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How can I deal with someone that is acting like a 'diva'?

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Last Updated: 02/12/2022 at 4:30am
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Top Rated Answers
July 9th, 2016 5:50pm
What do you mean by "Diva" you need to explain what you are dealing with please rewrite and send again.
August 11th, 2016 1:11pm
Understand why this behvaiour bothers you. Evaluate your behaviour. Evaluate your behaviour towards the other person. Think about what you're winning and losing from this behaviour.
October 8th, 2016 9:43am
Ignore them. Be professional, curt and civil. You can control other people's behavior, thoughts, or feelings - this means that unruly people sometimes have to be let alone so they can be unruly unto themselves.
May 9th, 2018 3:25am
let he live in her fantasy. ignore her ego and her own ideas about herself. let reality hit her hard in the face once she comes down the high tree she is.
July 13th, 2016 6:06am
You don't have to deal with her. She is the one who has to deal with it. You don't wanna worry about it until it bothers ur daily life physically or mentally. Just stay calm.
July 13th, 2016 8:55am
If you think that she's not a "diva" just move on and go away. I mean, if you don't need this kind of person in your life just go away from her/him, if you need her just accept her/him.
July 16th, 2016 10:22pm
The best way to deal with people who you might feel are behaving in a way that you don't like is to try and not get involved with there behaviour and to focus on yourself and what is best for you. We interact with people from all walks of life. We work with different people and also have friends, family members and relationships. Just as we ourselves have off days people around us also have off days but there behaviour is not our responsibility and we can only be responsible for ourselves and what we do. Just try not to worry too much or overthink and relax, be strong and don't allow it to affect your day and personal mood. Best of luck
July 17th, 2016 8:30pm
I guess it depends on how you feel about it. I would talk to mutual friends and try to understand the reason for it.
July 21st, 2016 7:33pm
Keep in mind that their behavior is a result of their insecurities. They use being a diva as a defense mechanism for hiding their secret worries. Show compassion as much as possible!
August 4th, 2016 6:49pm
Say something along the lines of,'I just want to have a meaningful conversation, like 2 genuine people should', if that doesn't make them get off from their high horse, consider them done and dusted, and look for someone else to talk to.
August 6th, 2016 1:46am
When someone is acting like a diva they are just doing it for attention most of the time. In order to get them to stop usually the best thing to do is ignore them.
August 20th, 2016 12:24am
Ignore the diva, it may sound impossible, but that's the best thing you can do, soon enough they will get bored of it
September 10th, 2016 7:48am
Divas will act like divas, because that's what they're supposed to do! Why would I even try to deal with them?
September 17th, 2016 7:31am
What I do is act like a diva right back. They realize you're imitating them, and most of the time it makes them stop.
September 28th, 2016 11:27am
Maybe you could spend some time reflecting on what makes you think of them as a DiVA? What are the things that they do that annoy or irritate you? In the moment its your choice as whether you choose to be around them or whether you feel it best to ignore them. Though I sometimes why are their reasons to be the Diva.
December 16th, 2016 12:44pm
Let her know how she is making you and others feel. If possible, stop dealing with her - let her realize her own actions are driving away her friends.
December 1st, 2017 9:24pm
Ask yourself what their motivation is for acting like this. Almost every time, it's a "look at me!" attention-grabbing mood. The best way to discourage this behavior is to give them the opposite of what they're seeking. If they learn that this behavior gets them ignored instead of the attention they're looking for, there's a good chance they'll change it!
January 10th, 2018 9:53am
The best solution is to never entertain them. If they are behaving like a 'Diva' It is best to simply ignore them and because they are attention seekers. If you give them the attention, the worse they'll get.
April 7th, 2018 5:38am
Deal like a diva yourself too! You're much smatter than you think. And what not can you do. Ask your heart, or hear your subconscious, to get to know the right answer.
June 13th, 2018 12:11am
If at all possible it is best to ignore those around you that act in a way you might not agree with. I have often found that the people who are the most difficult for me to get along with are those struggling the most. Be compassionate and kind but ultimately it is best to keep out of situations where it is negatively affecting you.
July 7th, 2016 6:57am
I usually tell the person what I am feeling and let them know that it doesn't come off as well. I try to say it in a kind way.
July 11th, 2016 8:16pm
if your looking to fit in with their crowd then you have to go along with it. If you don't like it and want to not deal with it, stay away from them
July 15th, 2016 11:19am
Give them the 'pity' look! Just kidding, but if it really bothers you, just avoid interacting with them.
August 3rd, 2016 1:33am
Simply ignore them. They are not worth your time. Giving them your time is pointless because you can not change someone who doesn't want to change.
August 6th, 2016 9:38pm
There are a lot of different ways depending on how you want to do it. You could always be direct and just tell them, or you could just ignore them or do something subtle like roll your eyes at them.
August 7th, 2016 5:11pm
When I have had to deal with people like this, I've usually found that the best thing to do is to gently tell them that they're overreacting or being rude.
August 9th, 2016 12:57am
Sometimes the best you can do is ignore them if it's a coworker, classmate, etc. If it's someone you know then, maybe you should talk to them about it. If they refuse to listen to you, then may be it's best to cut them out of your life.
August 9th, 2016 8:34pm
Maybe you should speak to this person and ask them why they are acting in that particular way. However, if after your conversation they refuse to change in anyway, the best thing you could do is avoid them.
September 4th, 2016 9:27pm
If you do not particularly like this person, I think it would be best to just avoid them rather then potentially hurt their feelings by saying something they may not want to hear.
September 7th, 2016 5:36am
don't mind his or her business and don't approach him/her about it because it may bring more problems ,let he/her be his/her self.