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What's the best way to stop fight between mom and dad without making them angry?

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Last Updated: 08/03/2021 at 1:40am
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Top Rated Answers
flxrxleen
April 29th, 2015 2:21am
Tell them that you're hurt to see them fight this way, and you hope to see them calm down and talk instead of fighting and as a result hurting you at the same time.
JessInTechnicolour
April 1st, 2015 1:03am
I'm sorry you have to experience your parents fighting. That's never a pleasant thing. It's best to not interfere when people are having an argument because they are likely not thinking rationally and may direct their anger at you by accident. When they are calm, you could speak to each of them individually and tell them you love them and care about them and then tell them how their fighting makes you feel. If you express how their fighting affects you, hopefully it will encourage them to behave differently, especially in your presence. Best wishes!
Anonymous
February 25th, 2015 1:43pm
Sit down and speak to them without raising voices. Explain what is going on, Tell them you really need them
Ninolo
February 5th, 2018 5:51pm
If you are their child, you are ill suited to be the intermediate between them. It's best if the mediator is a person with no personal ties to any of the parties involved in the conflict. In other words, even if you know how to help them, you're the wrong person to do so: they will not let you, and whatever you do may affect your relationship to each of them.
MaddestHatter
May 27th, 2015 9:53am
I can't speak too well form experience in this field, but when it was regarding my mom + someone else, I would always distract one of them subtly.
GeorgiaMae
June 23rd, 2015 12:33am
Talk to both of them individually and tell them how their fights are affecting you and your home life! Confronting them whilst they're fighting is a no go, just talk to them when they're calm and you should do just fine!
Robyncheespuff19
February 23rd, 2016 1:31pm
I would say the best way to stop a fight between mum and dad wihtouth making them angry is once they have stopped the argument, talk to each of them separately and explain what it makes you feel when they argue, and then talk to them together. They might understand the effect is it having on you, and make them realise that they need to sort out their problems nstead of arguing about them.
PoliteOcean
September 21st, 2015 4:28am
That can be difficult. And a child should not have to worry about stopping a fight between their parents. If you are having issues with your parents fighting, perhaps talking to them about how you feel could help.
Manta
December 7th, 2015 2:21pm
Show what brings them together, without corrupting it with things that drive them apart. Take on extra tasks or chores to make life easier for both of them, thus reducing the household stress. Coordinate with siblings. Talk with your parents as adults and allow them to voice their concerns about the relationship. Genuinely desire to see both view points, and then work with them to create a better environment for all.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 7:31am
I suggest that when they are not fighting, you talk to them each separately. Emphasis on separately. You can even do it on 2 different days. Make sure you explain how their fighting is affecting you.
musicalZebra37
April 12th, 2016 6:34pm
By talking to each one fo them alone, when they are in a good mood, and try to start it indirectly, not just coming to them and being like "Mom/Dad, you need to stop fighting." Try to first know what is causing the fight and slowly try to come up with a solution.
Anonymous
October 31st, 2016 4:46am
Have a calm conversation with them, and let them know how you do not like it, and that it makes you uncomfortable. Actually, because they are yelling and screaming, when you have calming tone, and voice, it will be more powerful.
Anonymous
December 14th, 2015 7:11am
Be the mediator, remind them how they love each other. Ask them what's the problem, offer your hekp to them.
beautifulheart100
December 15th, 2015 1:16pm
Mom and dad are the last generation me the New one. They are losted between the tow generation.. so i have to respect them and help myself.. so tge best why by make them understand listen to them even if iam not agree with them
connectb4ucorrect
May 4th, 2021 2:21am
This is for sure a difficult one to experience and answer. However, at times a child can play a role of a mediator. Talking to both of them about how it makes you feel is important. It is important to know the cause of the fight- parenting issue, relationship, responsibilities, finance or another person in the marriage. Try to have a neutral viewpoint when you approach parents. At times the relationship is more important than the situation. If the end result is compromise, then lets not do the blame game. Instead talk out everything out as a family- Unit. If you are award what the family stands for, remind the values to the parents. Its important for them to be reminded of rules and values that they started and not have diverted.
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2021 1:40am
First of all you remain calm, find the major problem if they don't, talk to them but separately if it is available to do so. The key is talking it out do the problem is resolved in this case. If that doesn't help I suggest going to a counselor if it'd applicable by chance. Many people go through this everyday so you are not alone. Many emotions may come to you but most important thing is to stay calm and be aware of any other things going on or like solutions. Many have managed to over come this and it's wonderful.