I just want a friend, but I don't know how to do this. Any ideas?
Last Updated: 12/21/2020 at 2:03pm
Jennifer Patterson, LMFT, ATR-BC
Life can be messy. Sometimes you need a little support to make your way through it. I love to help guide people through their challenges & to find the beauty in our messes.
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There are many ways to go about making friends! Join a club, sports team, etc. Then just work up your courage and start talking to people. Once you strike up a conversation, you can introduce yourself! Say hi when you see them and if you feel up to it you could ask them if they want to hang out or grab something to eat. It might take time, but just open up and get to know people!
Just go up to somebody and start small talk. Small talk is great for friendships when you are trying to start them. Tell them a little bit about your self. Tell them your name and say that it is nice to meet them. An example: "Hello, my name is Ashelynn, Its so nice to meet you. How are you doing today? Would you like to meet up later for a walk in the park or maybe go get some ice cream? Here is my Snapchat so we can talk some more." Obviously give them some time to talk but if someone is rude to you then don't try to be their friend because that's toxic.
I know it will be hard to do this in person right now, given the circumstances we live in, but searching for people with similar interest or things that you may be interested in is probably a good way to start. social media is a great way to seek and find these groups. if you are into something, search for groups near your area or maybe even from other areas around the world and you will surely find someone who shares some of this commonalities. if you do it in person, just be safe and careful that the people you are meeting are who they really say they are. Good luck!
Just try to be yourself, and outgoing. Start talking to people, don't be shy. Also, if you see someone all alone, go up to them, try to be their friend. But if you see someone that looks nice and you want to try to be their friend, go up and give them a compliment, like, OMG! I love your shirt, it is so cute! Where did you get it??. This will start up a conversation. Also, try joining a local club or group. You will definitely make new friends by doing this. Good luck!
There are many communities online and in person which are really good environments for meeting and communicating with new people, especially 7 Cups! Apart from participating in the forums and group support chats/sharing circles on 7 Cups, I would highly recommend making a list of your interests and passions/hobbies, then researching communities that you can join in order to find people who have those interests in common. Just note that if you choose to look into online communities, it's best to exercise caution at all times during interaction with other people over the Internet, including on 7 Cups. I wish you all the best in your journey to find new friends!
Making friends isn't as hard at it may seem. Being social helps a lot. If you need help to make friends then I guess you might be more of a shy person. If so, starting conversations can be a great start. In school, at work, outside waiting for the bus... Talking about the weather is the most typical ice breaker and it works. It might seem awkward at the start but the more you do it, the more comfortable you get. Also, some of us know a lot of people but don't actually have any of them as friends. The lack of interaction is the main reason. If you don't know many people, try to interact with those around you on a daily basis. If you do know may people, try to socialize with them by talking. If you really struggle with this, apps and webchats can be a good start to practice your skills and maybe make friends!
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