Why do I feel everybody else in this world better than myself and get anxious?

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Last Updated: 08/21/2018 at 9:39pm
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Anonymous
August 8th, 2016 7:22am
Because you compare yourself with others.. we all have different capacities, capabilities and qualities.. no one is like other person.. we all are different. The things you could do, no one could. And if you'd keep comparing yourself with others.. you won't be able to take a step further in your life..because you would waste the person who you're in being who you are not. Try to think about yourself.. try to do things you like.. never care about the world.
PoetaSinVersos
April 7th, 2015 12:47am
It is called low-self-esteem and it is not as rare as you might think. In fact, I study schoolteaching for elementary school, and I can assure you that we were taught about self-esteem and its causes. It could have been caused for some traumas of your childhood or even for not getting enough appreciation of your relatives and acquantainces. Just keep on trying, work little by little by showing off your work and your true self, and eventually you will overcome the anxiety. You are not alone, little one.
Anonymous
June 4th, 2015 7:57am
It's easy to get caught up comparing yourself to others, but no one is better than you, just as you are no better than anyone else, we are all equal. Comparing yourself to others is dangerous as one often over looks other people's imperfections, while only seeing our own imperfections. We don't know what challenges each person is facing, and what's going on behind the scenes. All we know is the the journey we ourselves are on, and how far we have come. To quote the sunscreen song: "Don't waste your time with jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long, and in the end, it's only with yourself" .
courageousJoy86
April 3rd, 2018 8:59pm
This is just an impression. Everyone is struggling in one way or the other. They just overcame more, perhaps. Please don't get anxious, don't live under the impression that you have to accomplish certain things to be valuable and loved, don't compare yourself to other people. Know that you are enough and unique. And always, always do your best
AmyCath
October 10th, 2017 7:48pm
Everyone has self-doubts and normally they happen frequently. You should try and remember that you are amazing, You should never try to be anyone else because who you are is perfect.
CaringJoy
February 8th, 2016 8:48pm
Having a low self image, low self worth and comparing ourselves to others makes us feel like we're not good enough. These are symptoms of Atelophobia which is fear of not feeling good enough.
Geveda
March 3rd, 2015 1:40am
Everyone is their own worst critic. Don't over think things though. There are going to be some people who do some things better then you, but you are the best you that you can be, and that's all that matters!
ArtChoosestheArtist
March 4th, 2015 8:22am
Often times we think other people are better than we are, because we've been told that somewhere in our past. To begin letting go of the past, and of people who make us feel anything less than human, is a good step in the right direction. I personally had to let go of many people, and to walk forward with the intentions to find people with positive mindsets in order to achieve a feeling of peace.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2015 6:23pm
Maybe because you're comparing yourself to others. one thing that my mentor keeps on telling me is that never compare yourself to anyone. Because if you do so, you might just boast or feel full of yourself or might come to a point of self pity. Do not be anxious about anything :)
Anonymous
June 1st, 2015 11:25pm
Everyone looks down on themselves, considers themselves scum of the earth. Guess what, though? So does that super pretty popular girl over there, and so does that celebrity, and so does that attractive football jock. Cockiness and arrogance can hide the worst of personality flaws.
Anonymous
August 31st, 2015 7:27am
Because it's natural to compare ourselves to others. Because sometimes, we convince ourselves that we are inferior to others. Never, never think that you are. You are valid, unique, worthwhile, and wonderful for exactly who you are.
nlpinspiration
June 6th, 2016 8:21am
This situation is because you are comparing different experiences. It is not possible everyone to have same experience. for example you may not be showing good working results but you have strong family relationship. So when you are comparing yourself to someone who has good working skills, than you are feeling anxious, but the same person maybe do not have good family relationship.
Anonymous
August 21st, 2018 9:39pm
You are perfect, don’t compare yourself to others. You are your own person and can only be the best you can be. I understand how you feel, it’s hard to not compare yourself to others around you, but it gets easier. Talk to us at 7 cups each individual listener can help you overcome and be there for you through all the hard parts your experiencing. Feeling anxious is a normal thing and you can do it you can get through it for sure. Your perfect in your very own way. You are not alone, I promise that.
AliceRainmaker
August 10th, 2015 5:24am
Always remember that you are one of a kind. We are all different, but different doesn't mean better. Nobody can see the world like you do.
Sittingwithyou
May 8th, 2017 1:43pm
It's pretty common to feel that everyone else has it all figured out. Think about that for a moment: if we all feel like that sometimes, maybe we aren't really any better or worse than anyone else... https://z4zao2x5yv31zz19n46kfiid-wpengine.netdna-ssl.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/imposter-syndrome-comic.png
lindaeu
June 26th, 2018 12:20am
You should be anxious about ot. Understand that everyone else are smarter or better it's sign if smartness, it should inspired you to become better!