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Do you have to come out to everyone?

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Last Updated: 11/11/2019 at 10:53pm
Do you have to come out to everyone?
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September 21st, 2015 5:36pm
Not at all! The only person who needs to know who you are is you! Come out to people who you are comfortable around, and for the rest, who cares? They don't need to know!
February 25th, 2015 6:56pm
You don't. It is well within your right to come out to whoever you want, especially if you live in a country where LGTBA people are heavily discriminated agaisnt. All reasons are valid for not coming out, from "I'm afraid I'll get beaten up" to "I just don't feel like telling them". You're not and shouldn't be forced to disclose any information about yourself. Besides, it's their fault for assuming you're not LGTBA in the first place :)
October 26th, 2015 10:45pm
I don't believe that you have to come out to everyone. Coming out should be your personal choice and if you choose not to tell somebody, that is your choice. I like to personally come out to everyone because I am very comfortable with it and I feel like people should no who I really am.
April 19th, 2015 12:16pm
No, you don't! You only have to come out when you want it, and not everyone has to know your sexual orientation.
June 4th, 2018 6:07am
I think that can be a personal choice. Choosing to come out to your professional colleagues or your personal social circle depends on the individual. You can choose to be as open or as private about your life as you are comfortable with. There is no right or wrong answer.
November 11th, 2019 10:53pm
You absolutely do not have to come out to everyone. Coming out is a very personal choice that is up to you. It’s important to remember that people you trust are safe bets when coming out, and they should also be people who are both close to you and comfortable with accepting you for you. Like other personal information, you may not be comfortable with sharing the details of your coming out online. That’s perfectly fine. Some people would like everyone to know that they are a certain gender/identity or orientation, others would not. Ultimately, if it is in a safe situation and feels right to you, go ahead and come out. I hope this helps!
April 10th, 2015 1:04am
Not everyone, only if you want to. If you feel like you want to come out to everyone then do! Only if you feel safe in your area however. But there's nothing wrong with not telling everyone, keeping it to family and friends is perfectly fine!
July 13th, 2016 3:42pm
Certainly not! You are not responsible for explaining your own private life and preferences to the world! And not everyone needs to know anyway. You are free to pick and choose who you want to come out to! It's all about your level of comfort!
October 25th, 2016 7:27pm
No. Everyone does not need to know. Come out to only those that you are comfortable with and that you personally trust.
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August 20th, 2018 7:42pm
No, not necessarily. Who you come out to is a decision that is entirely up to you. It's your personal choice to decide whether you want everyone to know, or just some people, be it your friends, your family or whoever you want. There's nothing wrong about not wanting everyone to know, there can be many reasons for it, and you're not obliged to say it if you don't want to, since it is something that concerns yourself and you don't owe this information to anyone. The choices about coming out are the most personal, and should be totally free.
February 24th, 2015 11:01am
No, you do not have to come out to everyone. In fact, you don't need to come out to anyone. If you so not ready, it might not be the right time for you to come out. Coming out is not easy and it is really terrifying at first. Once you start telling people, it will get easier. You can't come out to everyone in one day. You will be coming out for the rest of your life to new people. If you don't trust someone or you feel that the person you want to tell will put you in any danger for coming out, maybe it is best not to tell that person.
March 11th, 2015 4:14pm
You don't have to come out to anyone you don't want to. You only have to come out to people you're comfortable with knowing and you want to know.
April 16th, 2015 11:55pm
No, you don't You're gender and sexuality is your own business. Once you're able to accept yourself and come out to those closest to you, nothing else really matters.
April 25th, 2015 11:33pm
No not if you don't feel like it. Take your time and do it how you want it to. Its only you who can make that decion
April 26th, 2015 2:07am
No, Of course not! Come out to the people you want to come out to. Come out only when you're ready. Come out at your own pace. Do whatever is comfortable for you ^.^ you are very brave for considering coming out!
April 29th, 2015 3:17pm
"Coming out" to anyone is your own personal choice. You absolutely don't have to reveal everything about yourself to anyone that you happen to come across. Choose the people you're comfortable with and choose what you're comfortable sharing. You're life is your own, make it truly yours.
May 7th, 2015 9:26pm
Coming out to whoever you want to totally up to you. You should never let any pressure for you to or not to come out. Once you decide what your sexuality is, then the next step is figuring out who you want to come out to. If you are scared to tell everybody and would rather just tell the people you trust, thats fine!
May 30th, 2015 5:01am
You never have to come out if you don't want to. It's a personal choice and it's entirely up to you who to come out to and when.
May 31st, 2015 8:54pm
Nope! It's not really necessary to tell anyone, really. You can only tell people you deem worthy of knowing, if that's how you'd like to do it. I've only told my closest friends. No family, co-workers, bosses, etc. Coming out is a constant and tiring thing to do, anyway.
November 27th, 2015 7:33pm
You definitely don't have to come out to everyone. Its a personal decision and if you don't want to, are not comfortable, or if its not safe those are all valid reasons to not come out to everyone. Coming out can be a great thing for me it helps me live more genuinely as the person I am and share that truth with those I care about. But there are still people in my life that I am not out to. That is my personal decision and it should be respected.
December 7th, 2015 2:57pm
I don't think you HAVE to. I mean, I did to my friends and my grandmother but never anyone else.
December 14th, 2015 3:21am
Of course you don't. You don't have to do anything that will make you feel uncomfortable or vulnerable. Your sexuality is your business, and the people you share that with is up to you.
December 29th, 2015 3:04pm
No, not at all. It's completely up to you who to come out to or not come out to. I would suggest only coming out to people you feel comfortable with and know will be accepting of your sexual orientation, at least to start with.
July 11th, 2016 4:10pm
No - you don't have to justify your sexuality to everyone. It's none of their business. Do straight people have to come out as straight? Just go on living your life. Tell the people in your life who you feel need to know, or who you think you need to tell, and then go on living as you should. : ) Coming out to everyone is unnecessary. Nowadays a lot of people do it on social media, but it's totally up to you. Do whatever you are comfortable doing. Ultimately, it doesn't matter. Be yourself! Best of luck, I know this time is challenging.
July 12th, 2016 5:05pm
No, you don't have to come out to everyone. Only you get to choose who you come out to, how you come out to that person, when you come out to that person, and where you come out to that person.
August 2nd, 2016 9:07am
Of course not! It took me ages to come out to my parents because I did find it less important for them to know than for my friends. It is your choice who to tell and you can let the whole world know if you want (internet might be the most effective way :p).
May 3rd, 2015 2:13pm
You only have to come out to people you're comfortable with when you feel like you're ready to do it. There is no pressure, go at your own pace.
August 13th, 2015 3:55pm
No, you don't have to come out to everyone. Coming out (or not) is your choice and you can decide to tell everyone or nobody or just a few people. The life is yours and you must not feel like you owe people an explanation for who you decide to love or who and how you decide to be.
August 17th, 2015 1:44pm
You never need to tell everyone of what your sexuality and/or gender is. It's best to tell the amount of people you are comfortable with, you are not obligated in any way to have to tell everyone including your parents.
October 28th, 2015 12:10am
No, it is completely your choice when you come out, and who you come out to. You can do it whenever you feel comfortable to, just take your time.