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I'm too short for a guy to date. What can I do?

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Last Updated: 01/01/2022 at 4:24am
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Top Rated Answers
July 25th, 2016 11:59pm
If your height bothers you, and you walk around feeling self-conscious and intimidated, people will respond to your self-consciousness and your feelings of inadequacy. If, on the other hand, you know that you're a good and attractive person and project that image to the world, people will respond to you in a different way. You have to be confident in who you are, that's what others see most... not how tall you are. So hang in there. You will find someone who loves you for who you are.
May 18th, 2017 10:17am
Value yourself. There is no such thing as too short to date. You might have been told that by someone but it is not indicative of you as a person. Focus on values, familiarities and connection rather than worrying about the physical so much as a deal breaker. You are who you are. Love yourself and you will soon find someone who loves you. For who you are, not what a number on a measuring tape says!!
June 20th, 2018 8:03pm
No one is too short for a guy to date! You just got to find the right person. If a someone loves you, they don't care about your height :)
July 26th, 2016 4:57am
There is never TOO much. You can never be TOO short or TOO tall, because there will always be someone who looks past what you consider your superficial flaws, and may even see them as a positive thing. In order to find the right guy, you need not do anything but be yourself. Sooner or later, he'll come running.
June 8th, 2018 3:14am
If a guy is saying that you are not good enough for them solely based on the fact that they believe you are not tall enough for you, then they are not someone who you should worry about. You are perfect as you are. I am 5 foot and 1 inch, while I do consider myself short , I believe that some day I will find someone who loves me as I am. I believe this is the same case for you!
July 24th, 2016 11:58pm
Your physical components should never determine your compatibility. Find someone who disregards your physical characteristics, for they will fade, but personalities get sharper.
October 30th, 2020 1:22pm
I have many answers for this: 1. This is the answer, you might want to hear. Let's be practical, you have to work on your height. Try exercises that help like jogging, jumping jacks etc. Make a schedule and try to work on your height rather than whinning about it. Because while whinning seems like an easy option, it never helps. 2. This is something you might not want to hear but, I feel this one is worth reading. "Too short" isn't a bad thing. It seems bad because *you* believe it is, or because someone else *made* you believe it is. Have confidence in yourself. Confidence, this is something which can bag you any guy no matter how short/tall you are. Because if you peek inside the mind of almost any guy, you will conclude, confidence is something each of them likes in a girl. 3. On a philosophical note, I would like to highlight the point that, why do you think changing yourself would bring you good guys or relationships? Those almost never work. If someone actually liked you, they would like you for whatever you are. No matter how short, tall, skinny, fat you are. Nothing matters when it comes to actual feelings. Let's say, someone would like you when you are tall enough, but don't you think it would be conditional? Don't you think there would be a voice bugging you always that he likes you because you are "tall enough" which you weren't initially and naturally? 4. Also, I have noticed many people prefer short girls over tall ones. I have answered differently for this single question since, I would like to give you the freedom of choosing your answer. Do what *you* think is right for yourself.
May 14th, 2020 10:35pm
Honestly, I can relate to this situation a lot. I'm currently 5'0. But before I was 4'8 or 4'11 for the longest time. I was always called out for being the shortest person. They always said,"You're never going to get a guy if you don't grow." It hurt a lot but fortunately, that wasn't the case. I ended up finding the best guy who accepted me for who I was and it didn't matter to him how short I was/am. He cared for me and my personality and I can bet that you will find your own guy who will accept you for who you are. Also, just know that there is no such thing as being too short to date. If a guy tells you that you're too short for him, then prove him wrong. Find another guy and tell that guy that your height doesn't matter. What shines about you is your personality and that's all that matters.
July 27th, 2016 1:27am
Your physical characteristics do not determine your prospects. You are more than your height. Celebrate and focus on the positive characteristics about yourself, and what makes you unique, The right person will come along and see you for who you are and will love and cherish you. Stay positive!
July 28th, 2016 5:11pm
Nothing. You shouldn't be doing anything. Either he accepts you for your height or he doesn't. Either way, you're NOT obliged to change whatsoever.
August 6th, 2016 2:13am
Tell that guy who won't date you that he's too tall for you. There's no such thing as too short. Every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top (to quote Meghan Trainor)
October 19th, 2016 5:15am
You could never be to short for a guy to date! Your height doesn't define you! You're awesome! The guy you want to date shouldn't care how tall you are, height doesn't define you!
July 1st, 2018 1:52pm
You can't do anything about your height, its just the way you are. You just need to find someone right if thats your concern, someone who doesnt care about such things
August 6th, 2016 1:50am
If your self worth is being measured by height then he is not the right guy. No matter the heights if the couple is meant to be everything will work out.
October 23rd, 2016 11:44pm
Have you thought of wearing high heels? If they suit your outfit nicely and it is easy for you to walk on them, you could try wearing them. With a little help, you'll be a little higher to your date.
August 2nd, 2018 6:47am
You are not to short for a guy to date. No matter how short you are there will still be people who think you are beautiful and are an amazing person.
September 18th, 2020 11:07pm
Love will still find its way, don't worry! Many a times we think outside beauty is important but we forget that with age everything has to ultimately dissapear. The perfect, glossy tight skin would be at last replaced by wrinkles and so on. "Attraction is something that's born in the eyes and dies in the eye as well" so it's better not to have someone than having someone who only likes you because of your appearance. You'll get someone who would place your inside beauty a way higher than your outside appearance. Till then, have patience and just smile :)
September 17th, 2020 4:42am
Too short by who's standards? Oftentimes we think these things about ourselves: that we aren't "good" enough or this enough or that enough. But the truth is, there are 7.5 billion humans on this planet, and your special partner is somewhere out there. There are plenty of beautiful stories out there of people who suffer from dwarfism finding, dating, and having children with incredible partners. There are so many factors to consider when looking for a partner and your height is just one of them. Your personality, character, sense of self, attitude and background are just some of the other aspects that make you who you are. Believe in yourself! You will find the right person
July 29th, 2016 4:22am
Why do you think you're too short for him? He may not even feel that way, and such a superficial trait shouldn't be important to him anyway. Meaning, he wouldn't be a good match if he thinks you are "too short".
July 29th, 2016 6:26am
The universe is so wast .Someone somewhere is seeking for us as we are , with the given height ,weight, good and bad qualities, not more not less.Every one is needed in this universe.Thank you for the question and now i have begun to love myself as I am .
July 29th, 2016 4:54pm
For one, there is most certainly a guy out there on the flip side of your situation saying, "I am too tall for a girl to date". You are definitely not alone in worrying about how physical appearance may impact dating. Physical appearance is one of the biggest marketing tools used by society to define standards of dating and acceptance. What someone else who enjoys your company will see is not how tall you are or are not, but how great of a person you are.
August 4th, 2016 8:11am
Firstly Be yourself and trust & believe to yourself. Then effect her with ur characteristic features.
August 5th, 2016 4:13am
Find another person. If one person doesn't love you, oh well. If the next and the next and the next on end doesn't like you move on. Find someone who loves you for who you are and doesn't care about your height.
August 5th, 2016 9:24am
There's nothing you can do other than accept who you are. Guys usually love a short girl anyway so there's nothing to be ashamed of! Someone will love you as you are.
August 19th, 2016 3:30am
Im short too! Dont worry about it. Guys like it and if some dont then thats in them. So many celebrities are short.
May 17th, 2017 3:07pm
Nothing, because there is nothing wrong with you. Just because you may not meet his preferences for height, doesn't mean you need to change anything. You're just not right for him, but you will be right for someone. Just remember that you're perfect how you are and someone will eventually see that and make you feel as perfect as you are.
June 22nd, 2017 12:25am
Height doesn't matter, but if it really bothers you, you shouldn't date him. You could try and see if you care later, height doesn't define anything. :)
November 9th, 2017 11:10pm
Try looking for someone who is open minded and will accept you for you! It is important to accept others for their differences
July 27th, 2016 12:41pm
well honestly, I am dating a guy who is short and I think we're of the same height, if I wear heels I am talker than him. Honestly to me his personality and his kind nature is all that mattered. He's not rich either, but he's a man in the making. Find someone who likes you for who you are intrinsically, not for physical appearance.
July 30th, 2016 11:14am
That does not matter at all! You can still be beautiful and all that even if you are "too short". The topic "relations and love" are complex but it depends on personal favor.