Can you truly turn away from family when you really need to?

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Last Updated: 06/25/2018 at 11:27pm
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greenberyl
August 31st, 2015 6:11pm
When you really need to? If your family is toxic, it's completely your right to ruthlessly cut them out of your life. If they don't love you and you think that they're doing more harm than good to your goals and your well being, then it's necessary even to turn away from them. You don't have to burn yourself to keep them warm.
AutumnLeigh
February 28th, 2015 5:26am
To give credit where credit is due, a wonderful member helped validate my answer. YES!!! When a family member is not supportive of who and what I want to be, I need to take a break from them and pursue my dreams with people who ARE supportive of my choices and goals.
therapinto
March 1st, 2015 1:31pm
If your family is coming in the way of your freedom, decisions or your life altogether, or if they are harming you verbally or physically that too frequently, then its better to turn away from that kind of family. Life is not worth living with people who always put you down. You deserve to be in good situation and if that means turning away from your family, then do it.
Anonymous
April 13th, 2015 11:03pm
Yes, you can. Your mental and physical health should always come first. If you feel the need to leave, then leave, and ignore any other things that may surround the situation.
Ansley
May 15th, 2015 3:52am
Yes. Although it may be difficult and it may break your heart, if your family is toxic then you need to turn away from them. Your number one concern should be your mental, physical, and emotional health, and if any of those members are putting any of those areas at risk you need to put yourself first and turn away.
Brittneym101
July 21st, 2015 10:45pm
I feel like when it's necessary you should make the decision to turn away from family. If you family is not supportive of you following whatever dream that you have, when they're stressing you out, verbally abusing you, causing depression and just never have anything to have anything positive to say regarding you and your life then I think that it would be best to just do what it is that you feel like you have to do and just take a little break from them and prove them wrong. These are all the things that I'm going through with my family and it only gets worse as you continue to stay in that hostile environment. At least it did for me.
Sunshinelove22
July 25th, 2016 9:42am
Thats definitely a situation to avoid but we hesitate to take risks and settle for lesser things, dreading paths unknown but if risk is taken, it will bring tremendous change in your life. If you are ready for the change then go for it.. Be true to yourself :-)
Alwaysdreamin
May 12th, 2015 1:36am
Sometimes you need to set appropriate boundaries with your family. Many times family members, after some time, will learn to respect those boundaries. There are some situations where the family members do not respect your boundaries or they are unsafe or you are enabling that you may need to have some space between you for a period of time. It really depends on the situation and what has happened within the family dynamics.
ClaireyMarie
July 20th, 2015 1:07pm
I believe you can. Family doesn't always have the best interest, and they aren't always nice just because they are related. Just because you love your family doesn't mean you have to like them, and it's important to look after yourself and your feelings.
Emily619
July 28th, 2015 6:18pm
You can truly turn away from family when you really need to by telling them that. First, tell a close, trusted friend, so that they can help you do it. Otherwise, without help, it will be quiet difficult.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2015 5:15pm
Yes. If they are making you unhappy then the best thing you can do is try to keep yourself happy and try not to let anyone bring you down.
Cosmiclover01
December 29th, 2015 4:14pm
It all depends on the situation. Sometimes, whether it is family or not, some circumstances/actions are unforgivable. While others, are forgivable. But it all depends on you, if you believe it is something that can be worked on or if situations that have happened that will make you turn from your family.
LoverOfHappiness
February 8th, 2016 6:50am
Family is always there no matter what. And when they come back it's not so easy just to turn away from them. However you can truly be strong enough to stand up to your family when you need to. To be able to not allow them to hurt you if they were. And with this new found confidence and strength can be a healing process for another, you just never know :)
leahlistens2
February 15th, 2016 8:35pm
When an environment because too toxic for mental, emotional, or physical reasons it is always best to remove yourself from the situation. No matter who may be involved
Greatlistener87
April 18th, 2016 8:57am
You can explain to them why you are doing so and then decide to do so. There are people who burn bridges when it comes to family and friends when they think its the right thing to do. Others just give themselves some space to breath.
NURSEGG
October 17th, 2016 2:51am
Absolutely. If they are no serving your best interests, or have become the source of pain, strife, I'll will, or negatively impacting your life, it's certainly a reasonable option, even if temporarily while working through the issue at hand
Anonymous
January 30th, 2017 8:55am
I honestly believe thst you turn away from your family when you need to because at some point you have to start putting yourself first. It's not being selfish it's being your own person and if your family can't see that than walk away because they will lead you nowher they will only hold you in place.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2018 11:27pm
I want to say yes, but also no. My family life is hard right now myself and as much as I want to walk away I find myself stuck.