Take some time away from the person. Jumping into talking right after the break up or trying to be friends is only going to make things harder, I've learned that the hard way. Take some time to reflect on the relationship and why it ended and look at the positive side of it. Don't talk to the other person until you can find the positive side of the breakup. I'm all for staying friends afterwards, but you've gotta give yourself time and make sure it's really what you want.
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July 13th, 2015 12:17am
From my experience, if you don't want to look back on your break up and say "Oh that was horribly shameful" then the rule is: don't beg. Look them straight in the eye, tell them you are sorry they feel that way and that you were happy to have met them, and walk away. Just walk away. It's going to be okay.
accept the break up; dissapear for a while, never beg, and after a couple of months you can contact that person; never give the power to anybody to hurt you more than once; is not easy; when someone left us...we cant handle it..but you are going to hate yourself if you dont act classy.
Allow yourself to be sad for some time, talk it out with friends or family and be social/enjoy spending time with others so you don't focus too much on the breakup and understand that most people experience breakups at some point in their lives and they get through it and someday hopefully find their true love.
Even if the relationship is totally over, I think the best thing you can do is to remind the other person why fell in love with you in the first place. It wasn't because you cried and begged and acted out of desperation, it was because you were fun and exciting and looked after yourself. If people remembered that in the aftermath of a break up - even if it hurts like hell and is the last thing you feel like doing - then you open up the possibility of making the other person realise what they are giving up and increase your chances of not having to live with the shame of doing something stupid. My suggestion would always be to remind someone why they loved you not why they left you.
From my experience breakup is really hard experience for both sides. Important thing is to understand your emotions and treat yourself in a way that you will be proud of being yourself and staying true with what you believe and who you are.
Accept the situation. Be forgiving -- of yourself and of your ex. Try and form a clear idea about your boundaries i.e, whether you want to stay friends or not etc. Being hostile towards each other isn't going to help either of you. So the best way out is to acknowledge that you had something nice, which is now over, but life will move on and so will you. Things will get better with time.