What if I'm a lesbian mom?

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Anonymous
May 21st, 2015 1:47pm
If your a Lesbian MOM, just embrace it and be happy and love your child and show them no hate and teach them kindness. And Know You Are LOVED HERE at 7 Cups Of Tea
Anonymous
April 4th, 2015 11:41am
Mom's are awesome. No matter if you are lesbo or straight. Motherhood is beyond everything and beyond these barriers created by humans.
Dovah
May 27th, 2015 5:59pm
That's totally fine! There's nothing wrong with that, your child isn't going to grow up affected negatively by that. Love is unconditional.
Anonymous
February 28th, 2015 10:42pm
Its okay to be a lesbian and a mom, all that matters is that your brave enough to be different than other parents and not be like a programed robot and whats the difference? Your still taking the risk to be stared at but YOUR STILL TAKING CARE OF A CHILD, you dont need to feel different i know this because im a lesbian mom.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2015 11:00pm
Then embrace it its 2015 you should be proud of yourself no matter what you are!And who you are atleast if gay people raise a kid it wont be a chav
Banven
April 10th, 2015 2:55pm
What if you’re a lesbian? What if? So? It’s no big deal. Not these days. That’s like saying, what if I like Nickleback dad? OK, sure, he may disown you for that, but these days sexual preference is nothing. We’re the new generation, parents now live in our world and our world is about change, acceptance and love, for the most part anyway! So, what if you’re lesbian, bi-sexual, gay, transsexual or some other thing? Who cares? It shouldn’t be a label so don’t make it into one. If you make it into an issue it will be seen as an issue. Just be what you are and don’t worry about the label. As long as you’re happy who cares what you are?
saskia4help
May 8th, 2015 7:52pm
there is nothing you can do about it other than be the best damn mom you can be and dont let anyone get in your way
MaxObie22
May 17th, 2015 8:59pm
There's no difference between you and any other mom on planet earth, it only gives your children a wider vision of what the world is like. :) Good for you
worthit97
July 3rd, 2015 5:43pm
At the end of the day, you are still her mum. The one she can count on, the one she knows will always have her back and catch her when she fall. As much as we hate it, there are many judgemental people out there who will bring her down and send hate to her when they find out that she is a lesbian (if she is one). And when that happens, she will need you to be there. No one else is more important than family. The day you found out you were pregnant with her, was the day you became her FAMILY. Be supportive of her and do not let her feel that it is "wrong" to be a lesbian. Everybody deserves to love and be loved regardless of race, gender, sexual orientation, etc. Be proud of her regardless because she is still human, just like you are. xx
Anonymous
November 2nd, 2015 5:47pm
As a listener I encourage the client to explore and embrace their newfound sexuality with pride. i encourage the client to start to see themselves as the sister, brother, son or daughter so they can define their selves as such and not as just gay or lesbian.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2015 9:56am
Lesbian mom is no different from gay dads or straight parents - honestly it's only backwards narrow minded people who believe this is an issue. It's all about peace and love - if you can take care of your child, why would it matter?
Anonymous
November 17th, 2015 6:23am
Your kid(s) will love you however you are so you shouldn't try to be someone else for them or your husband you should tell them you'll be happier
Anonymous
January 4th, 2016 2:08am
Then your child will still love you and probably his/her other mother as well. It shouldn't change too much.
ZheGhostD1
January 18th, 2016 3:59am
Then you are a lesbian mom. It's your choice, not anyone elses's, so you should do what you want to do. After all, it's your life, not theirs.
Greatlistener87
March 21st, 2016 2:58am
It's fine to be a lesbian mom if you want to. Just remember that the idea is that you be a good mom to your child and that your partner is also a good parent to your kids. At the end its all about the responsibility of how u bring up your kids and the environment u create for them.
DavidDelRey
November 7th, 2016 9:51pm
Nothing wrong would happen. Being mom doesn't have nothing to do with your sexual orientation. Love is love.
gentleHorizon27
March 20th, 2017 2:42am
Its okay to be a lesbian mom. Our society still holds taboos about sexuality, but it has become more and more acceptable to parent as a gay parent. Unfortunately, you will still find people that don't accept you just because of your sexuality. I personally would have no issue with my children playing with your children or us being friends just because of your sexual identity. I guess I would have to answer your question with one of my own: so what if you were a lesbian mom? It is what you are and part of who you are. This doesn't make you any less of a parent or a mom.
Maxinchen
February 6th, 2018 5:53pm
Go for it! Sexual orientation has nothing to do with whether you are a good mom or not! Stay away from people who tell you otherwise!
bestWillow16
March 5th, 2018 11:24pm
There is nothing wrong with that. As long as you are sure of who you want to be, and it makes you happy then you should stay true to yourself. People will respect that