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What's the best way to deal with my family members not understanding my depression and pressuring me to do things that I'm having a hard time with?

12 Answers
Last Updated: 07/20/2021 at 10:42pm
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Halayma Khatun, M.A Theology(U.K, UAE), Diploma With Distinction in Counseling, Certification trauma abandonment


Compassionate, patient, experienced depression counselor. I use Psychodynamic counseling techniques. My counseling experience is +8 years, I counsel women.

Top Rated Answers
January 14th, 2015 7:38am
Find a healthy support system with maybe some friends, or a psychiatrist, when your family becomes too much make sure to call someone and get it all out, instead of bottling it up and making yourself feel worse by thinking too much about it.
February 18th, 2015 12:49am
Try to sit them down and let them know you feel that they're pressuring you, and that you want them to support you. Tell them exactly how you feel - and that when you're having a hard time with things, pressure only makes it worse. :)
June 8th, 2015 4:27pm
Understanding and being honest are very important when it comes to depression. Having honest conversations with them about how you feel and what you think it should be done to help improves a lot.
June 18th, 2015 3:33am
The best choice for you is to talking directly to them all the things you have to face. So that they can understand clearly your problem. The more you hide the more you feel depressed. Just try to choose a suitable time to talk to them.
June 22nd, 2015 1:37am
The best thing is just to tell them that you can't do certain things as easily as those not with Depression. You shouldn't do something you have a hard time with at first. Eventually it'll be okay, and they should support you in these times of trouble.
August 17th, 2015 4:03am
It's difficult for family members to understand depression. They dont understand how someone can hurt on the inside and it's hard to explain because often times we don't really know how to describe it. For me personally, it's easier if I just tell myself that them not understanding means they don't feel the way I do and I consider that a good thing. If you are having a hard time finding a way to explain it, try using the black dog example. Just google black dog depression comic. There's even a book. For some people its easier understood by metaphor or visual aid.
December 29th, 2015 2:06am
Be honest and stand your ground - this is your battle it they are the judgemental ones. Do not be bullied
January 4th, 2016 9:18am
Whether you had been diagnosed by a specialist or not, your family members really have to understand your depression. If I am right this is their own way to help and it's already pressuring you without them knowing that you are already having a hard time with it. I am not saying they are bad. It's just that they wanted to help but it went wrong. The best way to deal with your family is to ask them what they feel about your situation and why they are pressuring you. Maybe one way to deal also is to let yourself understand what is behind their actions. Maybe it's their way to show love for you because they won't ignore you or show some apathy, but instead they think on things that you could do.. :)
June 6th, 2016 5:42pm
Tell them you feel uncomfortable doing this you have hard time with. It isn't nice to feel pressured.
October 18th, 2016 10:29am
Idk ignore them maybe. My family pressurizes me to get better in a glimpse of an eye, but what they don't know is that it's not easy. That's okay if they don't get you. Just try to avoid conversations related to you and things will get better.
May 16th, 2017 6:09am
It's hard to open a discussion about how your mental illness is affecting your life with people who have not gone through it and who may not fully understand. However, I think it may be beneficial to have an open and honest discussion about how it makes you feel and all you can do is hope that they will at least try to understand a bit more.
July 20th, 2021 10:42pm
Hey there! Its really a very genuine issue when people expect more from you while you are already going on with so many things in yourself only. Though we live in a family and we have our roles there so, expectation is a vital term there. But when we are feeling low and depressed its hard to give our best. In a situation like this one shall take a break. A family talk and discussion might also help by improving the mutual understanding if it works well, sharing of workload for that period of time can bring positive results. If not, then asking help with a friend or someone who can possibly help can also help in lowering the stress.