Are people talking about me behind my back?

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Last Updated: 11/08/2016 at 2:54pm
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therapinto
March 5th, 2015 8:05pm
Nope. People who talk behind the back are the same people who comment below Youtube videos having magical number of views. They don't even matter. Chill.
MaeveTheBrave
October 3rd, 2016 4:31am
While I don't know the context behind this question or the situation you're in, my default answer would have to be no. And I say my "default answer" because I think that a large percentage of the time that people ask themselves this question, the answer is usually no. This feeling of paranoia or anxiety can be easily cultivated, and many people experience this type of overly-suspicious feeling, but it's important to remember that the world isn't out to get you. Most people are generally only concerned about themselves and what they say or do or look/act like. Most people are not purposely trying to go out of their way to harm you or speak badly about you. People just do things for themselves (generally speaking/on a day-to-day basis), and tend to focus on interesting, exciting, or different things. So, if anything, if people are talking about you "behind your back", I think there is little to no reason to assume it's anything malicious.
iAmSecretErlene
April 4th, 2015 12:38am
Honestly I have always thought nobody is talking behind my back but people do actually talk behind my back, yeah it may be easy to ignore but hearing it all the time is very horrible and it give anxiety all the time. Like I really cant say it in words but thats how I see it all the time.
mariamsalem
November 8th, 2016 2:54pm
I've come to the realization that it is completely normal to some times feel as if people are talking about you behind your back. Personally, I usually feel that while walking through a crowded area. It may or may not be true, but either ways it doesn't matter because the opinions of others are not a topic which should worry me.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2015 3:51pm
Do you find yourself interrupting whispered conversations? Is the person avoiding to talk to you? You need to find proof before you make your next move.
Tuesdayismyname
July 27th, 2015 3:30pm
They probably are, but they are behind you for a reason. Your better than that so just forget about them and be yourself❤️You are an amazing and unique person and you shouldn't need to worry about the haters!
playfulMango43
August 4th, 2015 11:10am
What does it matter if they are? If they are it simply means you are your own person who isn't liked by people because you have a strong personality. Focus on the good and you will be happy
Anonymous
May 18th, 2015 12:07am
It may feel like they are but only 15 % of the people in the word may talk behind your back. Its mainly if your handicapped, sexuality, or acting in a negate way.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2015 6:09pm
Yes, and it was my best friend. I thought she was my best friend, until she grew apart from me. We didn't end well.
Anonymous
January 4th, 2016 3:03pm
Probably. The question is, however, are they speaking about you in positive or negative ways? That cannot be answered without full knowledge of the situation.
HopefulJasmin
March 7th, 2016 11:56pm
They arent and if they are you should find better people to surround yourself with who wont talk about you behind your back!:)
seventyninedays
March 29th, 2016 12:00pm
I suppose what matters more than that is, why would it bother you? No matter what you do throughout life, someone, somewhere, is going to have a problem and its a sad but true issue we all have to deal with at some point! So if they are, just think - what can I do to make this issue go away?