How can I get past this problem when my family isn't able to help me?
Last Updated: 05/11/2021 at 7:08am
Johanna Liasides, MSc
I work with youth and young adults to help them improve depressive symptoms and self-esteem as well as effectively address family, relationship and peer conflicts.
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This is a hard thing to answer. Not everybody is the same and theres no one answer fits all. If you feel like there is an issue that you are unable to get past on your own and need help, perhaps speaking with a counselor or therapist can help. If you are underage, then perhaps seeking a trusted adult or someone you can talk to, can maybe put you on the right track for finding the help that you need.
Talk to friends or come on here and talk to one of us listeners. We are always willing to listen and help to the best of our abilities
You can seek help through other people and resources, try online or a friend, teacher, counselor. I mean you can't just avoid the problem if there's something bothering you it should be help. It's okay if parents can't give you that, you shouldn't give up if they can't.
The family is the most important support group, but it's not the only one. Friends, mentors, specialists, and other online resources and guides are there for you.
Maybe you could find someone else you trust, maybe an adult or even a listener here on 7 cups of tea!
I have struggled with this question as well. I have found that once you change your mindset, it becomes easier to process. I altered my thoughts to "My family cannot help me the way I expect/want them to. This does not affect their love for me."
Do you have friends you can reach out to? In what way aren't your family able to help you? If you need to chat I'm happy to listen... sometimes an impartial ear helps you move in the right direction.
Its good if you can get a therapist or a counselor to help you if the people close to you can't. Its good for you to solve the issues you are facing rather than just putting it aside. Because if you put them aside they will haunt you later if something triggers it.
Look for help within friends and seek guidance counselors if under the age of 18. Also try to talk to people around you as much as you can.
Possibly seek a personal therapist, or a pastor/priest. You need someone to talk to that can relate or give you advice.
There's always a solution for every problem. Try breaking the problem into a small section and you will be able to solve it with or without any help. Even tho family may not be able to help but they are our cushion for emotions.
While it would be lovely to have support from friends and family with problems, ultimately we are all responsible for making our own success. Maybe looking for outside assistance (like on 7 cups!) would help you?
It's difficult to get past that problem when your family is not there to help you. You may feel very disappointed because you expect them to be available to you when they are not. That brings you a lot of stress and disappointment. By focusing on how your family is unavailable to you, you create more stress and disappointment in your life. Once you realize how this disappointed negatively impacts you and you realize that you will be happier not focusing on them, your life will change in positive ways and you will become happier. It's may feel like a lonely journey but one thing to realize is that you are benefitting from this a you gain resilience, independence and self-sufficiency.
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