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What are steps or things to do to distract myself from thinking about him/her?

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Last Updated: 05/28/2019 at 6:25pm
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Top Rated Answers
SolarisAntares
June 29th, 2015 7:08am
Losing loved ones, in one form or another, is a painful experience. Whilst continuously thinking about them can be detrimental to your daily life, it is important to not ignore or escape the feelings you are experiencing. Pain and grief are valid human experiences which if not given the appropriate attention and consideration can develop into mental illness in the future. My advice is to acknowledge your feelings and try to analyse what it is those feelings are trying to tell you. Allow yourself to grieve, express emotions in a way that isn't harmful to yourself or others, then focus on what responsibilities and obligations you are required to meet once you have given yourself the opportunity to express and explore those emotions in a healthy way.
GoodListner
September 30th, 2015 4:37pm
Losing someone you love is not a good thing,but that doesn't stop you from living.I mean you are still breathing,still living,still meeting new people....life goes on.All you need to do is focus on yourself,work on yourself.....go to gym,do yoga,join meditation classes.All you need is something which can distract you from thinking that makes you feel sad. I know it's not an easy task but you have to deal with it...the sooner you understand the better it will be for you.....You see there are still many people out there who thinks about you,loves you,care for you.....just plan a weekend,meet them,surprise them....hope you'll find yourself being involved in other things. All the best & Keep smiling....cos you never know who would fall in love with your smile :-)
Kindness101
April 23rd, 2015 1:27pm
Finding a hobby that you like can help a lot with distracting yourself. Like reading a book, Hiking, etch
tinkerbella00
September 30th, 2015 1:21pm
personally I would stay busy either with school or the things you love, try and focus on something that's important to you, trust me I went through that time in my life where I couldn't let go or stop thinking about him, it went on for over a year but what id do is keep your distance and stay focused
lovelyOcean15
September 8th, 2015 6:39pm
I would do something (my favourite activities) to distract myself from thinking about him. Cause thats not worth for me to waste time on someone doesnt love me anymore. I would do yoga, hang out with friends, swim, movie vacation etc. as long as that would make me happy :)
supportiveIceCream52
April 1st, 2015 2:05am
One thing that helped me stop thinking about my ex was hanging out with people of both genders and keeping myself busy. I asked people to go out to places, get dinner, etc. It helped me focus on the people who want to stay close to me and off those that do not.
Anonymous
April 9th, 2015 1:37pm
1) Find something to occupy your mind. 2) Get rid of the things that remind you of him like pictures
Anonymous
November 9th, 2015 8:29pm
1. Do not revisit old text conversations. 2. Temporarily disengage all contact (social media too). 3. Shove his or her pictures in a locked file on your phone. 4. Avoid mentioning his or her name and reminiscing. 5. Engage in activities to keep you busy. Do not isolate yourself.
Tarnes9105
March 29th, 2016 8:17am
There are many things that you can do to distract yourself, such as: - hanging out with friends - becoming closer with family - listen to music - play some sports! - get an animal - do what makes you happy - do what makes you, you!
Anonymous
April 26th, 2015 4:03am
Its okay to think about him/her, especially when for some time they were a really important part of your life. Giving yourself a chance to grieve is important. Taking steps towards self care is more important than trying to avoid thinking about things, however spending time with friends, doing hobbies etc can help a great deal.
cakeinthebath
May 21st, 2015 10:51pm
Often, trying NOT to think about something just makes you think about it more. Find something to engage in, for example learning a new language, topic or skill, being out with friends, exercising, or working on a personal project.
Anonymous
August 24th, 2015 7:23pm
step 1:think of other things that way you wont have to think of that person step 2:try to forget and get rid if memories that make you remember that person step 3:distract yourself with the positive things that you like and try to forget about them
ActiveListener0809
September 1st, 2015 11:01pm
Focus on school or work or find extra curricular activities to redirect your thoughts. Once this is done, slowly but surely other thoughts will take place of that person.
savannahbanana123
September 22nd, 2015 10:11pm
Hang out with friends, go for a run or a hike or some sort of physical activity. Do things that make you active :)
Pineapplescanhelp
September 28th, 2015 8:36am
Spend time with your friends and do things that you like. This can be things like playing games or just reading a book.
MellyLa
November 3rd, 2015 7:29am
Find something meaningful in your day and focus your attention to it. Create a schedule for a week and see if you can maintain it, keeping yourself occupied with meaningful and rewarding activities will help you keep your thoughts under control.
frostyTurtle27
April 5th, 2016 1:19pm
Surround yourself with people that mean a lot to you, and give you a postitive feeling that stops you thinking about him/her. Do things that you love to do, and live your life to the fullest. Maybe make a list of pros and cons about that person, and put it in a box or something.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2016 12:47am
Do things that make yourself happy! Develop a new hobby! Surround yourself with friends and family!
Lelde97
September 13th, 2016 2:14am
Recognise that it’s OK to have different feelings. Give yourself permission to feel and to function at a less than optimal level for a period of time. Take time to heal, regroup, and re-energise. Don’t go through this alone.
Freedomtochoose
January 9th, 2017 1:47am
Some steps can include, reading motivational books, quotes and taking cardio classes. It definitely distracts my mind and makes me feel empowered.
Anonymous
November 20th, 2017 12:59pm
Join a group or get a hobby to take up any free time you have or talk to a trusted person about your experience so they can help you get through it. You can also go dating to find some else or a better someone else.
heyblueiris
January 30th, 2018 2:14am
Watch funny clips or video. Get busy. Have a hobby, or learn new things. It's not easy but it can be done.
SeizeTheMoment
February 26th, 2018 6:42pm
Trying new things. Whenever you want to try something new, either it is a hobby or go on an adventure, your focus will be directed on what you are doing.
allnaturalUnicorns70
March 5th, 2018 9:35pm
You could do things to improve life for yourself! You could be charitable with your time. You could be a listener here! You could go take a walk through the beautiful world you'res blessed to live in, and appreciate it all just a little more?
Joye74
May 28th, 2019 6:25pm
Many things it depends on your comfort zone and relationship stage. If it's a break up, some people change job, home, city, social circle, activities, etc. On other hand some people develop new hobbies keeping the earlier things same or along with changing them. I found doing everything to improve mental well being is very important. It feels tough and difficult but found it very effective. Also, in addition to change, I cut all the communication contacts with mutual friends (that's a big source of insecurities and triggers). Or if it is early relationship then continuing day to day job effectively is the key to stop obsessive thinking