met this girl at work. both of us have feelings for each other . she told me she had feelings. later on into it she ignores me. doesnt seem to show she cares and found out shes messing around. advice?

I have also experienced a "relationship" similar to this one. I was really into this girl, who was, at the time, in a relationship. After several months passed, she and her boyfriend broke up and we decided to see where things went. We had many date nights, spent countless hours talking on the phone, and texted constantly. Months went by and I thought maybe she could be the one only to find out she was texting another man and giving him all the attention she was giving me. I have learned that some people are not ready for commitment and only a fan of the attention and newness that comes in the beginning of a relationship. I learned a lot from the short experience and wouldn't trade the lesson for anything

Consider delving a little deeper into how you feel about her now. Based on her recent actions do you still have feelings for her? After ignoring you, appearing not to care, and messing around, does it seem like she still has feelings for you? If she does, could you forgive her and do you think she is someone who you would want in your life? If there is still a chance for a relationship, could it be a future problem in the workplace? These may be questions you've already gone over, but it may still be helpful to think about again and possibly uncover some new insights. Wishing you the best with this!