What didn’t go so well in the last weeks and how would you handle it next time?
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@amiablePeace77
What didn’t go so well in the last weeks and how would you handle it next time?
I have people who stop by the shop unannounced to me and expect me to drop what I am doing and chit chat with them. Now I have told everyone when my door is closed and can be seen from the waiting room means I am not interestged in chatting. sad but when I work I am not there to chat ,
@pamharley003
You set boundaries! 👍
@amiablePeace77 not last Tuesday but the Tuesday before my appendix burst and I was rushed into hospital for surgery 🙁 next time I get new or extra pains I need to pay attention to where they are coming from
@Tinywhisper11
omg I’m so sorry and wish I can be there with you bc I really wanna be there next to you. How are you feeling now? Any better?
Sending you big friendly hugs filled with endless love and prayers for you while you go through this situation and the recovery. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@akunknown awww thanks sweetie 💖 I'm back home now and recovering well 💖 being spoilt with lots of icecream😋 hugs you tightly 💖 I wish you were here to hug too 💗
@Tinywhisper11
You love ice cream so since you’re being spoilt with it, that’s one good thing, probably the only good thing out of this whole entire situation
@akunknown 😋😋
@Tinywhisper11. Sending lots of ice cream 🍨. I hope that you will be feeling better soon.
@adventurousBranch3786 💖💖 thankyou💖💖
@Tinywhisper11
Seeeeeee there's utter strength and immense power right there with Whisper! I can never tell you how much you are strong and you should never ever forget this Dear! I'm so so grateful to have met Whisper here! And her power radiates wide and giant! I loveee youuuuu Darling and I pray for your well being! Get well soon please and give your presence here soon, I'm missing you a lot💖Just don't forget that your people are always there for you, waiting to give you all the love!
@resilience2025 awww thanks sweetie 💖 I'm recovering well and trying to be here when I'm well enough 💖 hugs you tightly 💖
@Tinywhisper11
@amiablePeace77
What didn’t go so well in the last weeks and how would you handle it next time?
@akunknown
Sounds like a good way to handle the situation!
@amiablePeace77 It’s a long story, but to try and make it short as possible. I told my kids dad I was upset because he’s not letting them go to a church summer camp this year that they’ve been going to. He left the church because his new wife didn’t like it, and they have been slowly restricting the kids from more and more things that they liked and were providing them stability for so long. Since I told him I was disappointed that they’re changing our agreements, the step-mom decided to text me and tell me off, putting down my faith, telling me I’m not going to heaven because of it, that she won’t support my kids in my faith, just unnecessary horrible things. They couldn’t just quietly disagree, they’re going the extra step to tell my kids my faith is wrong. I wrote up a reply, but decided not to send it, that not responding was the best way. Apparently, at some point after that she blocked me. Then, a couple days ago my son had a seizure while in her care. At the hospital I decided to be the bigger person and send her a message thanking her, and that’s when I learned that she blocked me. So in an emergency when they’re visiting them, I need to wait for her to get a hold of their dad and for him to tell me, and hope that all happens quickly so I can get to the hospital. Sometimes he doesn’t answer at work. I’m trying not to worry too much about it. I did find out today it sounds like he talked to her about unblocking me, and she agreed to, only for emergencies. Part of me had to laugh in exasperation, that she went so far out of her way to do and say so much, and I could have blocked her but she did instead.
@PiecesOfWhoeverIWas
I hope your son is better now. You did well in not reacting by blocking her, sorry though she felt compelled to do it. Coparenting can be quite challenging and to me needs clear communication between all parties so that the child does not suffer. Have you considered to suggest a meeting with them to hear how they feel about the whole situation whilst also explaining your point of view? Setting up some guidelines might be beneficial, so everyone knows what to do when.
@amiablePeace77 Thank you. ❤️
We have done those kinds of meetings before. I guess that’s why it shocked me so much, I thought we had a really balanced situation for everyone. I remember when they first got married she felt pressured to go to church there or convert for some reason, and I listened and told her she didn’t have to. They’d go to both churches, and I thought that was fine. I always felt really blessed that we had a good blended family. I’m learning now that she didn’t like meeting in the middle and just wanted to be done. I can understand that in a way. I guess she thought she was ok with it at the time. But they have been fighting about it for a while. It’s unfortunate. Blended family situations come with a lot. Like you said, things should be made the least stressful as possible for the kids. I’ve been on the opposite end of that and really never thought twice about going against what agreements the parents had previously. I just found a way to work around it to be comfortable.
My son is doing alright. He is still sore, which they said is normal. We are setting him up for an MRI though, because through some phone calls his dad just found out about a history of brain tumors on his side of the family. I’m trying not to put the cart before the horse. 😬🙏
Thank you again for talking with me.
@PiecesOfWhoeverIWas
Sometimes the only way is to work around things. I hope it will be alright for you so that you can find peace as well!
Sending healing beams for your son!
The last week didn't go as good as I thought it would go. I wanted to complete my notes, but due to lack of boundaries, I was distracted by the people around me.
How can I improve next time? I can focus more doing my tasks individually instead of as a group. This will help me stay focused on my tasks.
@amiablePeace77
Medical adventures are handled as best as one can. There is a "next time" in my future as I will probably return to chemotherapy after 10 years when I just spent 2 weeks at the hospital with meningitis last month. My mood is not bad. I am confident too. Also, I have finally been approved for medical taxi, which is a relief, since the hospital is a 45-mn drive away and I do not yet trust myself again behind the wheel. 😀
What didn’t go so well in the last weeks and how would you handle it next time?
@Fradiga
Sorry to hear about your meningitis. I hope you recovered well. Not waiting too long makes sense! Glad you got the medical taxi! 45 min. driving can be draining!
@amiablePeace77
What didn’t go so well in the last weeks and how would you handle it next time?
My health hasn't been okay. I'm struggling with my productivity levels. I might get the long pending tests done and see what's wrong with me.
@amiablePeace77
I didn't think it odd I hadn't seen my friend in a little while. We lived together so we usually see each other day. Now he's gone and I feel like I could have been there for him. I think it was a seizure that took him in the end, but I don't know how long he was just... there.
I will try to be more mindful, more aware. Notice the odd, even if it's only small. Remember that routines don't suddenly change without reason.
@cyanessence
I am so sorry for your loss! It must have come as a shock hearing that your friend has passed. I so agree with you about being mindful of sudden changes with people especially the ones we're close to.
@amiablePeace77
I experienced failure in something I had given in myself and everything. Despite giving my 100% around everything I could make out of my situations, it did not turn into the expected outcome. I was broken and stood silent not wanting to do anything. But then somehow, life builds you back, tells you to get up again and reflect! I'm much better now and I'm planning to write a forum post on this! Thankyou for the prompt Ami💙
@resilience2025
So glad to hear that you feel better now! Sometimes things just do not work out as we want but then again other doors open. Look forward to reading your post about it!
@amiablePeace77
Thankyou for your humble words Ami🫂💙
I have real bad anxious attachment style and speration anxiety so when my fiance goes to do things with his friends I tend to feel it strong. Well this month/part of last month has been the hardest for me and I feel the worst because I should feel this bad when im alone. Been trying my best to learn new ways to cope and figure out why I am like this. He had a event coming this Saturday and I hope to do better this time around with my attachment styles.
@CuddleWuddler2000
Our attachment styles can have a deep impact on how we respond to situations. Sorry to hear that you are having difficulties with your attachment style. It might help to talk about it with a listener or with one of the therapists here if that's what you want.