Will I always remain quiet and shy?

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WarmBeauty46
June 11th, 2015 8:11pm
In a Short answer, No. I have always been the quiet and shy one in my life, but I have found that as my self esteem gets higher, your quietness and shiness will adjust.
snugglyCaringKitty
September 8th, 2015 4:20am
If that is what you want! It's not a bad thing to be, If you want to be more outgoing however I would suggest joining clubs or participating in upcoming social events.
YourePerfectDarling
April 7th, 2015 8:29pm
no my dear, if there is a will there is a way. Once you finally decide that you are 100% fed up with being shy, you will start to step out of your comfort zone slowly. You just gotta believe in yourself :), and remember we listeners are here to support you x
soundsculptor
September 1st, 2015 1:01pm
Some people are naturally extroverts while others are introverts. Some shyness therefore comes from your personality. If it's starting to become a problem in your daily life, there are ways to cope and to change.
LightSpark89
March 2nd, 2015 8:50pm
That depends on whether or not you choose to go out of your comfort zone. If we want to experience something new then we must try something different. I was always quiet growing up because my mother never liked too much noise, but as I got older all that changed and it feels good having gone out of my comfort zone, living life, making mistakes, getting in trouble, realizing who i was, and who i wanted to be and figuring out ways of how i could get there. It's never easy, but it gets easier..
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2015 4:07am
It's up to you. I know some people that remained shy all their life, while others have bloomed into social butterflies. It's your life to live, and you get to choose how you wish to live it.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2015 8:18pm
No I will not always remain quiet and shy. One day there will be REAL ME out and of course.. I will shine and dance.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2015 12:53am
it's depends on yourself you want change or not, it's not bad to be quite and shy but too quite and shy is bad
Brittneym101
July 12th, 2015 3:46pm
It's different for everyone. I was and kinda still am a very quiet and shy individual. I've always been that way. I will open up if I'm comfortable around you and once I get to know you. I was known as the quiet and shy girl at all through school and even now as an adult and that's because I wasn't comfortable with myself. As more time passed by, I learned to open up and come out of my nut shell. It just took the right people to help me do so and to be honest my boyfriend of almost 5 years helped me overcome a lot including my shyness. It may take you just a little more time. I can't say that it will happen for you in the way that it did for me, but it's possible.
cannoninvienna
August 17th, 2015 6:13am
Possibly, but remind yourself that it is okay to be a more reserved person. Being quiet and shy is sometimes a good thing, so try to think about the positive side of things. You are who you are; embrace it and accept it!
JHakuro
April 11th, 2017 10:31pm
That's entirely on you! Being quiet or boisterous; welcoming or shy, these are just traits that encompass you. It's endearing to be shy, it shows a person who can really look into themselves and by proxy others around them to make others comfortable. And to be quiet is such a rare trait, to listen and to learn without injecting yourself as the center of every conversation is admirable. Whatever path you take, choose the one that makes you grow in better ways.
PaxImperia
March 26th, 2018 6:07am
While there's nothing wrong with being quiet and shy, you can take an active role in becoming more outgoing and social if that is something you would like to do.
blissfulCupcake
November 10th, 2015 12:09pm
No it just takes time to build on your confidence you work at it in your own pace and then you'll see how your confidence begins to shine
Anonymous
November 14th, 2015 6:31pm
There's a good chance you will always be quiet and shy. If you don't like that, only you can do something about it.
GentleHelix
November 16th, 2015 1:29pm
First of all there is nothing wrong with being quiet and shy, if however it makes you uncomfortable at times you can always try to start treading out of your comfort zone one step at a time. A change in personality is hard and takes effort, but the fruits of your effort will last.
Bobcott
December 22nd, 2015 4:55am
I think this depends on the actions and procedures you take. If you choose to do nothing about your quietness and shyness, I do not think there will be much improvement. If you, however, work on your weaknesses and take initiative, you will most definitely feel better regarding this matter. I used to be quiet and shy, but after going to a speech and debate camp (thanks mom) I felt a drastic improvement in my confidence and public speaking. This may not help everyone, but it certainly worked for me ;)
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 6:45pm
If you are naturally a quieter more shy person , you may always have a tendency to be that way . Depending on circumstances though , ones behaviour can change a lot over time . It would depend on whether or not you're happy with the way you are at the moment . If so that's awesome , if not and you would like to be more outgoing , that's also awesome . Although you may have a tendency to shyness , with time and by challenging yourself to small goals you can definitely become more outgoing
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2016 9:39pm
No. Not if you choose to not be. You can BE anything you WANT. You are your own person. If you want to change then simply change. I use to be that shy girl and when I grew out of it, because I couldn't take the way people were, people were actually proud of me.
IBelieveInYouHannahh
January 5th, 2016 4:56am
That question is up to you. You can remain quiet and shy if you don't try to overcome it. I'm currently struggling with social anxiety for seven years and I'm still working towards being more social. It might take some time but if you really want it. you have to go for it.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2016 3:43am
I've noticed that as we grow up, we learn to grow out of that. This is because as adults, we can't not speak up. If we don't speak up, we'll get walked over, and naturally, becoming louder and in turn, more confident, is natural. A lot of shyness also comes from self esteem. As adults, we soon only have to rely on ourselves. Everyone changes as they grow up. You will, too. Short answer is - No, you won't remain shy and quiet.
deafeningSilence27
February 13th, 2017 1:39am
First, there is nothing bad about being the way you are. Being loud and confident isn't bad either. There is good in everything. Second, if you really don't want to be, you can easily change, with dedication.
TessaKeane
September 25th, 2017 6:24pm
No, you will not. It's a high and low, actually. One day you might feel very good about yourself and be energetic and more outgoing than usual. On others you may feel tired or just like you don't want to talk to or interact with anyone. Self esteem grows and shrinks with all experiences you've made and challenges you've mastered.
Elliott13
October 10th, 2017 10:37pm
Not necessarily! We, as humans, grow and change a lot over time, and we are always capable of reshaping ourselves as we move through our lives. It might not be easy to overcome being shy and quiet, but it's certainly not a fixed personality trait that never has the capability of changing. If you can, push yourself to be a little more outgoing every time you're in a group setting. If you think you're not the kind of person who would go to an event, try going to it and proving yourself wrong. Once you surprise yourself once, you know that you can surprise yourself again and again.
halseyblue08
November 27th, 2017 6:54pm
There is nothing wrong with being quiet or shy. Quiet, introspective thinkers are so incredibly wonderful and beautiful. You don't have to change yourself into anything. But generally speaking, people come out of a lot of their quiet/shyness as they age and become more comfortable in their environments.
Dawn04
April 2nd, 2018 12:58am
It depends on if you wish to be. It takes a lot of time and effort to break out of your shell and be more open, but it is possible.
SuperSandi
July 10th, 2018 1:57pm
That's up to you and the reasokning behind being quiet and shy. I'm always quiet and shy around people I just meet, once I get confortable... it's hard for me to stay quiet. Haha. So it just depends..