Why do bullies have so much power over my emotions?

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Last Updated: 07/03/2018 at 6:37pm
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AkankshaP
February 22nd, 2015 11:40pm
The only person who has control over your emotions is you. Not letting anyone's word effect you can be difficult but it can be achieve. You have to be patient and not react to them, the more you react, the more you're vulnerable to them.
goldenLight64
February 25th, 2015 11:45pm
They prey on my weaknesses, on the areas where I am already lacking self-confidence and make me feel worse about myself.
samlovenothate
June 27th, 2017 2:53am
They know what bothers you. They know how to get under your skin and hit your buttons. As for your emotions, you control those. The only way to beat a bully is to be mentally stronger than the bully. Tell yourself that it does not bother you. if it gets too much to handle, report it. you dont deserve to be treated badly.
genuineSeal64
April 2nd, 2015 8:26am
It's what they do and say and it can be really hurtful in which in most cases makes us sad, angry ect you do on the otherhand have power to get through it and stay strong with whatever there doing
redwhispers
April 11th, 2015 9:46pm
First off, my friend, bullies have no control over you or your emotions. What happens, is they can say something that can hit close to home in a sensitive subject, and if you dwell on that it can negatively affect your emotions. But what you can control and not let the bullies have power over, is how you react. If they get some sort of negative reaction out of you they will keep doing it because it's what they like to see. I hope this helped. :) Have an awesome day.
miraculousPiano89
May 21st, 2015 5:59pm
Bullies have absolutely no over your emotions. Bullies want you to believe they're in control of how you should think, act, or feel about yourself when in actuality they're the ones who are scared of being their true self. Think about it this way, every person who has ever bullied you has been in some way hurt by someone else. Behind every bully is story. Be honest with yourself and when you're walking past these so-called "bullies" look them straight in their eyes, do not look down. After repeating this simple step a few times, you'll be surprise to learn how much power you have within yourself. Bullies can't stand confidence and will eventually fade when they sense you have this quality. Confidence is key.
Anonymous
August 25th, 2015 4:31am
Bullies are trying to bring you down but they don't have power over your emotions, because the only person who can is you, stand up for yourself, believe in yourself
kindMoment44
October 27th, 2015 11:27am
Well that comes down to your age. At this point in time, you must feel very vulnerable. I find that you must also be a more caring person is other peoples opinions matter to you. You are caring, not careless. But as you go through life, you will find that you don't have time for bullies, and that the most important opinion you need is your own opinion.
Anonymous
March 15th, 2016 6:24pm
They do not.You are the master of yourself.They sort of "feed" in your reaction and fear,so ignore them and you will be fine.
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2016 12:10am
Because you let them(: The minute you are strong and confident and don't back down to their advances, they realize you aren't one to mess with
IAmTheOneRealZ
October 17th, 2016 5:05pm
They really have as much power as you let them have. You can ignore them or even report them to someone you trust. Of course there are times that we cant really escape by the things they might say, but remember to never give up to matter what happens
KyleTheHelper
November 21st, 2016 10:52pm
Because they represent a force in your life that is chaotic. The say terrible things and try to make you feel inferior. Since bullies are common in middle to high school where kids are figuring themselves out, you're usually in a vulnerable state which gives them that power. It takes realization and a bit of confidence in yourself to make them loose that power.
Anonymous
August 28th, 2017 6:37pm
Bullies have power of your emotions probably because they know your weaknesses. They try to strike in places you'll least think it'll come and surprise you. Considering your past or present it could affect you from memories.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2015 2:34pm
Its because I let them. Because all my life I let everyone push me around, set out my path for me and destroyed my free will.
Dontletyourselfdown
November 13th, 2017 5:25pm
Because people out their don't know the power of "words" coming from their mouth, they are type of bullets that just cut you through what they should know that they can make difference by speaking good words to the people they bully like seriously what they ever done to you man you have to stand in front of God one day just be kind untill you are here in this world. it takes zero effort to be kind!
Thnksfrthmmrs220313
July 3rd, 2018 6:37pm
It is often because they represent the worst thoughts you have in your head, so it feels like a confirmation coming from someone else.