How can I get rid of the bullies and why do they pick me exactly?

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Anonymous
May 13th, 2015 5:58pm
You can get rid of bullying by not giving them the attention they want. And they pick you because they know you are unique and special
WarmHeart22
April 17th, 2015 11:01pm
From personal experience, I can say the particular reason why people are bullied is out of jealousy and envy. Even though it may not seem that way, they actually wish they were you deep down inside and want to bring you down. Some alternative approaches to being bullied that you can take is confronting the bully on how you feel when he/she 'bullies' you, or you can say, for example, "Nice try, but I am who I am. You can't bring me down or change who I am."
Bella20
August 31st, 2015 3:00pm
They pick you sometimes because they are either jealous of you or they think you are weak. But the reason they pick on others and make you insecure, is because they have insecurity issues too. You should never let them get you down because doing so means that they win, and you don't want them to win do you? Just ignore them and when they insult you or hurt you, you could say "thank you" and this totally catches them off guard because they expect you to break down or fling insults back at them. Respond to their meanness with kindness every single time and they will eventually quit because they realize they can't get a reaction out of you. So, its not your fault they pick on you, its just they pick on who they think is weak, or they pick on you because they are jealous of you. So just remember to never let them get you down because doing so lets them win. Be the bigger person and respond with kindness. When they insult you, compliment them. It worked for me. :)
awesomeHoliday23
September 14th, 2015 7:50pm
Lets see I would ignore them because they are not worth my time, And they would pick on me because they are peanut butter and jealyious!!
Anonymous
April 26th, 2015 12:40pm
Talk to some authorities or discuss it with someone you really trust. Don't be affected by what they say and show that they're getting to you.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2015 9:44am
Bullies don't choose their victims, they just go for someone. No matter if its you or the guy/girl next to you. They will always have a reason. If you can beat the leader of the bully up. I know violence should be a last resort, but sometimes its the only thing that helps. If you can't do that, try to start working out or something. Only do that, if ignoring them doesn't work. I can say from personal experience that it does work
kourtney22
August 18th, 2015 4:54pm
I'm just shaking my head at this one. And believe it or not, bullies tend to pick on someone who looks approachable. Which its great to be approachable! But not in bullying situations. But really, they don't really care who it is, they'll find anyone, just to get attention. That's there main goal. And also, to make themselves feel better about them, to think that they've power and overrule anyone. That's all they want. But the more you keep quiet about it, the worse they will get. No matter if it's online, or physical, or or the simple verbal comments. Stick up for yourselves, that's their worst nightmare. Make them be afraid! They shouldn't approach you again. Best of luck!:)
DaringDachshund
July 21st, 2015 1:48am
Normally you aren't the only one, and they pick you because you seem small. If you don't give them a reaction or ignore them, they tend to lose their feeling of power and stop of boredom.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2015 2:50pm
They aren't pick someone on purpose. They are just bullies and do bad things to everyone. Don't think you are the one and know you are better than them.
Anonymous
September 5th, 2016 3:08pm
firstly, It is difficult get rid of bullies. secondly, they pick you because there is something unique about you. something that you have others don't . when you are unique, people get drawn to you and most of those people are the bully type. In order for you to get rid of bullies, you must understand that you are special. Act like it doesn't matter and pay no attention to them. There is always something special about you that makes them hate you because they don't have. you are special and don't allow anyone tell you different.
Maxinchen
February 6th, 2018 6:09pm
Bullies can feel if someone is insecure and open to being bullied. Try to find someone who likes you and then ignore the bullies. Most of time these people are just being mean because they are unhappy with themselves.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2015 10:50am
They may pick on you because they're jealous of you, or they have a secretly bad home life and feel the need to take it out on someone, anyone. This is not anything against you personally, though you are their target. You could make light of their form of bullying, speak seriously with your parents, counselor, a teacher, or trusted adult about what's happening to you. Ask them to intercede on your behalf and give you advice. A bully is looking for a reaction out of you, and if you don't give them one, the entertainment and satisfaction/distraction from their wrongs factor wears out. It can be hard to stand down, but be true to yourself and your morals calmly. Confide in those you trust, especially when you feel in danger. Bullying is a serious matter, even if it doesn't seem like people around you would care. They will not think you're stupid, lying, or looking for attention.
hugsandtea
November 16th, 2015 12:11am
Turning to a parent or adult for help is the best way to stop bullies. But finding out why they are bullying on you has multiple answers, but these could be some possible answers: attention-seeking, envy/jealousy, rough past, having a hard time at home, mental problems, for fun, etc.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2016 4:14am
Because they constantly want to pick on you or your around them a lot. They pick on you because they see you as an easy target, makes them feel better, or trying to fit in with the rest of their bully friends.
AmberLeigh33
May 3rd, 2016 7:07am
I can get rid of bullies by not giving them the power to influence my views about myself; yes, easier said than done, but at least I have a goal to work towards. If your bullies are on social media, delete/block them; if they are at your workplace, ignore them; if they are in your friends circle, start spending time with different friends. I think bullies pick me because I make myself an easy target; I care about what they think, and they know it. If I knew how to not care about what others think of me, I would absolutely LOVE to be able to... but I don't know how, so I just have to take small steps and force myself to turn that into second nature. I need to acknowledge that not everyone in this world is going to like me, I'm not going to be able to please everyone, changing myself will only make me more appealing to those that don't appreciate my true self, and I might as well be myself and surrounded by people that love me for me.
adeba26
July 5th, 2016 8:07pm
They don't like "pick" you, the bullies just focus on people who are stronger than them. You are strong. You are whatever they wanna be, that's why they bully you and other people. Getting rid of them it's difficult, I'm not gonna lie, but it's not impossible. I know it's hard, but you gotta ignore them. I have suffered bullying all my life, and when I started to ignore them THEY STOPPED!! You have also the listeners if you need to talk :D
campfiremarshmallows27
August 15th, 2016 7:31pm
The first step is to not blame yourself, they are likely jealous of you or an aspect of your life or they are simply wanting to pick on someone to vent their own anger and that person happens to be you. If you are in a school environment, then possibly talk to the bully if they are approachable and see if maybe they have an underlying issue. If they seem uncooperative or treat you badly when you do that, go to a teacher or member of staff and voice your problem.
ameliaglazner
August 16th, 2016 4:53pm
Well, for ur first question a way to get rid of bullies is to show them u don't care. Even if u really do care, just don't let them see that it bothers you. And well there is multiple reasons they would be picking on u 1.) is that they could be picked on as wel 2.) they have they're own insecurities 3.) They are hurting on the inside and want others to hurt too 4.) they have family problems
Thewildwest
December 27th, 2016 10:05pm
You can always speak up, and let an adult know what's going on. Try your hardest not to let it get to you, seek out a bully hotline. Most people who bully, have been bullied themselves.
strawberryflamingo
February 7th, 2017 9:00pm
They pick up exactly you because of same reasons, first maybe it looks like you are not assertive enough to tell them what they are deserving and make them stop. Secend reason is that they wish to be you, they are feeling you are better than them and it is making them mad
moonlightdragon
November 28th, 2017 4:10pm
They can be bullying for so many factors, but the predominant is that they feel envious, in a way they want to stop you from having what they don't. So the thing is standing, not letting them keeping pushing you down. Prove you're much stronger than they are.
queenie96
May 15th, 2018 10:41am
Show them that you don't care. Make them feel that you are confident about yourself. Let them feel that you are not affected with their presence. And lastly, find your happiness.
Allears247
June 25th, 2018 2:46pm
Bullies tend to pick more passive people to pick on. Have you told someone? I would report it to an authority figure to get the situation taken care of and prevent this treatment.
Anonymous
August 13th, 2018 9:36am
Do they know who you are as a person? If not, then they are just spewing air; if they do not know what you like to do for fun or what your favorite color is, then obviously they do not know you well enough for you to believe a single word they say about you. Tell someone you trust that they are bullying you.