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Attention All 35+! Join your 24/7 Group Chat today!
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 August 31st
...See more Note: The group chat is not active atm. Update date: Jan 28, 2025.  Hello community, We are excited to announce that we are opening 35+ group chat as an exclusive 24/7 chat group, just for those of us who are 35 and over w.e.f Monday, April 22, 2024. This is a space to connect with others in your age group, share experiences, have meaningful conversations, and build a supportive community to encourage and empower each other. To ensure this group remains a safe space for everyone, the chat will be badge-locked. This means only users who have their age as 35 or over will be able to access the group chat.  Here's what makes this group special: * 24/7 access: Keep the conversation flowing, day or night! * Exclusive community: This group is badge-locked, ensuring only users 35 and over can join, fostering a space tailored to your life stage. * In-depth discussions: Dive into meaningful conversations on topics you care about. A few group chat guidelines to keep in mind: * Respectful Communication: Let's all treat each other with kindness and courtesy. * Positive Vibes: We encourage uplifting and engaging conversations. * Life Experiences: Share your wisdom, stories, and support. * Open-mindedness: Be receptive to different perspectives. * No Spam: Let's keep the chat focused and respectful. Let’s join and participate. Please spread the word to your 35+ friends and invite them to participate with you in the group chat for some supportive & meaningful conversations. 
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Weekly Prompt #1: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond?
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 July 14th
...See more Welcome to 35+ Community,  As we navigate through our 30s and beyond, life presents us with unexpected challenges and triumphs that shape our experiences and perceptions and define who we are. These years bring a unique set of experiences and test our resilience, patience and push us out of our comfort zones, and ultimately lead to personal growth. Let's explore and share some of the surprising obstacles and victories that many of us encounter during this stage of life. Question of the week: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond? Please share and discuss together. Also, you can join us in 35+ group support chats [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD] for live discussions and exploration as well.  Click here to join! [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD]
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Relationship help
by intelligentTalker6090
Last post
 April 20th
...See more Hey guys,  I have been dating this guy on and off for a couple of years in about three months ago. I had the conversation with him that we either need to push this forward or end things. When I said that he said he wanted to see me consistently so he bought my plane ticket for me to come and visit in Florida for a week as he has to be there right now for work. Things went really great and it was a really good week. He even told me that I was starting to feel like home. I told him that I know he is busy and so am I but we need to focus on consistency and we shouldn’t be going days without communicating and he agreed things were going really well for about a month after my trip to Florida and he is supposed to be coming here within a week and a half. The last couple of weeks he has not been responding to my texts and goes a week without responding. I’ve asked him if anything is wrong. He just said that he is really busy with work, but he feels the same. I have not heard back from him since Thursday and I’ve sent about six messages. He has also not confirmed that April trip, which she is supposed to be coming out in a week and a half. I feel like I’m going crazy is this him just ghosting me and trying to break it off what is happening here? 
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🌿 What Does ‘Self-Care’ Look Like for You Lately? 🌿
by elekhika
Last post
 September 30th, 2025
...See more Self-care isn’t always bubble baths and candles (though those are great too! 🛁🕯️). Sometimes, it’s as simple as getting out of bed, saying no, or making time for something you love. 💬💖 ✨ What’s one thing you’ve been doing lately to care for yourself - even if it’s just getting through the day? Let’s share ideas, support one another, and maybe even pick up a few new self-care habits. 💡🤗
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"Why Do Meaningful Connections Require So Much Guesswork?"
by BeingHuman90s
Last post
 August 14th, 2025
...See more There's a particular exhaustion that comes from interactions where clarity is treated like a luxury rather than a basic courtesy. Whether it's friendships, work relationships, or even family dynamics, why does straightforward communication feel so rare? At this stage of life, you’d think people would value: Honesty ..."I can’t commit to this right now" instead of vague maybes Respect for time ... A simple "no" rather than leaving someone in limbo Emotional maturity ...The ability to say "this isn’t working for me" without ghosting Yet so often, we’re stuck deciphering mixed signals, waiting for replies that never come, or tiptoeing around conversations that should be simple. The worst part? When you finally speak up, you’re labeled "too intense" for expecting basic transparency. We can also discuss. 1. Have you noticed this trend in non-romantic relationships too? 2. Why do you think people avoid directness, even when it would prevent hurt? 3. For those who’ve broken this cycle.. what changed?
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I need to hear from people that have made it through infidelity
by uncertainpath122624
Last post
 December 28th, 2024
...See more About 8 months ago, my husband told me he was seing someone else, it was faily new, maybe a couple of months ago, the guilt was eating him alive, he ended it, told me about it and wanted to make our marrage work. There are 20 years of a life we had built together, and while I could see the changes he was displaying during that time never in my life could I have guess that this was going on.  We did couples therapy and individual therapy for about 6 months, we both have agreed that healing from this is going to take time, lots of time, and while I feel like our marriage is going down a good path I still have doubts and trust issues And I would really like to hear from other people that have been there and that have made it, that can share their journey with me and can tell me that even though its hard there is light at the end of the tunel and that a marrige can survive this and be better than what it was before.
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Am I alone
by OGzis
Last post
 April 16th, 2024
...See more Help
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Would you rather relive any year or delete any from your life ?
by Optimisticempath
Last post
 April 8th, 2024
...See more Why ?
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What's your best life lesson?
by tommy
Last post
 April 7th, 2024
...See more Happy Wisdom Wednesday! Life is busy and we are constantly figuring out ways to improve ourselves. Arguably, the more experience we have the more wise we become. They say experience is the best teacher! What is a life lesson that you have learned through personal experience? ------------------------- This thread is part of our Cupsgiving event! Find out other ways you can get involved here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/projectsandevents/General_2421/CupsgivingMasterpost_317818/].
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Time for a New Advent-ure?
by communicativePond1728
Last post
 December 5th, 2023
...See more A lovely way for all ages to celebrate is an advent calendar (shoutout tiny for the inspo!). 🎄 Great ideas for what to put in an advent calendar in the link below. 🎁 Feel free to share if you'll be using an advent calendar and what you'll be putting in it. 🎀 https://www.lisaangel.co.uk/blog/15-advent-calendar-filler-ideas
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Are you where you thought you'd be by this age?
by victoriousblue17
Last post
 September 24th, 2023
...See more Romantic relationships, kids, housing, career...all that stuff. Are you where you thought you'd be? Have you done something you never imagined you'd end up doing? What would surprise your younger self?
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When someone screams "go away" should you?
by Clio9876
Last post
 July 9th, 2023
...See more The article below is about handling toddler tantrums. But I found it a lovely description of listening when it's hardest. And just as useful for adult relationships. https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2021/02/when-your-child-screams-go-away-should-you/ Here's my summary of the main points. When someone we love is upset, we want nothing else but to help them. But what to do when that help is thrown back at us? When someone's words or actions scream "go away", we're left feeling hurt and rejected. When they stomp off and slam a door in our faces, we’re confused. Should we stay close or do as they ask and go? You can feel caught between wanting to help and wanting to respect their autonomy and request for space. "Go away!" is usually code for "I feel so badly inside and your presence makes it impossible for me not to feel this way". The next time someone's words or actions scream "go away!", try substituting "Help! I'm a chaotic mess inside and I don't know what I'm doing!" Try to remember a time from your own childhood when you felt awful and afraid and were unable to tell an adult what was happening or what was needed. What would you have preferred to happen? Take a breath and ask yourself these questions: Am I able to really listen right now without needing the other person to be different, or for this to be over? Do I feel welcoming of these big feelings? Don't try to stay and listen if you don't have the capacity. There will be another opportunity. Remind yourself that the words and actions of the other person are not personal, but a reflection of their feelings to what they are feeling. The only thing you have to do is listen. You don't have to understand why this is happening or solve what happened. "I'm just going to sit over here and listen" "I'll give you some space, but I want you to know that I'm near." Expect things to look worse before they get better. The author suggests thinking that the more upset they get, the harder they are working to resolve difficult feelings, as a way to keep yourself calm and centered. This understanding is far from what most of us grew up with, so it can be hard to stay calm, listen openly and not to doubt yourself. But, the author finds that finding a way to stay close results in a better connection. Afterwards: "you had some big feelings and I'm so glad I was able to be near you. I'm glad I got to listen"
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Positive Self-Talk ideas
by purplelady568
Last post
 June 27th, 2023
...See more Hey there, 35+ people! How are you doing today? Today, we are going to discuss a little bit about self-talk and how we can use it to improve our lives. Self-talk is the way you talk to yourself. You can also think of it as your inner voice. You might not be aware that you're doing it, but this inner voice combines conscious thoughts with inbuilt beliefs and biases to create an internal monologue that you tell yourself throughout the day. This Healthline article explains a little more, and gives practical ideas to incorporate positive self-talk into your daily routine: https://www.healthline.com/health/positive-self-talk [https://www.healthline.com/health/positive-self-talk] You can also read this Lifehack article, with 15 tips. My favorite from this list is #4. Don't Play the Comparision Game! Life is not a race, and we can all go at our own pace. Here is a chart with some examples of how you can change negative self-talk into positive! (similar to a growth mindset) Think about it: What kind of messages do you give yourself? Are you telling yourself encouraging, positive things, or are you constantly criticizing yourself or putting yourself down in your mind? Try to think of at least ONE positive thing that you can tell yourself this week. Write it on your hand, on a sticky note, or on your bathroom mirror, and remember that YOU are valuable. You have the power to change your inner dialogue. I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments. Interested in joining the 35+ Team? Please read this post for more details [https://www.7cups.com/forum/35OverCommunity_166/35CommunityCheckIns_1118/HelpWanted35subcommunityneedsYou_295082/] Got feedback? 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Question about adults with braces (teeth)
by ReadBooks7
Last post
 June 7th, 2023
...See more Hi, I'm new to this community but not to Cups. I'm considering getting braces or Invisalign for my teeth (I never knew this could happen, but apparently teeth and the jawline can shift quite a bit sometimes as people get older). I'm not asking for advice, but I would like to know if anyone has any experience with getting braces a bit later in life, if it helped, how often you still wear a retainer, if it hurts, etc. I figure it might help me make a decision if I hear about others' experiences. Thank you so much!

Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


(Adults), Join us in the Thirty-Five & Over Room every Wednesday! 

Would you like to be added to the Tag List?  Please reply to this thread Here

Our ever-growing support team are here to help you with any questions, so feel free to send us a message :)  Interested in joining the team?  Please PM 7cups.com/@MistyMagic

Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. 

Thank you!

Community Guidelines

The following are the guidelines which are specific to the 35 & Over Community. We ask you to follow them, as well as the Forum Guidelines. Their purpose is to ensure a safe and supportive environment for everyone.

The main goal of this sub-community is to offer support and a space to share and socialize, for the 7 Cups users who are 35 years old, or older. After reaching a certain age, people have specific life concerns that might not be shared by people who don't have as much life experience.
However, age isn't a requirement to participate in our sub-community.

All Adults are welcome!


However, please understand that teens as young as 13 years old can access these forums, so please keep topics appropriate.

So please:
- Reach out for support from your member account
- Offer support as a member or listener
- Be respectful to everyone
- Add a trigger warning  [TW] if your topic needs it
- Take care of yourself
- Take care of others
- Have fun!


 

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Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


(Adults), Join us in the Thirty-Five & Over Room every Wednesday! 

Would you like to be added to the Tag List?  Please reply to this thread Here

Our ever-growing support team are here to help you with any questions, so feel free to send us a message :)  Interested in joining the team?  Please PM 7cups.com/@MistyMagic

Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. 

Thank you!