Don't bottle up your emotions cry bawl your eyes out , scream into a pillow. shout obscenities at the wall. during the initial stages of getting over someone, you may feel miserable. you need to accept these feelings in order to truly release them and move on with your life. listen to music. you may get the urge to listening to break up music. contrary to popular belief, listening to sad music will not make you feel worse. Such music can actually help you to feel like someone somewhere shares your pain, and that you're not alone in what you're feeling. Plus, if you cry and sing along, you will have expressed your emotions in a healthy way. When you're done you'll find yourself feeling better for it. talk things over with friends. The caring shoulder of a close friend can be a valuable tool to rely on. Sometimes talking about your feelings is a good way to air them out and move on. A friend can help you recognize that what you're feeling is normal. Plus, getting your frustrations out into the open might be help you better understand and resolve them. Keep a journal. If you want to give your friends a break or do not have any you feel comfortable enough to talk to, write your feelings down instead. This practice can also help you release and vent your bottled-up feelings. The mental health benefits of journaling are many. It helps us to clarify our thoughts and feelings, understand ourselves better, minimize stress, problem-solve, and resolve disagreements.Avoid unnecessary contact. This means no calling, no emailing, and no “accidentally” bumping into the person in question while he or she happens to be on a daily morning run. If you want to get over someone, you need to put enough distance in between the two of you to give yourself a chance to heal.Quit cyber-stalking. Stop checking his or her Facebook, Twitter, blog, Pinterest, or any other social media account associated with that person. Fixating on how the other person is doing at the moment will only make it harder for you to move on with your life.Toss out any reminders. Even if you cut ties and avoid communicating directly with the person you want to get over, you might still have a hard time moving on if your room is filled with reminders of that person.Leave the house. Take a walk. Go on a trip. Venture out into the great unknown, or even venture into the slightly-less-impressive known. The point is that you will need to get out of bed and physically move on with your life, no matter how much you wish you could spend another day lying around and watching sad movies. Meet new people. This can seem tremendously difficult, but it can also have a huge impact on how thoroughly you recover. By meeting new people, you allow yourself to see that there are others who may come to appreciate and love you. Similarly, you might also realize that there really are other fish in the sea.