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Why can't I ever make their expectations?

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Last Updated: 09/13/2016 at 5:31am
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JessInTechnicolour
March 22nd, 2015 10:40pm
First I would ask you to consider what your expectations are. Are you clear on what you expect from yourself and from those around you? If not, take some time to identify your own expectations. Then seek to understand what others expect of you. Ask as many questions as necessary to get the clarity you need. Furthermore, be sure to communicate your expectations too. You deserve to have your expectations met equally. Check in frequently to make sure you are on the same page as the person who has expectations of you. You deserve respect and your expectations count too.
Anonymous
May 7th, 2015 7:14pm
Well why do you need to exceed their expectations. It hurts when we expect too much. But then we can try until we pass.
wonderfulIcicle35
June 2nd, 2015 9:38pm
Without communication, the wrong message can be sent/received. Some people set impossible goals, some perhaps to stretch you, make you work at your optimum level. Others in the hope that you will not try and give up. It is up to you to set your own goals. As long as you are loved that should be the most important expectation, self/others?
AJinOC
June 18th, 2015 1:07am
Its not your job to make their expectations. Your job is to meet your expectations. Outside voices are temoporary. YOU will be legendary.
Anonymous
September 7th, 2015 8:57pm
Expectations can be set quite high some times, but I found it was better to meet my expectations first before I met my parents expectations; This way I could please myself and give myself the courage and motivation to try and reach what my parents and family expected of me. Sometimes the expectations might be set a little too high but that does not mean you cannot meet them or that you have to meet them because parents and family members only set these expectations because they want the best for you and they want you to be the best person you can be throughout your life, even if you cannot meet them they will still love you.
HelpWisely
November 10th, 2015 6:28am
It is impossible to meet everyone's expectations because everyone is different and requires different things, sometimes things that you are not able to provide or fulfill. You cannot even fulfill your own expectations so what more other people? Just being able to handle your own expectations is already a huge task so that is sufficient.
Greatlistener87
September 13th, 2016 5:31am
Your happiness is your own responsibility. You are not responsible at all for others happiness they are all responsible for their own happiness themselves.