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Am I the one at fault?

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Last Updated: 01/01/2019 at 2:18am
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Top Rated Answers
DreamIndexed
May 5th, 2015 4:56am
Does it matter? The problem here is that you feel at fault. Being at fault is really impossible to know until you have properly processed the feeling.
TelekineticPotato
May 17th, 2016 2:31am
The most difficult thing to do in life is to be honest with yourself. It's only natural for us to come up with excuses and seemingly valid reasons why things happen in our lives. What are your values? Do you have a creed? Did you do anything to stop it? would you have if their had been a way to? Answer these questions and then ask yourself is something was your fault
Anonymous
January 14th, 2015 9:49pm
Well, this is a rather vauge queston to ask, did you do it? if not than maybe not. If you did then how do you repair the situation? admitting your part of a problem lets you be part of the solution afterall.
caringSmiles20
February 13th, 2015 3:15pm
No, you aren't! You might be stressed out so, you have just forgotten that you are good, you are awesome and many people believe so!
Chevy81
July 4th, 2015 12:39pm
It depends on the case. But usually when it involves another person, the others have their contribution, too. So, it is not entirely my fault.
MidnightPanda
September 14th, 2015 1:38am
You are most definitely not at fault for feeling down, or upset. You can't exactly control how you're feeling, and you can't control your thoughts.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2015 4:49am
You are almost never at fault. The ways you feel are valid and you didn't bring anything onto yourself. If you feel a certain way because of something that happened to and was caused by someone else, then you are most definitely NOT at fault.
LemmeBeYourHome
January 26th, 2016 6:15pm
The answer is simple: it depends! Sometimes we ourselves are responsible for a situation we or someone else is facing. Whereas sometimes it's other people who are at fault and they may just blame the whole thing on you. What matters the most is how you recognize when you are at fault and when someone else is and take actions according to the same
Alethiology
February 8th, 2016 3:45pm
Never apologize for how you feel. Where you can have a part, it will always be solved, and you had no intentions on wanting to be upset.
Greatlistener87
June 13th, 2016 2:38am
Depending on the situation. We are all humans we all make mistakes. Don't beat yourself up if you have made the mistake and on't allow anyone else to beat you up either. Mistakes are meant to be made to learn from and to make you a better person.
Anonymous
June 14th, 2016 12:28pm
You are the only person that can answer your question. You have to think about your intentions and what you did. Once you rationalise that, you will come to a conclusion.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2016 6:35pm
If we're getting technical, I could say I am always the one at fault. In the end, the life I am living is solely mine, so everything must come down to me, right? However, after experiencing certain situations and living through certain things, I can also come to the conclusion that despite being the one "at fault", there are some things that are beyond my control. I'll wonder and ponder why I did something and think-- why on earth did I do THAT? The answer is I don't know. So to the question, "Am I the one at fault" I can honestly answer-- both, yes and no. :)
Positivebelief27
October 16th, 2017 9:03am
Blaming self won't solve any issues. Instead try focusing on the solution and try different ways on how to overcome the obstacle. It might seem overwhelming to you for the problem that is at hand but solving it might ease the burden. Think Carefully.
Iden
January 1st, 2019 2:18am
Hi there! This is a complicated question for any situation, and completely normal to ask. Sometimes, it helps to consider what fault means though. Did you harm anyone intentionally or unintentionally? If so, how would you go about fixing it? What were the reasons behind your actions? Asking questions like this can help us grow as people, and admitting fault doesn't make you a bad person. We all make mistakes, and it is important to admit these to ourselves and reflect on how to avoid them in the future. If it wasn't your direct actions that caused something, but instead your actions were part of a chain of events or indirectly contributed to something bad happening, that doesn't make it entirely your fault. It might help to think of some ways you can avoid a similar situation in the future, or how you can help whoever was hurt. Then there are some things in life that are no one's fault, but we feel like we are to blame anyways. These are hard because even if logically you know you couldn't have prevented it or known it would happen, it doesn't make you feel any less guilty. Perhaps what happened even hurt you. It's natural to want to blame someone or something for a situation, but sometimes who is at fault isn't the important part. What would you say to a friend who was in your situation? What advice would you give to help them repair the damage or move on from the hurt? Try writing a letter to this friend, and see what words of forgiveness and help you can find to give them. Then read it to yourself. I hope this helps!