What's the best way to deal with my family members not understanding my depression and pressuring me to do things that I'm having a hard time with?
Last Updated: 05/16/2017 at 6:09am
Halayma Khatun, M.A Theology(U.K, UAE), Diploma With Distinction in Counseling, Certification trauma abandonment
Compassionate, patient, experienced depression counselor. I use Psychodynamic counseling techniques. My counseling experience is +8 years, I counsel women.
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Find a healthy support system with maybe some friends, or a psychiatrist, when your family becomes too much make sure to call someone and get it all out, instead of bottling it up and making yourself feel worse by thinking too much about it.
Try to sit them down and let them know you feel that they're pressuring you, and that you want them to support you. Tell them exactly how you feel - and that when you're having a hard time with things, pressure only makes it worse. :)
Understanding and being honest are very important when it comes to depression. Having honest conversations with them about how you feel and what you think it should be done to help improves a lot.
The best choice for you is to talking directly to them all the things you have to face. So that they can understand clearly your problem. The more you hide the more you feel depressed. Just try to choose a suitable time to talk to them.
The best thing is just to tell them that you can't do certain things as easily as those not with Depression. You shouldn't do something you have a hard time with at first. Eventually it'll be okay, and they should support you in these times of trouble.
It's difficult for family members to understand depression. They dont understand how someone can hurt on the inside and it's hard to explain because often times we don't really know how to describe it. For me personally, it's easier if I just tell myself that them not understanding means they don't feel the way I do and I consider that a good thing. If you are having a hard time finding a way to explain it, try using the black dog example. Just google black dog depression comic. There's even a book. For some people its easier understood by metaphor or visual aid.
Be honest and stand your ground - this is your battle it they are the judgemental ones. Do not be bullied
Whether you had been diagnosed by a specialist or not, your family members really have to understand your depression. If I am right this is their own way to help and it's already pressuring you without them knowing that you are already having a hard time with it. I am not saying they are bad. It's just that they wanted to help but it went wrong. The best way to deal with your family is to ask them what they feel about your situation and why they are pressuring you. Maybe one way to deal also is to let yourself understand what is behind their actions. Maybe it's their way to show love for you because they won't ignore you or show some apathy, but instead they think on things that you could do.. :)
Tell them you feel uncomfortable doing this you have hard time with. It isn't nice to feel pressured.
Idk ignore them maybe. My family pressurizes me to get better in a glimpse of an eye, but what they don't know is that it's not easy. That's okay if they don't get you. Just try to avoid conversations related to you and things will get better.
It's hard to open a discussion about how your mental illness is affecting your life with people who have not gone through it and who may not fully understand. However, I think it may be beneficial to have an open and honest discussion about how it makes you feel and all you can do is hope that they will at least try to understand a bit more.
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