What's the best way to stop feeling insecure about yourself?
Last Updated: 01/26/2021 at 10:46pm
Lianne Kirby, MA in Counselling Psychology
I believe everyone should have the opportunity for their voice to be heard. I use a trauma informed, person centred approach in counselling.
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For me it´s actually the jump in the cold water. Insecurity is difficult to defeat so a way to handle it is to not let it block your way. I´ve had it often at work that i thought "wow, i´m not sure if i can do this or talk to this person and so on". I took a deep breath and then did it. And sure, there are the times it doesn´t went as expected. But the most time, and believe me, it´s actually the most time, it was amazing to see, that i´m able to do more more, then i thought. And so can you! Stay calm, focus and surprise yourself ;)
I laugh at my flaws. I know that sounds ironic and like a bad way to deal with it but it helps. I laugh because I remember they make me who I am and without them I wouldn't even be huma.
Find your strengths and work on them. In time, each strength will lead to something else you feel insecure about and give you the courage to work on those insecurities.
Just remember always that we were created equal. There are things that you have but others dont. Just be thankful for what you have and being contented is the key to being secure.
Surround yourself with people who make you feel good, cut out all toxic people, no matter how hard, itll be better in the long run. Make a schedule or your time, and have time set out for thing you find fun, walks, games, reading, baths. Treat yourself, and cut out toxic people. Life is too short to make war with yourself.
First you have to recognise what you feel is wrong about yourself and write it down. Then think about why you don't like them parts. Now go out and improve on your faults because if they never change how are your feeling going to change?
by focusing on what you r good at , and keep on developing that thing , nobody 8s perfect these days ? Everyone has their flaw and ugly side but the only difference is that some people have more good side than the ugly one , and they didn't get it naturally , they worked on it , they worked on themselves so they can be a better person , and nobody can be like you , in this whole planet / universe , your unique because there is only ONE you
You write down things you value and find pretty about yourself and being grateful for it. You're all beautiful
The idea itself of suddenly stopping to do something is impossible... From my experience, what is in our best interest is to try to identify what are the issues that make us insecure more... do these issues come from how we deal with ourselves or how we behave in social situations and how we compare ourselves with others? As soon as we identify what is the barrier and how we would like to improve we can try to make everyday small steps into becoming more grateful for how we are and what we are achieving slowly... I think that should be a easy and steady recipe to improve how we see ourselves.
There are a few ways, in my experience, that this can be accomplished. Realizing that you are not alone. Insecurity affects many people. Recognizing your personal strengths and learning how to focus on those. Understanding that failure is not a negative thing but more of a mechanism to help us improve. No one is perfect.
Just take yourself as a joke once and a while. Laugh at yourself, make fun of yourself. It will show you to just stop caring what others think about you and live the life you want to live without any restrictions.
It's never an easy process. Finding things that you love about yourself and focusing on those aspects can help you gain confidence. Accepting the things that you don't love might help you to think about them less. Overall, be confident in the things you do well and treat yourself with love and respect.
Someone out there loves the things you may be insecure about. Loving yourself can take time. :)
I think we will always feel insecure about anything. We have to. It's human nature. None of us can see ourselves as perfect because we know ourselves too well. But you can always learn to love your insecurities or focus more on your abilities and positive views more.
Stop thinking about all the negative things about yourself.
Wake up every morning drink some water look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you're beautiful . Think nothing but happy thoughts
stop comparing yourself with others.. what you have.. no one has.. just think what makes you YOU.. there is something in all of us.. you're unique. just believe in yourself :)
Just think about your true beauty because it's on the inside that matters and everybody is beautiful in there own unique way!
There is not only one way to stop feeling insecure we just have to deal with it as it come I feel that we all feel insecure about oneself at one point or another we just have to take the bad thought and see it in a positive way also we can have people tell us everyday good things about us and we can do the same for them.
The best way to stop feeling insecure about yourself is to find something you love. Something you're passionate about. Something that's yours and only yours and no one can touch it. Something you can turn to and appreciate; how despite how there might be someone better in the same field, you're the best version of you and that's pretty beautiful in itself. And when you embrace yourself, other people will start to love you too. And that's pretty perfect, after all.
Start hyping yourself up! Don’t focus on the negative, focus on the positive. When you look in the mirror, stop looking for things that are wrong and start pointing out the parts of yourself that you love. In the morning, name at least 3 things you appreciate yourself, then name 1 thing you want to work on. Set goals. Realistic ones. Also, stop letting others tell you what is beautiful and what isn’t. If YOU love YOU, that’s all that matters ✨
Try to think about a different thing you can do every day, write it down each day and for a moment focus so hard on that thing. You will feel even a tiny bit better every day and it will contribute to your self esteem. My sister is very secure about her abilities and one day she told me that she could do anything, almost any job, because she is very hard working and always developing different skills, and seeing her so confident about herself was so hard to even consider and so eye-opening as I have been struggling all my life with being insecure. She of course can't really do everything on this planet but the thought of it is enough to boost her self confidence. As for me I'm still trying to be a little less insecure (it depends on the day and situations) but the skill list helps when I feel down.
Remind yourself that you are not your insecurities. Your insecurities do not define who you are. Remember that everyone has their own personal insecurities, and they are more focused on their own insecurities than the ones you have. Think about the particular insecurity you have and ask yourself these questions. Are you insecure about it because you feel it does not align with what society says is acceptable? Do you feel this is something you should change about yourself because it negatively effects your physical or mental well-being? If your answer is yes, what are some steps you can take to make improvements? What resources are available to help reach your goals? What communities are available to help provide support?
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