Any suggestions for how I can be a good friend for someone who has anxiety and panic attacks?

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Last Updated: 05/28/2019 at 3:17pm
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Anonymous
November 28th, 2017 12:31am
In this situation, I would comfort the friend and offer helpful suggestions to improve their anxiety.
Anonymous
November 28th, 2017 11:53am
Learn a few grounding techniques you can use to stop them from spiraling further or even calm them. Learn a few simple breathing excercises too. These aren't a lot of work. Grounding can be asking them to name every red object around them. Something that takes their attention but isn't too hard. Another good way is to establish eye contact if you can. As for breathing, my go to is 4sec inhale, 3 sec hold, 7sec exhale. And of course, take them seriously, listen, and know that they can't control their attacks.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2018 11:21am
Just be there for them, even if what they need is space during the attack. Remember there's no off-switch for anxiety and it's something they have to live with daily.
Anonymous
May 1st, 2018 3:34pm
just let them know that you are always there for them no matter how stupid it may sound or be just always be there and support them thru there hard times. i also recommend looking up some grounding techniques for during there panic attacks just to help bring them back to the moment
SamTheBeardGuy
July 9th, 2018 3:03pm
You have to be patient. You already understood that it's not their fault for the anxiety and panic attacks, so being patient and accepting their behaviour and their fears is the most important thing. Be supportive and always try to be there for them!
Anonymous
November 6th, 2018 7:58am
You can be a good friend for someone who has anxiety and panic attacks by listening to what they have to say and being their for them.They need someone to know that it will be okay and that it won't be as bad as they think it will be.You can just hang out with them and listen to what they have to say or just hug them.You could also get them flowers if they are having a bad day or their favorite food or ask them what would make them feel better in their time of need.All a person wants with anxiety and panic attacks is someone to be there for them.
Anonymous
May 28th, 2019 3:17pm
Show empathy, sympathy and listen. You do not have to have solutions, just being there is more than often enough. Do not act like you know what they are going through, ask them what you can do for them specifically, and let them know that you are there for them. If you can, relate to them, but do not make the situation about you, just let them know that they are not alone in this, other people experience the same type of emotions, they are not strange or weird for having a hard time doing certain things. Be a friend, be understanding.