How can I get what I need from my doctor?

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How can I get what I need from my doctor?
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Anonymous
July 15th, 2016 2:11pm
It depends on what you actually need. If you want some medication, maybe you wouldn't be able to get it because your doctor knows better than you what should you drink or no. If it's about psychotherapy, like you may want CBT or similar, you can recommend it to your doctor and tell him/her what you actually want. You can't get anything if you don't talk about what you want. So, just a conversation about it can change things. But this is anxiety Q&A so you're maybe asking this because you're scared and don't know how to tell them what you want. I can recommend writing it on paper and just giving your doctor that. It may be really, really hard, but if you don't try you logically won't get what you want. Fight for it. Fight for your health. You deserve it.
Anonymous
October 18th, 2016 1:46pm
You can get what you need from your doctor by asking for help Tell him or her about your problem then the doctor will give what you need
Anonymous
October 22nd, 2016 7:54am
Tell your doctor exactly, specifically, which prescription or surgery you think you need, why you physically/mentally need it (ie: prescribed it in the past, knee aches constantly, read a lot of studies that show...), and why you feel/think you should be prescribed it (friends say it helps, I saw a commercial, I'm grasping at straws, I've tried everything else, &c, &c). If they still refuse, ask them "Why do you think I don't need this?" and keep an open mind. They are a professional and their opinion should be respected. If you are still adamant, there is no shame in seeking a second opinion at another doctor office.
MimiBliss
March 15th, 2017 11:19pm
By being honest, open, straightforward with the doctor, remember, they are there to help you with it
WalrusWasPaul
March 31st, 2017 3:16am
The best way to get the most out of any doctor, you have to become your own advocate. Research your condition and treatment options. Talk to them openly and honestly and be yourself.
imsandeep
July 15th, 2016 3:44pm
initially know yourself what you really need from a doctor and don't hide anything from the doctor.follow his advice
Owen27
July 15th, 2016 10:25pm
Whenever I used to enter my doctors surgery my mind used to go blank and I'd come out remembering all those problems I'd forgotten about which still hadn't been resolved. Perhaps something so simple as writing a list to go into the doctors room with can help you achieve communicating successfully with your doctor. Being honest and open also helps massively, remember that doctors are human too and that they're there to help you, you're not an inconvenience to them.
Dawn04
October 7th, 2016 7:25pm
By being open and honest with your doctor and unafraid to get a second opinion if that is what it takes.
Adaptiveperspectives
June 10th, 2017 12:10am
Be truthful. And realistic. Many don't release that doctors have a heavy weight over their head that can drop heavily on them, and if they actually care on you. You also need to know yourself and best describe symptoms, what you've tried and if the door is cracked what you think might work. But that last part is most of what weighs heavily on a doctor. They might be apprehensive depending on what you ask for.
Robinzoo
May 5th, 2018 3:25pm
The best way is to explain your situation for them, what you expected from them. If it would be resonable and legit, i'm sure they will help you with what you need.
Mia1602
July 26th, 2018 9:28pm
A doctor is a professional but what you have to understand is everybody is different, this person will work with many people a day. To get what you need from a doctor you must be 100% honest and give as much detail as you can as to why you are have come to them seeking help so they can get you to the right place and treatement you need.
Anonymous
September 20th, 2018 10:57pm
Remember that Doctors are just people with excellent educations. They have good days and bad days, are overworked, have troubles at home, etc. So, when i want to be sure that I tell the Doc Everything that is on my mind, i often write it down; either in a list, or a letter, and i make a separate page for their answers, so i don't have to wonder later what they said. There is typically a lot of stress in the Doctor's office, so much going on, so many questions, that I often forget something if i don't have written notes. Also, you can be sure that you brought this to your Doctor's attention (make them a copy of your list or letter for their file~!), and that you understood their reply.
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2018 3:51pm
Be clear in symphoms. Even he ask you some of them, and yet you dont feel having them, dont say yes only because you think it will be that. He is asking particulary questions to make some differences. No matter what your age, gender, or position, you are the weaker sex in the doctor's office. The whole operation reeks of inequity. You're naked under a paper sheet, he's dressed. You call him "doctor," he calls you by your first name. You speak English, he wields a technical vocabulary that's impenetrable to all but those of his own tribe. You have the power to take your business elsewhere, he has power over sickness and health. We want to trust our doctors and believe they are superb at what they do. The alternative is too unnerving to consider. Yet the thriving medical malpractice industry proves that our doctors don't always deserve our devotion. Sometimes they disappoint us, endanger us, treat us like children, and ignore our input. Or do they? Maybe the problem is with us. Maybe we just don't know how to talk to them. Whoever is to blame for the miscommunication, both sides pay dearly in health and money: 70 percent of all medical malpractice suits are filed not because of technical negligence but because the patient misunderstood the doctor. First, consider your doctor's mission: to heal you. If he can do it, he is a success. If he cannot, he thinks he is a failure—and doctors hate to fail. You may feel powerless in his presence, but in fact his self-esteem depends on you. Will you heed his advice or ignore it? Will you refuse his treatment? Lie to him about your symptoms? Snub him for another doctor? Occasionally, even if you follow the doctor's instructions, you won't get well. His skills will fail you. This is a doctor's greatest fear and a source of constant anxiety.
neonstars1881
July 13th, 2016 6:58pm
be honest. explain the situation and listen to what he or she has to say. he isnt just there to give you drugs, he wants to help you too.
NumberEleven
July 14th, 2016 4:29pm
By telling your doctor exactly what you're going through, in terms of physical symptoms as well as mental symptoms.
Naturallyhappy00
July 15th, 2016 2:40am
Sit down and be honest with your doctor about everything going on with you and tell them that you're in need of something and they should help you get it or recommended you to do something
HopieRemi
July 16th, 2016 7:25pm
You can let your doctor know what you need. Tell your doctor everything that is going on so your doctor can best support you.
Anonymous
July 17th, 2016 6:00pm
I think a good way to get what you need is to ask. Sometimes it can be hard to ask questions, especially if they're personal, but your doctor is there to help you and make sure that all of your health care needs are met.
uniqueMango45
July 20th, 2016 2:32am
Talk to them up front and if you have any particular questions or suggestions, then be honest. Omitting important stuff is just as damning as the problem itself.
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2016 7:57am
Open up to your doctor and tell them how you are feeling. Honesty will allow them to determine and help you get the help you need.
Timetomoveon
July 27th, 2016 1:13am
Be specific on what you're trying to address and what is making you suffer the most, only then you'll find an answer to the problem
Junghwa
July 28th, 2016 2:00pm
Alot of times when I want to talk to my doctor about problems I have, I usually write down everything I want to say. I do this because I tend to forget alot of things, so by writing everything down, I'm sure that I have said everything that I wanted to say and hope the doctor will find the appropriate solution for my problem.
Anonymous
July 29th, 2016 12:01am
Being very clear about what is the problem and what you want. Just telling the truth and not forgetting to mention anything related to what you want.
Oreo
July 30th, 2016 8:45pm
Be open with them. Sometimes having to report your problems and concerns to a professional may seem intimidating, but having an open communication about what you expect and the type of results you want can give the doctor a way to give you the proper care and advice.
superpoppy14
July 31st, 2016 9:03pm
Be straight forward and don't let them belittle your problems. If you have a health issue that you need resolved, tell them the issue and be persistent until they offer you some kind of solution. You have a right to health care.
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2016 1:24pm
One way to make sure you get all the answers/opinions is to write down your questions/concerns on paper in advance. That way you can be sure you won't forget to ask something during your appointment.
BiBiLSSD
August 6th, 2016 9:23pm
Talk to your doctor honestly and tell them what exactly is the problem. By building a bridge of trust between you and your GP, you could get far more from your doctor!
Anonymous
August 7th, 2016 4:32am
Try to have an open conversation with your doctor. Sometimes doctors will even be open to suggestions you have about your care. In my experience, it is best to only bring one issue to a doctor at a time, though. This will be considered the chief complaint and the doctor will focus on that at your visit. Communication is the most important part of the doctor/patient relationship. So tell your doctor everything and be open to listening.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2016 7:53am
It can be helpful to think about what you want to say, and write it down ahead of time. This way, you can clearly express what you need. Remember, your doctor relies a lot on the information you give them, so the more you can tell them, the more they'll be able to help you. Don't be afraid to tell them exactly what you expect, or what you need.
scotty4947
August 17th, 2016 4:19am
Talk to your doctor about all the problems you're having. If they feel as though you need it, they will prescribe it to you. If they don't think you need it, they won't give it to you. And, if that happens, you need to respect their decision.