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How can I stop myself from relapsing?

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Last Updated: 02/04/2020 at 2:29pm
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Top Rated Answers
HoneyStarling
April 1st, 2015 5:10am
Keep in mind the reasons you got clean and well in the first place! Remind yourself of the all effort and investment you have already made to get where you are! And though I hate being negative - you have to keep in mind the cost of a relapse -the people you will disappoint or hurt (including yourself) and the difficulty you're going to have getting back up after falling. Get support quickly - just because you're well now doesn't mean people expect that you'll just 'stay that way' - there is no weakness in asking for support BEFORE you relapse instead of after. Seek out friends, family - use 7cups or the variety of charity and addiction organisations (i.e. AA) to help keep you accountable. What worked for you before? Often as things start to improve, we will become lax in maintaining the habits and routines that got us better in the first place. Make a list of the things which got you sorted out the first time and use that to continue or increase your efforts to stay safe and healthy. You can do it!
sweethan3
November 5th, 2014 10:34pm
Where can I find the cell national numbers that were in the questionary? I can't find them and I really need it Please anwser as fast as you can
cheerupsunshine
September 29th, 2015 2:00am
Think about this. While you're doing it, it might feel like a weight has fallen off of your shoulders. It might feel like.. home. But unfortunately, those feelings are only there while it lasts. After that, comes the regret, comes the suffering. After all of that, it finally hits you that you relapsed, you know? And the majority of the time, people regret it. I just want to let you know that I've been through this. I've fought my own battles and sometimes lost, (and felt incredibly bad afterwards) but I have gotten back up and fought hard. You have to remember that we all love you so so much and we are here to help. Think of your family. Your friends. Your favorite person in the entire world. Their thought will eventually calm you down. Read a book. Walk around the park. Cry it out. Punch something. Scream. Anything to get your mind off of what you want to do. You'll see, one day you'll make it through.
musicalDreamer71
November 3rd, 2014 1:06am
The best way to avoid relapsing is to replace self-harm with more healthy activities. These can include sports, art, writing, or spending time with friends.
Here4u4137
October 1st, 2014 9:55pm
Relapsing is a natural occurrence and cannot be completely prevented. Just make sure to know your weaknesses and triggers.
optimisticHeart11
November 3rd, 2014 5:07am
I still struggle with this from time to time. And, unfortunately, like every other addiction, the amount of time you go between self-harming has virtually no impact on how easy it is to keep yourself from doing it again. You have to find what helps keep *you* strong, whether it be talking to someone about how you feel, drawing on your arm in red pen, distracting yourself, or any other coping methods you have. What I like to do is count how many days I've gone without self-harming. When I reach certain time points, I reward myself and celebrate my accomplishment.
SunshineSmiles16
October 4th, 2014 12:10pm
Think about all the people around you who care about you. All the people around you that love you constantly even if they don't show it. Remember that there will always be someone out there for you. There are a lot of amazing things awaiting you in the future!
DPate16
November 4th, 2014 2:29pm
Set goals for yourself. Make a plan and go through with it. Find something to motivate you and try to stay away from what you know triggers you.
Anonymous
November 6th, 2014 4:13pm
Thinking about the life you left behind versus the life you will have in the future if you do not fall back on it. The future is bright and full of happiness.
Anonymous
November 7th, 2014 10:41am
listen to music, read a book, cry, think about your favorite things to eat or do, excercise, take a walk, sleep. snapping a rubber band may also help
Anonymous
November 8th, 2014 3:48pm
You can talk about it to people so they can help you not to when you'll want to relapse. You can try the butterfly project, you can draw on your skin when you want to relapse.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2014 9:30am
think about the good things and make sure its relaxing, you also might wanna talk with people about it
FlickeringCandle
November 13th, 2014 1:58am
Try to think of alternate coping methods before hand. When you get the urge, try putting ice on your feet or slapping your wrists with a rubber band.
Mateia
November 16th, 2014 3:54pm
This is a difficult one, especially since absolutely forbidding yourself to relapse is almost a recipe for relapse. The best way to prevent relapse is to set up your life in such a way that relapse is less likely. Remove yourself from situations where you are likely to relapse. If that means losings friends and losing the popularity poll, then so be it.
helena90
November 18th, 2014 7:44pm
This is a hard one but don't try to do to much at once ask for help if you need it and always listen to the one person that knows u the most your self
Erinkearns
November 19th, 2014 8:44pm
Try to focus on positive aspects of your life. If you feel like you could relapse at any moment, lie on your bed and shut your eyes. Try to get rid of any tension in your muscles, and try to be as still as possible, like a statue.
Anonymous
May 14th, 2015 6:09pm
Avoid any and all triggers at all costs! By doing that, you can cut your chances of a relapse significantly! Stay strong!
DreamHigh
May 24th, 2015 1:23am
Try to distract yourself. Do something engaging and fun. Go around people you like and try to do the activity with. Hope this helped ^_^
Anonymous
May 28th, 2015 7:26am
Maybe write a sentence or paragraph of how you feel when you're about to relapse. It will take time to write and you might lose the will to do so. Really think about what you want to write and just stay strong because you can do it
livethroughscars
June 5th, 2015 12:04pm
Look at how far you've come, tell yourself all the reasons you're wonderful and know that you're so strong. Distract yourself, come to talk to a listener and take your mind away from things.
Anonymous
May 16th, 2016 8:24am
Find yourself supportive friends that will be there for you! I will always be there! Fell free to PM me at anytime!
Emma16
May 17th, 2016 6:55am
Try to distract yourself. Watch your favorite TV show, cuddle up in a blanket, call your friend, take a warm shower, listen to music really loud, whatever helps you feel better. Don't be afraid to ask for help to deal with what you're going through. There is no shame at all in that.
aldit1234
February 4th, 2020 2:29pm
First of all, you are a rockstar. If you have entered the first stage of recovery which is becoming sober, you deserve a round of applause. Know that you have a whole team of people supporting you. Anyone here on 7 cups, anyone who has suffered from addiction, and anyone you hold close! Know that you have already come so far, and you don't want to throw that away! You are sober. Your body is healing. Your relationships are thriving. Your health is skyrocketing. Your confidence is booming. You are doing what you need to do to take care of YOU! Remember that :)