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I dont want to fall in badly for a girl, ive been talking to someone for like 3 weeks and i want to be into a relationship with her but i dont wanna fall badly in love bc i will screw things then?

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Last Updated: 07/06/2020 at 8:33am
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Anonymous
December 3rd, 2018 9:26am
Confidence is the key of success on every step, and i personally believe falling in love is one the beautiful time of anyone's life has nothing to do with how much time you both spend together it just happens, if you really think you are experiencing one ... remember it all revolves around our mind powers.If we remain positive and want to achieve anything we should think positively toward our goals ....and just go with the flow with confidence on your self and on your love. P.S: don't forget to handle with care and affection
Anonymous
September 3rd, 2019 6:57pm
I understand where you are coming from. It can feel scary to fall in love with someone so fast, and you can fear that you will screw things up. The best way to create a solid relationship, is to take your time to be friends first, and get to know each other better. As you build trust with each other, and become more intimate in what you share about yourselves, those bonds will strengthen over time. As that bond strengthens, your fears will eventually fade, and you will be able to invest yourself in the relationship more. It is normal to fear messing things up in the beginning and being unsure how to handle things. Taking your time to get to know each other better can really help you realize what the best next step is.
APomegrenateTree
July 6th, 2020 8:33am
Hi! It seems like a conflicting situation: on one side, you really want to be with this girl, while on the other side, you are scared of making a mistake. It is perfectly normal to want a successful relationship and not to hurt your significant other. It seems to me as you're having some insecurities about yourself, and it might be interesting to try to find concretely what you're more scared of. What do you mean by screwing things? Are you afraid of how you react? Is it because of a past relationship? For example, when I was afraid of getting a new relationship, it helped me to understand what triggered my insecurities. I had problems with bottling up feelings. Once I recognized it, it helped me to stay in the present and find concrete solutions to make sure my next relationship would go better. Of course, you are the expert on your situation. I hope this helped you! Good luck!