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Is it normal for me to hate my parents?

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Last Updated: 12/15/2020 at 8:16pm
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Anonymous
January 29th, 2015 5:47pm
Well teen mood swings are normal, its a part of growing up, being mad at your parents that is. But if you like Hate Hate them, then that may not be the most normal thing. It depends for how long and how severe you have felt this way.
Anonymous
May 5th, 2015 2:11am
Any way you feel is normal! Your feelings are always valid! Hate is a very strong emotion, and it's very unlikely you'd feel this way without a reason. Many people have hard relationships with their parents. It's important for you to work out the core of this feeling, why you feel such strong negative feelings for them. Have they mistreated you? Have they been abusive? Have they been neglectful? Once you've identified it, put yourself in their shoes. Did they intend to harm you? Did they know they were hurting your feelings? Have you tried to tell them you feel this way? Create an open dialogue and try to be understanding, but in the end if you feel they are bad for your emotional well-being, that's okay, too. You are allowed to care for yourself and be happy.
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2015 7:13pm
I personally don't think it is considered "normal" to hate your parents. There is a reason for the hate towards your parents and it's usually not your own fault when something bad has been done to you.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2015 4:40pm
Yes. It is part of the normal order of growing up. from 13-25 this is more likely to occor then any other time
Zoso67
June 17th, 2015 3:57am
It is normal to feel strong emotions against anyone whether they are related or not. What's most important is to think and analyze as to why you feel such strong emotions. Maybe a chain of events have led to this state but you haven't had the opportunity to communicate the issue at hand. Communicating your feelings is extremely important whether it is to the parties involved or towards a professional.
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2017 9:05pm
i don't know. I hate my whole family. they never understand me and however hard i try its not good enough. quoting my mum: " i am a shallow disappointment" all because i don't read as many books as i used to. think if your parents try to bee good parents than you should forgive them to certain extents.
friendlyPerspective32
January 3rd, 2017 7:29pm
I wouldn't say that it's normal or abnormal, but you are not obligated to like your parents. Not all families are the same, and you may be in one that is toxic for you. I would suggest communicating with them about your needs and feelings though if you still want to build a relationship with your parents. Perhaps there was a misunderstanding that you may need to work out with them. Best of luck!
Anonymous
March 15th, 2016 10:10pm
Yes. But let me clarify. Hate is not an excuse to kill them, nor is it a legal defense. But all kids I know have hated their parents at one time or another.
Anonymous
November 24th, 2017 5:46am
Hey, I'm going through a rough time myself with my parents. IDK what to do? it's kind of frustrating, but what helps me is just running and focusing on things I love to do. In my case, that's working out and studying a lot. It just keeps me busy and away from everything. Hope this helps.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2015 10:07pm
i am not aware of your situation however it is normal to through phases where you hate your parents.
ChaoticGood
May 17th, 2016 1:29pm
Usually, yes. Many people will hate their parents at some point in their lives. Sometimes trying to talk it out with them can help, so they understand
faithlove1111
June 18th, 2018 3:33am
I cannot say whether it's normal or abnormal but yes , we all harbour certain resentments towards our parents . More so if they have very strict parenting skills and put on pressure on their children to perform on aspects like socializing , education, sports and so on. It's another story if the parents themselves have emotional baggages. Then their might have cause some emotional scars , abuse :either physical or mental or even both. This could cause the hate that their children feel. Honestly, in most households where the parents practise good mental ,emotional and healthy lifestyles, there is bound to be some dissatisfaction between the parents and their children.
CandyCure
November 2nd, 2020 3:25pm
It may not be normal in the sense of frequency and what's broadcasted in society but it is normal to have strong feelings, whether good or bad, towards people. Influential people, like parents, can help create the feelings of anger, hate, insecurity by being bad parents and doing things that they shouldn't have done. Making a kid feel unsafe, unheard and unimportant can be added to the list. Since all emotions are valid, you hating your parents is. No emotion just wakes up and decides to overcome you, so you most likely have a reason for feeling the way you do.
Joshua19844891
December 15th, 2020 8:16pm
It really depends on what weight you place on that word: Hate. Some people use that word loosely and freely- I hate school, I hate so and so at school, I hate my job, I hate my morning commute. Ask yourself, what is the definition of hate? What does it really mean? I think it is normal to feel such strong feelings under condition of abuse. Physical, sexual, and extreme emotional abuse. I would caution that person before they use that word. Look deep into your past and think of what role your parents have played since you were born. Consider everything- the entire big picture. And after you answer to yourself what you believe is the definition of "hate," then you can start on what the word "normal" means.