A family member thinks I am lying about where I am going but I'm not, what should I do?
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Earn their trust, tell them where you are going and if they don't believe you, you can tell them whith who you're going and give them the number of that person so they can call you there and you can prove you're with them. Also, send them a picture if necessary. Do bring your phone with you so they can communicate with you if you have one.
If you're not lying then there's nothing to be afraid of go where you would like to go you're doing nothing wrong at all.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2016 4:48am
I know that feeling. Once, I even had to take a photo of where I was just to get them to believe me. Maybe you could ask them to tag along if you want them to. But if you don't, you could tell them where you're going and if they don't believe you, that's their problem.
Anonymous
December 7th, 2018 3:58pm
If a family member thinks you are lying about where you are going, then you probably have given them a reason to not trust where you are going. Allow your family member to stay in contact with you and always check in to reassure your safety. Family members do care, but they also know what it is like being younger to run off and do things that they are not supposed to be doing or lying about where they are going. Do not take it the wrong way or get upset about it, they truly care about you. If there are guardians or if they know a friend and trust that friend you are with, then the trust shall increase over time.
I am sorry you have a family member accusing you of lying, it can be upsetting when people close to us don't trust us or think that we are probably doing something wrong, when in the first place we're not and being honest about everything. So maybe ask the member what is making them feel that you're lying ? , and then depending on how they answer, tell them you're telling the truth and it's hurtful how they are still doubting on you...assure them, that they can trust you and you value them believing in you and wouldn't want to do anything otherwise. Maybe that could help them feel understood 💛
Anonymous
November 9th, 2016 1:16pm
If you have any way to prove where you are going, that would be a good idea. I also think you should have a family talk with them so they understand more if you explain it calmly. I feel like maybe a tone could change their thoughts. Trust has a massive role in this, try and get it between you and your family! :)
Remain calm. When you are accused of something, especially if you are telling the truth, your first reaction may be to get angry or defensive. Getting overly excited or frustrated, while a fair response to an accusation, can actually make the other person believe the accusation is true.When it's clear that you cannot convince this person of your honesty, ask for more information about why she seems to distrust you. Equipped with this information you can strive to be more trustworthy in the future.
Whoever holds the truth should never be worried. You should just act naturally and stop worrying and if that family members insists just confront him politely and talk about his doubts clearly
If that family member is not among your parents then make them believe that you are ture to your words, infront of that family member who doesnt believe you. If among them then seek help from either of the two.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2018 2:40am
Ignore them, you know you're telling the truth. If they are important to you the would trust and believe you
I know how you must have been feeling if the person whom you are connected to wouldn't trust you. You can do everything in your power to communicate better and maybe prove it to the said member and find out where if there ever was, any kind of communication gap. But, in the end, all you can do is try. You cannot expect them to trust you. You are gonna have to accept that. Make peace with it.
Accept that the family member is not trusting you as of now. Try to earn their trust, and if the person still doesn't trust you, then you have done all you can.
Good luck
Maybe you could add a tracking device to your phone and have them know that you are doing to right thing. There are plenty of apps for this!
Talk to them about the situation. If you're meeting someone, they can prove it and show the family member that you're not lying.
I would ask them why they don't trust you, then work on building up the trust between you and the other person.
Just ask him/her why she/he thinks that you're lying and try to figure it out together. Tell him/her that you're not lying and that you have nothing to lie about.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2016 5:26pm
I should tell them again, patiently and with respect. Let them know afterwards that I was really there by asking my friends to talk about it too.
Try to talk to them why don't they trust you and ask them if you could work on it - keep them updated where you are, call them more, send texts.. Simply try to make them believe you.
Anonymous
July 20th, 2016 6:48am
I recall being in a situation like this before, something stupid like who spilled a slushie, cleaned it up, and hid it. I was the prime suspect because I was the one cooking in the kitchen, but I didn't do it. I looked my mom straight in the eye, fixed my posture, put on my most monotone voice, and said: "Mother, I told you I didn't do that. If you don't mind I'll be leaving now."
Anonymous
July 20th, 2016 7:08am
Tell them that this bothers you. Don't keep it in because if you do, it'll create resentment. You don't want to resent someone you care about.
Anonymous
July 20th, 2016 10:24am
Simple. Use technology. Send a selfie wherever you go and who you are with. Share location if you must,
Make it very clear and tell them that you really aren't lying about where you're going. Perhaps ask them to come with you to see for themselves. Remember that their suspicion says a lot more about themselves than it does about you. They should really trust you, but then again they may just be looking out for you, even if it doesn't feel like that.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2016 8:34pm
Tell them the truth, ask them to join you so they can see for themselves or take pictures as some sort of 'evidence'.. Most of all, don't care about what they say, let them think what they want.
I think you should reassure your family member about were your going ask them tp perhaps take you to were your going or speak to somebody at the location to verify your location you can also get tracking apps on your phone
It's hard when you feel like a family member doesn't trust your word. And to make it even harder, there's absolutely nothing you can do about it. Not a thing. You know what you're doing. You know where you're going. You know you're telling the truth. And that's really all you can do.
You should give the family member details and facts about the place you are going to. I think talking it out with them would be good.
You can install a tracking GPS on your phone for them to use whenever you're going out somewhere. They can tell where you've been and keep everything going smoothly.
You should try talking to him about it and make him understand that you're stating the truth. Even then too, if he doesn't understand, then its not your liability. You are not responsible for peoples' perceptions if you aren't guilty for the same.
Well show the proof where your going call them every hour or to let them know what your doing.
Have you lied to them in the same question before? Do they know your friends? Do they like your friends? There may be some things that triggered them not to believe in you that fast. You should ask yourself and then ask them why they won't believe you. Communication and proper conversation do the magic sometimes.
If a family member thanks that you're lying about where you are going, but you're in fact telling the truth, maybe ask them to come with you, take a picture of where you are. Give the number of the location that you're going to be at and they can call and ask if you're there or ask them to follow you.
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