't have access to it, and will be able to fall asleep.
Feli36
September 21st, 2016 7:08pm
Set yourself some 'phone time' and set an alarm to remind yourself to get off your phone. Set phone time 3-4 hours before you intend to sleep.
Anonymous
May 12th, 2018 5:22pm
Turn it off, turn in to silent mode. Make your phone sleep so you will sleep as well. Put it far from you.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2020 4:13pm
Here is what I think might work for you. Hope it helps. - Set the your phone into a 'do not disturb mode' or just put it in silence, in a way you would not be aware of any notifications you might get so you can relax more. -Try to put your phone to charge or move it to a place not near your bed, that way you might not be tempt it to get it. -Instead of using your phone you can read or do something else you like that can help you sleep and that could keep you away from your phone.
Gl3nn
March 3rd, 2015 6:40pm
Speaking from experience - unless I know I've got work the next day where I get an early morning call from my work provider, I usually always put my phone on Flight/Fly Mode. The reason why is that the small amount of radiation the WiFi/Phone Services puts out can be enough to stop your brain from relaxing 100%. With that said you also get zero disturbance from friends or relatives that tries to contact you. Try to make it a habit that right before you put your phone away, turn Flight Mode on, and you will get a lot more quality sleep that way! I hope it will help just as much as it has helped me.
BlueRoseAoiBara
November 4th, 2016 4:37pm
It basically comes to will power to actually put your phone away and go to sleep instead. Time your phone charging so that the battery will be low just around the time you are supposed to sleep.
ElaineSaysHello
July 5th, 2018 5:15am
Try to set an alarm at least half an hour before your designated bedtime and spend that time meditating or preparing for the next day (plan out your outfit, meal prep, etc.).
RubyRose8
April 16th, 2021 4:42pm
Remove the temptation. By putting your phone away from your bed to charge. And you can read a book instead of scrolling while in bed. This will help you dose off. Set a goal like I will read one chapter or a certain number of pages. If you keep the phone on silent or do not disturb during the night it you will not be bothered with status updates. this should allow your mind to relax. Remember that out of sight out of mind is a good rule to reduce your phone usage. Also developing a night time routine that does not include your phone will help reinforce this goal.
kindPeace2936
April 22nd, 2020 11:49am
It's often easier if you can to put your phone on silent (or turn it off if you don't need an alarm) and leave it outside of the bedroom, at the other side of the room or if it has to be within reach, leave it face down so that if you do get a notification when you are trying to sleep the light won't waken you. It has also helped me to get in to the routine of telling anyone I've been chatting to that I'm heading to bed so they know to not expect any replies from me. This gives me time to not be waiting on responses and know anything else can wait until the morning.
laurenroseeee1818
October 3rd, 2019 9:52pm
It’s important to think about what your day might look like if you proceed to be on your phone at night. Sleep is very important to your well-being and having that blue light on your eyes can disrupt many health factors. If you are having trouble waking up in the morning, it might be because it’s difficult to just set your phone down and go to sleep. Setting a personal time limit on your phone can be very helpful and remind you of your goal. Another helpful thing might be to set your phone outside of your bedroom at night. It might be hard to get used to these routines the first few nights, but you will see changes in day to day life very quickly.
WaterSoul
August 30th, 2019 6:33am
Try doing some gentle yoga before going to sleep to help your body relax. Or try reading a book to help drift you into a calm, sleep state. Or try writing all of your thoughts from the day down into a journal so your head can be clear of any worries or thoughts and you will be ready for sleep. Try deep breathing or guided meditation, or relaxing music to listen to while you are trying to fall asleep. Try rain or crackling fire, or even wind or just soothing, gentle music will do the trick! You'll soon be off to sleep!
Fergie12299
August 22nd, 2020 10:17pm
well for one you phone will probably enjoy being charged so help you phone. Going to bed should be an enjoyable thing and habits you carry with you to the bed room should be fixed. Bed room is exactly as it says Bed and a bed should be to sleep. Associating bed with sleep is the first step. You have to look at the bed room as this is where i go to sleep, not to look up my phone and rspond or talk to people. This room is where you go to be quiet and get rest which is a necessity and to maintain your health
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2019 11:24pm
As a person who has the same problem, here are some things that usually work for me: 1- Keep your phone out of your bedroom. That’s right! Don’t even use it in the first place. Using a screen can strain your eyes and keep you awake, which is not something you want when you’re trying to sleep. If you need extra help, keep your phone out of your room entirely so it isn’t tempting to use. 2- If your phone has a screen time control option, set it for a time when you want to put it away. If you need to challenge yourself more, set it with a password that you’ll likely forget, and keep the password taped to the inside of your phone case or something just in case you need it in an emergency. 3- If you know anyone in a different time zone or who stays up later than you, ask them to check in with you to remind you to go sleep. Hope I could help! Good luck with this.
Zarkhy
August 22nd, 2020 6:43am
A foolproof way is to lock up your phone somewhere else [Like another room and such] and just lay down to sleep in another room. This way, after you lay down comfortably to sleep, there won't be uncontrollable urges to use your phone. That said, it is great to get completely rid of the phone addiction and set away a small amount of time for phone leisure activities like social media/games/YouTube and such. Some much more productive leisure activities that are actually good for you are reading books, listening to good music, taking a walk, gazing at the stars and such.
iwishuwell
February 13th, 2020 9:43am
I believe they call it FOMO (fear of missing out). You refresh your social media feeds, check in with Quora to see if your answer got any up votes, hop onto You Tube to watch a video or two, and then think: Oh! I wonder X has been of Facebook? I should check that real quick….well, no, but Y is at that concert, I’m just going to peek at Instagram and see if she posted any pictures… So on and so forth, because that is the nature of social media. Something might have happened, someone may have posted. A new video could have been uploaded and you want to see. Just in case it’s important. Just in case it’s awesome. You wouldn’t want to miss something cool, right? People, fully grown adult people who should very much know better, will fritter away half a night doing this, and then, bleary eyed from lack of sleep the next day, tell themselves I am NOT doing that again. But they do. All of us, from impetuous teen to stodgy old married gal, can get hooked on the what if I miss something aspect of social media and burn up the night on our phones. None of us, from impetuous teen to stodgy old married gal, like to have a bedtime imposed on us, even when we impose it ourselves. That’s why it’s so hard. But we need rest, so it has to be. Put the phone down now and get some sleep.
Anonymous
December 11th, 2019 12:07pm
Turn it on silent or turn it off. Stop electronics close to bedtime. Read. Listen to relaxing music. Draw. Color. Journal. Contemplate your day. Count sheep. Focus on your breathing. Try breathing techniques. Count your blessings. Try positive and gratefulness. Meditate. Try some light exercise or stretching. Write down your to do list, worries, problems, and brief solutions. Try an App like Calm. Make sure your not too hot or cold. Keep your room dark and cool. Think about your good qualities. Count to ten. Write a letter to yourself. "Keep calm and carry on." Turn off lights.
Anonymous
November 28th, 2019 7:59pm
I have learned when I go to bed. just to turn down all the lights. turn down the volume and notifications on my phone. So, I am able to get some sleep. As I cannot sleep with any lights whatsoever. that is how I put my phone down and get some sleep. I also, turn soft music on and start some meditation music and listen to any type of soft music that will put me to sleep. I need at least 8 hours of sleep for me in order for me to be very functional in the mornings. Otherwise I cannot function in the mornings. So, Night times. I cannot Play games on my phone. I just have to plug it in away from my bed and let it charge and listen to meditation and relaxing songs.
Meghan0124
February 15th, 2020 4:20am
This can often seem like the hardest thing to do. I purposely put my charge in a different room and plug my phone in right before I go to bed. Out of sight, out of mind. I also make sure that I set a routine. About an hour before bed, I will check everything I need to: Facebook, e-mail, news, messages, etc. I stick to my time frame and then plug the phone in. On the rare occasions I need to keep my phone with me, I always make sure to turn down the screen brightness and turn the volume to vibrate.
Anonymous
March 19th, 2020 9:41pm
These easy tips can help you relax and get in the mood for sleep: 1. Quiet the mind 2. Deep breaths 3. Meditation or yoga 4. Exercising before bed 5. Making sure you are not stressed prior to bed. All of the above tips are helpful when trying to prepare your mind for a good night of sleep. Even by limiting your phone time to 30 minutes before you feel yourself getting sleepy helps ease the brain to a state of relaxation prior to becoming completely exhausted. Also, dont forget to make sure you did not consume high sugary foods or caffeine prior to bed as the plays a hufe role in sleep as well.
helpocat
March 21st, 2020 5:08pm
It helps if you set time for yourself to be on your phone and then go to sleep. For example you can say that you will chat or watch videos on Youtube till 22.30 and then put your phone away and sleep. If it helps you can do things on your phone that are more calming or not as interesting to stay awake for them, like going through the news or reading a short story. There are also plenty apps providing you support in this matter by closing your apps automaticaly to a set time. It is important that you remind yourself why it is important for you to go to sleep: Maybe you want to look awake and well rested or you simply want to have energy and power on the next day you get having enough sleep.
Cj526
November 23rd, 2019 9:38pm
I like to tell myself that everything I need will be there tomorrow. Another thing I like to do is listen to relaxation music to ease my mind and calm all my racing thoughts. When I am able to focus on just one thing I am then more relaxed and able to fall asleep. It's important to try doing this before the time you want to go to sleep. When I see that I am still awake past my "time limit" I start to feel more stressed and I feel like I failed myself. However, It's important to remember that isn't true.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2022 3:04am
Something that helps me is to think about the reasons why I want to go to sleep. For example, feeling rested in the morning. This is a good incentive to put my phone down. Also, my phone automatically turns to black and white after 9pm so it's not fun to look at. This way I don't feel like reading or watching late in the evening. So I guess the summary is a mix of personal motivation and making the phone unattractive after a certain time. Oh and not taking it to the bedroom - leave it in a different room or a wardrobe.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2020 12:41am
This is something I struggle with all the time. Everything on our phones, especially social media, is designed tone addicting and not allow you to let go. When it's time to sleep, this becomes especially difficult. One can set a screen time limit or turn on a blue light filter to prevent damage on your eyes and brain from the light. It can also help to set an alarm an hour before your desired bed time to remind yourself that it is time to wind down. setting your morning alarm and leaving your phone in another space until you wake up can also help many. I hope you find success in sleeping and putting away your phone. Good Luck!
brightbubbles88
July 8th, 2020 5:44pm
I know something that helps me put my phone down so that I can go to sleep is I usually put it across my room, the furthest I can away from my bed before going into my bed-because then it requires too much effort to get to it and in the morning it would force me to get out of bed to turn my alarm off (otherwise it would just keep ringing). Also if you can't sleep and using your phone is a way of winding down (because I relate) it can be helpful to have other activities near your bed that you can do until you fall asleep that does not involve your phone (ie reading, colouring, writing in a journal, making a to do list for tomorrow).
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2020 2:23pm
Putting your phone in the kitchen, bathroom heck, even basement to charge overnight will help discourage you from checking it during the night (especially if you're basement is particularly spooky). If you’re worried that you may miss a call in case of an emergency, set it so that it only rings when certain people are calling, but still place it out of bed and out of reach just in case you get tempted. Your mind can stay active and engaged long after you’ve scrolled through Instagram or responded to a few work emails. Going to bed and falling asleep should be a peaceful, happy and relaxing experience. Engaging with your phone too close to bedtime can negatively impact those feelings.
CaringAndCompassionateCandice
May 2nd, 2020 10:17pm
Ask yourself what are the benefits of not using your phone late at night, and then ask yourself what are the benefits of using your phone late at night. The answer to the second question determines why you are struggling with the motivation to put your phone down (e.g. you get to avoid the difficulty of falling sleep, you get to chat to people you can't chat with during the day, you enjoy Facebook etc), and the answer to the first question reveals whether or not you really value the idea of getting a good sleep. From there you can have a look at why you are struggling to change your behaviour- there are benefits to us even in the unwanted and undesirable things we do!