I'm a Muslim male and am dating an non Muslim girl. We love each other but I can't get over her past sexual experiences. How can i?
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Last Updated: 11/30/2020 at 12:46pm
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Anonymous
November 30th, 2020 12:46pm
I can demonstrate some thoughts about that for you:
1- Acknowledge that this is your problem, not your girlfriend’s.
2- Stop talking about your girlfriend’s past (for the most part).
3- Get clear about your values.
4- Realize that it is, in many ways, a new world out there.
5- Don’t be a hypocrite.
6- Talk about your feelings about your girlfriend’s past with an older, trusted male friend (or two).
7- Realize that you’re probably never going to love your girlfriend’s past. And that’s okay.
If you’re struggling with constant—or obsessive—thoughts, constant questions, constant unease with regard to your girlfriend’s past, you may be dealing with retroactive jealousy OCD. And the above path I outlined may not be enough to arrive at peace.
And you’re not alone.
Anonymous
October 15th, 2018 8:30pm
Talk it through with her, and then maybe after she tells you fully about it all then you can come to terms with it and find see that she really loves you and the past doesn't matter all that matters is that she is with you know and you love her and she loves you. She is what really matters right now and not what she has done. She is not her past actions, only her present ones, and if they are ones of love for you then you should maybe be able to see that it's just you and her now and it doesn't matter what happened only what is happening now.
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