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how can i stop thinking about our memories together?

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Last Updated: 11/06/2018 at 3:11pm
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Top Rated Answers
sweetlinda22
November 11th, 2015 10:40am
Do not be afraid to think of your memories together, but remember they are just that. when you find yourself thinking about them, appreciate the good times and remind yourself that it was good while it lasted, smile and carry on with whatever you are doing. Do not overindulge, soon you will think less and less because you allowed the memories to rest in good faith.
magnanimousStrawberry75
June 20th, 2016 7:08am
It's okay to think about the memories but remember they are memories. The person in those memories is a different person, they've changed and you've changed.
musicalDew34
November 11th, 2015 6:37pm
Memories can never be forgotten... but u can try to avoid those thing which can recall those memories
kindrose302
June 27th, 2016 6:42pm
Try and distract your self with things that make you happy like hanging out with friends
indigostar56
March 27th, 2017 11:27pm
I wish I had a better answer for this one but the only thing I know that heals is time. If it's really bothering you then you should remove all the reminders. I like to make a ritual of it by throwing them into the ocean or safely burning them to be released by the air or burying them back in the earth to symbolically let go... Then get busy doing some activity you enjoy or working or exercising! Find something else positive to put your attention on. The best revenge is success. Use your hurt feelings to create your dreams. Maybe there was something you wanted to do but didn't because relationships can be all encompassing? Now is the time! You can do this. I believe in you!
Harshit1202
July 18th, 2017 4:30am
You don't have to think about, how to stop thinking about something because more you'll try to forget about something more you're gonna think about that! better you get to indulge in your hobbies and whatever you like to do. like playing the guitar, listening to music, talking to friends you love, Sports etc. , don't let yourself free enough to think about anything you don't want to
maddie10
February 23rd, 2015 1:25am
Fortunately and unfortunately, you will always have memories with people that you used to love and care about, but the best thing to do to stop thinking about those memories is to create new ones!
AlloTheHelper100
January 4th, 2016 9:09am
Think about someone elses memories with him or her Then think about your best memories weigh the 2.
librabrandi89
May 10th, 2015 7:00am
Sometimes it is important to power through these thoughts as a part of mourning what once was. take it as a part of the healing process
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2015 5:53pm
Put away all pictures and memorabilia. Each time you start to think about them, say out loud that you're not going to go there, and find something to change your direction of thought. We should move forward in life and not look back. No need to dwell on something you can't change. It is a waste of precious time. Make new memories.
AyeNattie
February 15th, 2016 12:45am
You just have to think about the present and not what you two had but focus on what you will have with a new person.
Zebrasarcastic
June 7th, 2016 1:31pm
Make new memories ,memories are not something that can be forgotten just overcome don't dwell what's in the past and live the present
FeatherIce25
April 17th, 2015 5:15pm
Accept the fact that your time together is over and move on. Give yourself time . Get a hobby . Go out with your friends. There is a lot to be explored.
heretohelp5555
April 22nd, 2015 10:53am
by doing things you love. Work on your passions by setting goals and achieving them. the memories will fade slowly.
Anonymous
January 4th, 2016 5:13am
By making yourself busy. Grab something that you can work to keep your mind off of him or her.......
amoyrycorazon
February 2nd, 2016 12:21pm
this is something that cant really be answered ...you can always distract yourself to keep yourself from thinking about it but it is something you will always rememeber
JohanDwanian
May 9th, 2016 8:52pm
I believe you'll always have moments when you think about memories with someone else, in different ways. So stopping it completely is rather impossible but also not needed, I think. It is more in the sense of how you deal with it and process it as well as accept it. With time these will also be more manageable and you'll learn from it as well. As long as you can move on and create new memories you will be okay. The way you look at memories and react to them will change over time.
cosyheart21
September 19th, 2016 2:55am
If you have anything around you that reminds you of your ex, get rid of it, or put it away. Surround yourself and your environment with other things, old and new, that make you happy.
Kalkoengebraad
November 1st, 2016 4:23pm
I don't think you should stop thinking about them. They're memories and they are part of who you are. cherish the good ones, and let go of the bad ones. but if you do want to stop thinking about them - keep yourself busy. make yourself a busy schedule, and as soon as you start thinking about any of those memories, remind yourself to focus on what it is you are doing right now, for example studying, working out,...
Anonymous
November 6th, 2018 3:11pm
Just remind myself that some memories are even more valuable then the others that can be harmful or upsetting. There's new memories to be made, in a near or further future. Believe you're going to do much better and simply take care of yourself only, it's alright to be selfish for your own good once in a while. Be strong and know that there's many people out there that can help you and be with you for support in any way. You are loved by many. Memories can mean a lot, that is for sure, but there's those memories that are good and better that can be more memorable then those you built with someone who harmed you.