I have recently started to feel annoyed with my boyfriend more and am starting to think he is too clingy but he is still a really great guy but I don't know what to do?
Last Updated: 03/02/2021 at 1:33am
Maryna Svitasheva, PhD. RP
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Try to explain to him how you are feeling. Say exactly what you are saying here. You thing he is a nice guy. But lately you feel he is to clingy. If after talking he's not understanding of your feelings. Slowley take a step back from your boyfriend. And let him be a bit more with his friends. Make a bit less time for him
Talk to him about that. He deserves to know how you feel. If he is too clingy but is a good guy- then talk to him, don’t leave him hanging!
It's really good that you are able to identify how you feel about your boyfriend and be completely honest about your feelings as well. Perhaps a good step to take is, ironically, to take a step back and find out if there is any other reason you are feeling annoyed with your boyfriend. Sometimes there are bigger problems within the relationship that may cause you to feel this way and those bigger problems, though maybe hidden away, can give you good perspective on how you truly feel about your relationship. If you continue to feel this way, you could also consider talking to your partner about having some space to pursue your interests and have self-care!
Thank you for letting us know the problem. That clingy attitude was there since the beginning of the relationship or something fairly new? Talk with him about the problem, and politely explain him that those clingy attitudes are bothersome to you. That way you two can solve the problem in a healthy way, him lowering his clingyness and you being more tolerant. In case those attitudes were there since the beginning and were not bothering you. Start thinking why or what make them bothersome now. It can be something innate of your partner that you were ignoring, because of his good qualities. Try to talk a solution with him, working together. If both of you cannot find a healthy solution, and the relationship is heavily influenced by that, finishing the relationship could be the healthier solution.
Communicate with him what your needs are. Establish expectations from both sides. Compromise is also something you will both have to do. Both of you will have to give something up in order for this to work. Perhaps talk about wanting to establish a time strictly for yourself and another time where you two can spend together, no distractions or anything. It can feel suffocating when the only thing you're absorbing in your life is your romantic relationship. Be patient with him and try to understand where he is coming from, he may not perceive it as clingy, but as his love language towards you, meaning his way of showing you love.
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