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What to do to get over a bad breakup? I helped my boyfriend get a car just to find out he was cheating on me

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Last Updated: 02/28/2022 at 4:46pm
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AJW7526
November 5th, 2018 12:24pm
Do whatever you need to do for the sake of your mental health. I know it sounds cliche, but it's important to put yourself first after a breakup. Don't try to rush the healing process. Take as much time as you need. Healing comes in different forms for different people. Some people find comfort in deleting all traces of their exes, while others might find comfort in limiting social interactions with others around them. Try not to blame yourself. It's hard, and it will be hard to deal with the rollercoaster of emotions that comes with a bad breakup. It's not your fault.
Anonymous
June 8th, 2020 6:09pm
I am so sorry that you had to go through this. I think the best thing to do, in my own experience, is to give yourself a little time to be single. Finding yourself and being able to enjoy just being you has been one of the greatest thing to help me get through bad breakups. Hang out with family and friends, change your environment if you need to -understand that you deserve better and are worth so much more then what he could give you. Sometimes things happen for a reason and it hurts, but one day you might be thankful that all of this happened and that you are no longer with him, because you are worth more.
Silverbell27
December 15th, 2020 8:57am
Relationships end, everyone knows that. The tough part is actually dealing with suffering, accepting, letting go, moving on, and processing a whole lot of other feelings at the same time. “Why worry about things you can’t control when you can keep yourself busy controlling the things that depend on you?” ~Unknown. People torture themselves with their own thoughts! And the only person who could help them are them. The answer lies inside—and only inside—them. Everybody is different and therefore handles situations in different ways. For instance, I am a very sensitive and vulnerable person. When someone hurts me, I cry a lot, I forgive immediately, I don’t hate, and I don’t seek revenge.
0m
January 4th, 2021 1:37pm
There is no fixed formula for getting over a bad breakup. The circumstances involved determine how hurt and betrayed you feel, how long you need to heal and when you might be ready to move on. Also important is how long you had been together, whether there had been other flags before or whether this cheating came completely out of the blue. How you found out about his cheating and his subsequent behaviour also impacts the level of closure. It might help to go over our self help guide https://www.7cups.com/breakup-advice/ Good luck and I hope you are able to get to the other side of this hurt soon
GenevieveYamamoto
February 28th, 2022 4:46pm
Break ups are tough trust me I know. I find it helps having a good cry, eating a lot of ice cream and watching chick flicks but you should always make sure that you have a trustworthy and solid group of friends that you can surround yourself with that will understand when you need your time to yourself and when you need to go out and enjoy yourself as well. Don’t let this incident dictate the rest of your life because If he was cheating on you he obviously did not realize your worth and that is very important to know that you are worth some thing very important to somebody that isn’t going to treat you badly. Stay busy keep working don’t let it get to your happiness, only you can do that