Why do I always feel unappreciated for the work that I do?
Last Updated: 08/21/2018 at 7:16am
Deane Rain Marie, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist
I take a holistic approach in working with eating disorders, mood disorders, relationships, and the LGBTQ community. I use EMDR, Dreamwork, Stories, CBT and Cinema therapy.
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Is it you who feels that you are unappreciated or is it the people whom you look towards? If it's you, it may be that you aren't doing the work to your full potential; try your hardest and you'll succeed. (:
People probably don't see how much you've done, or value it but you've got to realise that that is their problem and NOT yours. Hence why, you need to remember to appreciate yourself and the work that you have done no matter who else forgets to, you shouldn't.
Because of the focus you put on doing this work for others, I tend to feel most satisfied for the work that i do for my own sake instead of someone else's.
I don't rely on others to give me appreciation... I give myself all the appreciation that I earn because its only you who you should ever try to impress :)
Not everyone would appreciate to the good things you have made the most important is you did your part and you feel satisfied with what you accomplish.
That can be difficult at home or at work. If its at home, perhaps talk to your family about how you are feeling. If its at work or school, perhaps talking with your teachers or supervisors about how you feel, can ease your feelings.
I am a perfectionist and i often do things in a hurry because i want to show others i can do this faster than you all. It leads to mistakes, and i get sad.
People can sometimes be so wrapped up in themselves that they don't notice the good work of others like yourself. In fact, they could be thinking to themselves, 'Why does nobody notice my good work in the world?' It's quite ironic really.
Some people tend to set expectations on things unknowingly and unintentionally. You might have set expectations on your work without you knowing.
You are the only one who can answer this question but you should reformulate it . The question you should ask yourself is "why do I need people to appreciate me for the work that I do ?".
There could be a lot of reasons for that. Some times, it may be because others don't show appreciation for the work that you do, either by downplaying it as "not good" or full on ignoring your efforts.
We all desire some reward. If we encourage each other, that reward can be delivered to others. But then we have to trust that rewards will come to us. The greatest power is the silent hero that makes someone else's life strong with courage or wisdom. This is also the most insecure position a person can take. Loving each other requires trust it will come back to you eventually. What are some ways you work without being rewarded? How many times have you appreciated those around you working? Try randomly complimenting someone. You might even feel better about yourself.
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