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Should I stay at a job that I hate?

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Last Updated: 01/20/2022 at 4:32pm
Should I stay at a job that I hate?
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August 6th, 2016 4:48am
No one can tell you what you should or shouldn't do when it comes to your employment options. Having said that, a life without a feeling of fulfillment is a half-life at best. If you decide to seek new employment, may I recommend seeking new employment while staying at your job? This way you will not have to worry about being unemployed. If you are undecided, considering making a Pro | Con list, such as the following. Pro 1: You're not unemployed. Con 1: You hate your job. Pro 2: You're making money. Con 2: You're unfulfilled. &c &c. and see which column has more in it. It's a good thinking exercise if nothing else.
December 20th, 2017 11:51pm
It is always easier to find work when your in work. Working is the one thing we do the most in life, so there is no point doing something you don’t like. I’m not saying quit because you don’t like one certain task, but you must enjoy your normal routines. Search for something that inspires you, take up some more education in a field you would enjoy, life is too short to be held down and be unhappy, make the change that suits you best.
August 6th, 2016 4:27pm
do you actually hate your job or are you just not used to it? it's normal to feel uncomfortable at the beginning of something. let the time pass and try to enjoy it with all of your heart, slowly but surely. but if it is starting an affect on your own health and condition, or make you feel stressful, you should consider quitting it. but then again, it is your own decision :)
August 7th, 2016 2:42pm
It's a difficult question. Obviously it would be most ideal for you to find a good job that you enjoy and is fulfilling for you, but there are many other things to consider such as how much you earn, how easy it will be to find another job, how much you really want your dream job, how far you would go for it. I have however personally heard from people who 'threw away' good positions to chase their dreams with generally good success - one was the CEO of a rising international hotel line but he quit and sold all his property to travel, and although it is of course much less stable (he was selling his Chinese calligraphy skills on the street to make money at one point) is very much happier. I think the most important factor is how determined you are to pursue your true purpose in life, fear makes many obstacles seem more difficult than they are and there is always more than one solution. Best of luck!
February 24th, 2017 6:53am
I hate my job, too. It's just so draining to have a job where you'd rather do anything else except go to work. Sometimes, I fantasize about getting sick so I can call in. I'd rather be at home barfing than at work. So, I can relate. What's helped me is looking for a new job and investing my time in things I enjoy outside of work. Perhaps a question to think about is what is it, exactly, that you hate about your job? Then, look for opportunities to counteract that somewhere else. For me, I hate being micromanaged and treated like I'm incompetent. So, outside of my job, I seek out opportunities where I can use my talents and do something productive without anyone looking over my shoulder.
August 11th, 2018 10:09pm
If you stay at a job that you absolutely hate, it will damage your health significantly and trust me - you don't want to go there. You could start off feeling depressed, and end up being suicidal, having eating disorders, self harming, having psychotic depression or PTSD depending on whatever's going on. All of us on here - we're not on here for no reason. Something has happened at some point in time to make us NEED to come here, desperately seeking help. Not necessarily because of our jobs, but we have all had that one awful job in our lifetime that definitely didn't help and it is not a place you want to go. The best part is, you won't even see it coming.
July 2nd, 2020 5:38am
Putting yourself in an environment you highly dislike is bad for you and your soul. Venture into the world of possibilities and begin to see how other opportunities could make you feel like a better person. Believing that you are meant to do better things is the first step to becoming a better person. Remember many things may have zero to little worth at a certain store but when taken to a store this same thing may have the value that may be unimaginable to many of us. Never forget your worth and never forget that you are capable to what you put your mind to.
September 16th, 2020 10:43am
Well, let's face the reality. 80-90% of the working people hate their jobs. The whole purpose of a job is to earn money for survival and a better standard of living. So, if you already have other stable sources of income, you could consider quitting that job. If it's a no, then you gotta stay in it my friend , until you create other stable income sources or find a job which aligns with your passion, for which you can devote hours of work ..without any regrets. I hope this helps you think and arrive at a decision. Good luck my friend :)
October 30th, 2020 9:43am
I think, everyone would think it's a very obvious answer- "yes". But, I wish things were as easy as they seem. Let's try to figure the answer out then. The cons: you have a job, you earn a living out of it. Suddenly leaving it might change things on a whole 360 degree. You might be jobless, clueless as to what to do. And I think you have an idea how that might be in a world like this. However, if we look at the other sied of the coin, isn't it painful to do something you don't enjoy. It kills your very soul and there is nothing interesting anymore. Everything feels so bland. What's the joy in it? So, my suggestion to you is consider both the sides, have a clear idea in mind about what you want to pursue and how to pursue it before you leave your job. Taking decisions on a whim might be exciting and tempting but they hardly do you good. So, why not take time and plan a strategy on what to do and how to do it before you leave your job. Like have a safety net before you take a decision.
August 4th, 2016 6:32pm
If you don't like your job, start applying for another one until you have another job to fall back on. Do you make lots of cash? 🤑 It's all up to you sweetie.
August 13th, 2016 4:36pm
It's really up to you! If you think that it is causing you any type of harm, you may want to move on and find employment somewhere else.
November 13th, 2016 11:19pm
The short answer; NO! The long answer; Noooooooooooooooo! We spend so much time at work within our lives. All of that stress, negativity and anger towards a job will NOT help you in the future. You will find a new job that you will enjoy. It may seem scary to quit, but, you can find it before while you are still working.
February 26th, 2017 1:15am
I've recently had this experience and you shouldn't stick in something where your not happy, your current situation is not your final destination
June 22nd, 2017 6:19pm
Currently going through this also. I'm actively looking for work while keeping at a dead-end job, and it is DIFFICULT. 50+ applications sent out and very few responses (mostly just rejections). This is making me glad I didn't quit this job that I hate because in this unresponsive culture where the employers have the upper-hand, who knows how long I'll be looking for the next job. However in the case of abuse then of course it's probably best to leave (assuming the proper authorities have been notified first). Always keep your health and well-being as top priority! If there is no abuse/misconduct, then I advise to keep the money coming in while job-searching (as I'm doing). It's quite the self-esteem drain but let's hope in due time it will pay off.
December 20th, 2019 2:59pm
this is a very common thought these days. Many of us feel stuck in jobs we dont like but there are always some reasons like social or emotional or financial. Staying in a b that we hate, is sure to keep us in a state of constant anxiety. so it doesnt help in long run as we cant give our best productivity at job. And this is bound to be noticed and that carries a risk of getting fired sooner or later. And this constant anxiety fueled with insecurity is bound to affect not only our professional life but personal, social life too.
April 12th, 2020 4:52pm
If you hate it, can you do a good job? How does the job make you feel? What is it that makes you hate it? What makes you stay? Answer those questions to yourself and I believe you will find the answer to your question within yourself. Can you see yourself there in a year? What are your options? You will be surprised in how easy it is to make a decision if you have the answers to the questions. Make a list with pros and cons and it will become even clearer. Follow your heart and chose smart and wise.
April 16th, 2020 5:40pm
It depends on how long you have been doing this job. If it's already a long time period and the job is just giving you stress and anxiety then you better quit but If it's your beginning in the job then don't leave so early. Liking and disliking matters a lot. You perform well in the job you like but sometimes it's more important to focus on circumstances. keep a few things in your mind: 1- if you quit, how many chances are there that you'll get a job of your choice? - is there any source of income other than this job? 3- Discuss this issue with your family 4- what reasons make you hate the job? are there ways to cope with it? 5- how badly it's affecting your psychological health? 6- if escape is the strategy that you use often, then don't leave the job. best of luck for your future!
August 7th, 2016 10:19pm
Being in a job you hate is (depressingly) common. Does that mean you should hang around because, you know, everyone is in the same boat? Here's a question then: even if you were in a job you liked, would you want to do it everyday until you retired? I'm assuming here, but I would answer that by saying no, you wouldn't want to. Very, very few of us find ourselves in a role that we absolutely love and couldn't think of ever doing anything else. For the rest of us, we're hoping for a promotion, or to get on that new project, or change to another department, or get that qualification and shift to another career, or any of a myriad of other possibilities. Heck, sometimes our next career goal isn't clear, but we know we don't want to be stuck 'here' forever. So my next question then becomes: if you want to move up, move over, or move on to another role, what do you do about it? Sure, you could keep your head down, do your work, and see what pops up. Sometimes that's enough, but it's certainly no guarantee. So eventually we're motivated enough to work towards it. Motivation is the key here, and you can see where I'm going with this. You use your motivation, whether that's striving to be the best you can be at your role, seeking out opportunities to improve how you work, starting up an online course, doing night school, sending out your resumé, networking, etc. And sooner or later you'll progress to another role, wherever that may be, and however you may get there. Our motivation colours our glasses rose, puts a smile on our faces, and gives us strength and determination. So what about the original question? What if you're in a job you hate? Well, for one, you need to be asking what aspects of it make you hate it, and maybe taking specific action against anything inappropriate. Another thing is to bring it back to motivation to move on to the next stage - you might not be able to leave straight away, but come on, even in a job you'd like, eventually you would have been looking for the next opportunity. It's just that now the motivation is a lot stronger to get started. That motivation is going to get you through every day.
August 10th, 2016 5:59am
No. If you hate your job then find something you will love. I wouldn't quit right away because you need the income. But I would take the time to figure out what you love, what you want to do and find ways to make it happen
August 10th, 2016 12:44pm
If you are not happy somewhere don't put yourself through it , self care is most important. Obviously I don't know your situation but if you need the money apply for another job and just keep your head up :)
August 10th, 2016 5:28pm
It will take a lot for you to hate a job. If you do hate a job then the best thing to do initially is try to resolve the problem/issue and work out a way forward.Speak to your boss and let them know that you are considering leaving there then they can help you further.
August 10th, 2016 9:52pm
No. What would be the point or doing something if you don't enjoy if but you're not obligated to do? Unless it's necessary and you feel like you can't find an alternative.
August 13th, 2016 9:48am
First you need to answer yourself why you hate this job. Is there any reason? And what quarantee you carry it won't be same in another job. However it will be difficult to stay in job you hate. If it is only this job and you are quite confident it won't happen in another workplace, do not stay there.
August 21st, 2016 12:10am
Staying at a job that you hate will just drag you down and you will regret everyday of work. Find a job that you love and it will make everything more positive for you:)
August 21st, 2016 7:30am
You shouldn't do anything you hate. Try to find something that you enjoy going to every morning. You can search for new jobs while you continue at this place.
September 1st, 2016 3:44pm
Staying in the job you hate can be difficult but sometimes there is no choice , either due to financial reasons or others. If though you do have the option stay in your job for a little while longer but at the same time look for more appropriate jobs and go to interviews if you feel they would suit you better x
September 2nd, 2016 10:58pm
What you do is find another job before quitting the one you dislike because if you quit then you would regret it when you have to buy and pay bill etc.
September 5th, 2016 3:03pm
You should never stay or do a job you don't like. Also be happy with where you are and what you do.
September 7th, 2016 7:04pm
You should find something that would make you feel happier before leaving a secure position. But no, you should try to find the right change
September 10th, 2016 1:02am
I would stay at a job that I hate if it means putting food on the table and a roof over my head. Once you have a better job lined up, you can feel free to quit. Don't quit if you are not ready or can't pay the bills simply cause you don't like the job cause that will just end up causing you more stress.