How to handle a breakup with class?
Last Updated: 06/16/2020 at 10:04pm
Shawn Wilson, LCSW
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
I provide supportive counseling and psychotherapy. I utilize cognitive-behavioral and solution focused strategies to address client concerns. Personal coaching is available.
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Take some time away from the person. Jumping into talking right after the break up or trying to be friends is only going to make things harder, I've learned that the hard way. Take some time to reflect on the relationship and why it ended and look at the positive side of it. Don't talk to the other person until you can find the positive side of the breakup. I'm all for staying friends afterwards, but you've gotta give yourself time and make sure it's really what you want.
From my experience, if you don't want to look back on your break up and say "Oh that was horribly shameful" then the rule is: don't beg. Look them straight in the eye, tell them you are sorry they feel that way and that you were happy to have met them, and walk away. Just walk away. It's going to be okay.
One of the best ways to handle a break up with class is to accept the breakup. Let them know that you understand that it is over and that you are trying to move on.
Well maybe just tell them that you hope they find happiness and wish them the best in all that they do. And when you are alone, it is ok to cry.
Don't beg, and act as simply you're already over it. Even if you're on the verge of tears because of it, it ended for a reason, and that reason is still out there waiting to be found by you.
Two words: breathing room. If someone breaks up with you, give them time, give yourself time to fly.
Even if the relationship is totally over, I think the best thing you can do is to remind the other person why fell in love with you in the first place. It wasn't because you cried and begged and acted out of desperation, it was because you were fun and exciting and looked after yourself. If people remembered that in the aftermath of a break up - even if it hurts like hell and is the last thing you feel like doing - then you open up the possibility of making the other person realise what they are giving up and increase your chances of not having to live with the shame of doing something stupid. My suggestion would always be to remind someone why they loved you not why they left you.
Don't be disrespectful to the other party. Accept that it's over and try to learn from it so you can be better
accept the break up; dissapear for a while, never beg, and after a couple of months you can contact that person; never give the power to anybody to hurt you more than once; is not easy; when someone left us...we cant handle it..but you are going to hate yourself if you dont act classy.
Allow yourself to be sad for some time, talk it out with friends or family and be social/enjoy spending time with others so you don't focus too much on the breakup and understand that most people experience breakups at some point in their lives and they get through it and someday hopefully find their true love.
I think handling a breakup with class just means that you are in control of yourself. Think before you speak, remember that you both are human beings, and never forget how important you are.
never give up, keep believing in your self and never forget that every one has bad and good relationships but things always workout in the end .
From my experience breakup is really hard experience for both sides. Important thing is to understand your emotions and treat yourself in a way that you will be proud of being yourself and staying true with what you believe and who you are.
Accept the situation. Be forgiving -- of yourself and of your ex. Try and form a clear idea about your boundaries i.e, whether you want to stay friends or not etc. Being hostile towards each other isn't going to help either of you. So the best way out is to acknowledge that you had something nice, which is now over, but life will move on and so will you. Things will get better with time.
Explain yourself, understand what problems there were. Let time pass to clear your mind, but try staying in good terms with your ex partner.
Well it's really hard for some people to get over a break-up. It solely depends on you that how you deal with it. Whether you choose see it in a positive way or a negative one. Some people feel low and find it hard to cope up with it, eventually ended up having depression. They kept on repenting over their decision of breaking up with his/her partner and keep on feeling sorry for themselves and choose to stay immobilised. While some people take a breakup as rather a janus-faced situation. They see some positive aspects of it. They become selfish with their time, the time which they earlier spends on their respective partners. They use this time to do something productive, to reinvent themselves. These people handle a breakup in an optimistic way. Well here are a few ways you can practise to handle a breakup: 1. Maintain a "No-contact rule" with your ex. 2. Be selfish with your time, reinvent yourself. 3. Get yourself a new haircut or look. 4. Go on solo dates. 5. Meet new people. 6. Hangout with your friends. 7. Enrol in a new course or language. 8. Read a book. 9. Work on your hobbies. 10. Help a needy person.
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