Why do I always forgive him?

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joshuabel99
November 10th, 2015 12:23am
I always forgive him because he always says he's going to change. He swears to me that this is the last time he will mess up, and I, like the idiot I am, believe him each and every time. Deep in my heart I know that he won't change, and that no matter how much of an effort I make nothing will change. Although I want him to change his ways, I know he won't. Maybe one day I'll finally give up. Maybe one day I'll realize that he's not worth my time nor my tears. Maybe one day you'll realize that too. We all will eventually, and we'll live happily for once, and I know that it is possible. We can do this.
amiableAmy
June 17th, 2015 7:04am
There's a saying that, "we accept the love we think we deserve." Believe that you are a good partner & that you deserve someone better. Someone who won't fall into the same cycle. The cycle where he keeps repeating the same mistakes, keeps apologizing, keeps promising to change, but then consistently failing to follow through on his word.
BattleScarsareBeautiful808
June 19th, 2017 6:11am
Forgiveness is the best gift you can give someone. But! If the forgiveness is abused is it deserved?
Greatlistener87
September 13th, 2016 6:05am
Maybe you have a soft sport for that person. Its alright if you forgive him but learn from what he has done to you and make sure that it does not happen again that is the important thing.
BlissfulCherry
July 27th, 2015 5:31pm
Cause you love too much to let go. Not having the other person around makes you feel vulnerable. But at some point of time you have to understand what's best for you. You shouldn't forgive someone for the same mistakes over and over again
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2015 6:50am
Because you feel as though he could change, and then all would be right with your relationship. He comes to you for forgiveness, and I think you're a brave person for offering it. But know your limits.
openmindopenheart7
June 23rd, 2015 5:25am
You are blinded by the love, you are not thinking in the right mind set, you are still in love with them.
beautifulthings98
February 2nd, 2015 3:09am
Because you honestly miss him and when he seems forgivable you want to believe it. And he apologizes to you, and this makes you feel bad, so you run back to him. It's honestly really normal.
Brittneym101
July 23rd, 2015 5:23pm
You forgive him because you love him, that's why I always forgive my partner.
theaasegovia
October 9th, 2017 4:04pm
You forgive him because you love him and you know that not forgiving him will not be only his loss, but your loss too. You forgive him because you know that he won't make you feel so low anymore. You forgive him because that's what your heart tells you to do.
SupportiveSockMonkey
April 17th, 2018 6:27pm
Maybe because you hope they will change and deep down everyone hopes that. You probably care for them deeply which is understandable. Some relationships are difficult to break.
PashT007
April 2nd, 2015 4:05am
Believe it or not, we are supposed to forgive people. However, based on what the situation is, we shouldn't always forgive in attempt to place ourselves into situations that are unhealthy.
dlpeter
April 26th, 2015 3:50pm
There is nothing wrong in forgiving someone. But the question is what do we do after we forgive someone? Do we treat their actions as some random act that will never be committed again? Do you assume that the person has enough emotional maturity not to let it happen again? There are lots of questions to ask, it varies.
lifebliss92
December 21st, 2015 4:20pm
You always forgive him because you feel obligated to to him, and feel like you need him when in reality you don't.
JDM108
September 17th, 2018 7:05pm
You always forgive him because we are basically made of forgiveness and love, and that gets overshadowed only by stress, hurt, and ignorance. Now, should you forgive him, is a different question. One golden rule I always follow is, "When you say yes to someone else, make sure you're not saying no to yourself". Usually people in our lives are there for a reason, and they're not going anywhere any time soon by our disliking of them, so we best learn to get along with them. The source of our misery isn't the others, but our own mind -- our reactions and thoughts -- anyway. You always forgive him because maybe you should. But if he needs to learn a lesson, you can teach him!
Anonymous
April 5th, 2016 1:05am
Because you want-and need-to. If you love or care for someone, it is easy never to place blame on them
softSugar96
January 15th, 2018 12:14am
Forgiveness is a sign of maturity. It's a good thing to forgive, but just because you have doesn't make the emotions of the situation unreal.
Anonymous
March 20th, 2018 7:02am
Because you give more importance to the relationship with him than the mistakes he made .The fact that he hurt you might not be a fact it could be subjective in many ways .Think from both ends.