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How do I know if I'm in love?

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July 10th, 2016 3:14am
My mother gave me the best answer for this. If you have to ask yourself, you're not in love. That's not to say love can't grow, or you don't care about this person. But right now, today? If you aren't sure, it's not there.
July 9th, 2020 1:58pm
Studies led by Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University and one of the leading experts on the biological basis of love, have revealed that the brain's "in love" phase is a unique and well-defined period of time, and there are several telltale signs that you are experiencing true love. These signs include thinking this person is special, focusing on the positive qualities of the loved one, and experiencing emotional instability when there are setbacks in the relationship. Furthermore, holding hands can make a big statement. It tells the world that you're together, or tells your partner that you're ready to tell the world you're together. These tend to be normal occurrences in every romantic relationship, however you may be in the wrong relationship if you have warning signs that are derivatives from these occurrences. For example, it is expected that there are disagreements between couples on topics such as family life and sex. However, what happens after the disagreements signal whether or not this romantic relationship is set to become a long-term relationship. According to relationship experts, "If your partner does or says something that hurts you deeply and is unable to apologize, this is a sign that they are uncomfortable admitting any wrongdoing. This is a major sign of emotional immaturity.” Therefore, it indicates that you may be in love with the wrong person. In addition, relationship experts say that habits matter too in a relationship. If you were a healthy eater and decided to try out new things that are unhealthy for the first time after you began seeing your new partner, it shows you and your partner's lifestyle habits may not be fully aligned. There are also other good answers in this commenting section, hope you enjoy!
July 15th, 2016 3:20am
You know you're in love when you feel like the best, happiest, most completed version of you around that person. When you can't imagine your life another day without them. When they're the first person you have to tell everything to. When you share dreams, goals, future plans.. When you both want the very best for one another and make compromises, when you prioritize the relationship, and respect each other. That's love!
July 8th, 2016 2:32am
You will know when you are in love because you will never feel the same way that you feel for that person then with anyone else. You are willing to sacrifice your time and effort for this person. You would do anything to be with them as long as you can.
July 13th, 2016 8:30pm
It is the moment when you can´t get her or his name out of your head. You wish that this person would be always just next to you, where ever you go. And you feel alot happier as soon as you are around this person.
July 22nd, 2016 10:34pm
You know your in love if both you and your partner can go through a really tough time and come out closer. You will never have a perfect relationship but your significant other will respect you and support your passions. If you can't see that person with anybody else and are willing to take a bullet for that person then I think that is as close to love as you get. Lust is only temporary but remember love is forever and if forever scares you, it's lust.
October 7th, 2016 8:26pm
You feel at peace with someone. You love their flaws as much as their perks. You can see someone growing old with you and it doesn't effect you negatively. You just know.
July 15th, 2016 7:17am
It sounds so silly, but you'll know. I would describe it as being completely comfortable around someone. It isn't that they never make you mad, or annoy you, but that you want to be with them even when they do.
July 24th, 2016 10:59pm
I think when the person makes you feel like you should be a better person and you feel you want o be a better person for them. You can almost feel their pain.
August 11th, 2016 4:07am
You may be more interested in the person and you'd go on their social media and start to look at their pictures and start learning more information about them. You will get the !!!!!!!! Feeling when you talk to them and it'll feel great
November 26th, 2017 12:11pm
To be in love you always have them on your mind. Your heart pounds overtime you see them and butterflies come into your stomach when you see their notifications on your phone. Its someone that you would spend a whole day with doing everything and nothing but it would never be a waste of time.
August 12th, 2016 7:22pm
I think nobody can answer in this question. I am still wondering if feelings I have is love or it's something else. I think that's because everybody understands "love" differently. But if you are feeling great and safe when you are with that person and if thinking about him/her makes you happy you are probably in love :)
August 13th, 2016 3:15am
You will knew it ! It will strike you one day without a warning. It's strong, make you feel happy, and you will want to do everything for the other one. Trust me you will know if you are in love ! But the reality is that you know after the relationship if it was after you sacrifice everything but didn't worked out or magic is gone. It will haunt you for years until you get over it. I have to say this there's a big difference between attraction and love and most of people are confused by those two definition, it's wrong. Love happen one time and it's poison you must avoid it once you've tasted it you will never get rid of this until you accept not forget.
September 8th, 2016 3:37pm
'How do I know if I'm in love?' that really is the crucial question isn't it. I have spent time reflecting on this question, and looked back on all those times when I thought I was in love. I was not. Maybe it was the heat of the moment, maybe I was naive,or maybe I was just too desperate of feeling that feeling of love that everyone longs. Whatever it is, it was not love. But when I got to know a special person, I would unconsciously look forward to spending time with him, I would find myself smiling thinking about him, and would accidentally do things he told me he liked me do. I'd ask him how his day was, make sure he went home safely, and laugh at his stupid joke -though it was not funny, at all. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you won't consciously know that you're feeling this type of way, that you're feeling love, until you observe the little things that you do and realize that hey, I care about him. Love is not something to know and think about. It is something you feel.
November 23rd, 2017 9:55am
you're in love when everything makes you think about him... When his imperfections seem perfect for you, when you find yourself daydreaming about him. Ask yourself if you'll always want to be with him whatever could be the conditions (no job, disease, ...), can you see yourself with someone else than him ...
July 9th, 2016 9:31pm
It could be something different for anyone, ... but I would say that it's when you feel like you care about that person more than you care for yourself.
July 16th, 2016 10:29pm
This is a great question, and i have been asked personally the same, i think there is no clear answer to this,it is simply a feeling, and the best answer i can give is this: love is when you look into your significant other's eyes and see the "love" reflecting in his/her eyes. it is a feeling of HAVING to fight and endure everything and anything just so that other person is happy, it is a feeling of wanting to spend all your time with that person and lighting up with enourmous joy when seeing that person.
October 27th, 2016 12:04pm
I know if i constantly think about him or if i feel my heart beat go faster when i am close to him.
October 27th, 2016 7:32pm
Stand in front of a mirror and look into your eyes. Then after having a deep gaze through them take a deep breath and close your eyes. Then slowly exhale it after holding for 6 seconds. Then let the person who you think you're in love with to flood over your mind. Then suddenly open your eyes. If you can still feel his or her existence around you then yes, congrats! You're in love!
October 30th, 2016 9:10pm
You feel warm and tingly inside. You smile a lot, and just hearing their name, you blush a little :)
November 17th, 2016 5:05pm
There is a certain level of comfort that you find when you are in love with a person. As if you could show your good and bad side and know that he/she will still admire you. You know it when you are feeling more than ever like yourself with them. When you they care about your wellbeing and
May 7th, 2017 5:32am
Your heart will skip a beat each and every time you see them or hear their name. You're palms may get sweaty, and your heart could be beating fast every time you see them and your eyes will literally light up and sparker
June 4th, 2017 7:13am
I knew I was in love when I saw him look at me out of the corner of my eye. He had this look on his face like he just won the biggest prize, he always made sure I was okay and had what I needed. We look out for each other, take care of each other. After about 3 months I realized this was someone I could spend the rest of my life with and fell even deeper in love when I found out he felt the same.
July 9th, 2017 7:44pm
I do believe love is an action is what you DO and treat someone! ❤️ Love is that crazy fillled your heart mind and soul feeling too no doubt but fill up your love tank with actions daily!
July 9th, 2016 6:31am
That's kind of simple.. your heart start to race and you look for a reason to be with other person. The thought of them gone just kind of makes you all panicking.
July 16th, 2016 10:35pm
you are in love when live goes well, you smile without any are satisfy from your life.. but make sure don't limit your love with human or animal. i love by JOB.. ITS GIVE ME PLEASURE
July 28th, 2016 11:14pm
When your in love you feel happy with the person your around they make you feel safe and forget the things that made yoj feel bad
July 31st, 2016 11:33am
My mind turns into a ticking timebomb, and an unconctrollable fear of it makes me feel as if I am losing controll. Actively, I try to manipulate myself to believe I have emotions for others, even tho I know it is false. Eventually, I have to give in, as I know I can't keep on messing like that.
December 11th, 2016 12:22am
You are happy when you hear their name mentioned. You think about them everyday what they are up to. They are your best friend. You enjoy spending time with that person
July 13th, 2017 3:56pm
You will feel happy and have butterflues in your stomach. You will start to care what the person thinks of you and you will want to spend every second with the person. You can't get your mind off of the one and you will imagine how your life would look if you were together. You might feel a little nervous around the person as well.