How do I stop?

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Last Updated: 06/12/2018 at 7:34pm
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olivialoopez
November 27th, 2014 9:24am
Stopping is difficult. If we are talking about additions, they exist in many cases; if we are talking about self-harm, drugs, purging, or even with people. Stopping is realizing you are self-sufficient and if something is hurting you, you need something beneficial or less harmful to replace that addition.
Erynn - Expert in Self-Harm
November 28th, 2014 1:27am
Depends what you're trying to stop. I would first examine the root of your problem - if you can find reasons you are doing something it becomes easier not to do it. Journaling and talking with others can help you figure things out. I'd also weight the pros and cons of whatever you're doing. Ask yourself: What is good about what I am doing/why do I do it? What is negative about what i am doing/why do i want to stop doing it? What is hard about not doing it/why haven't I been able to stop yet? What is good about not doing it/what can I gain from stopping this behavior? If this behavior is dangerous to you or others, it may be time to talk to a counselor or psychiatrist or other professional for support and advice.
Anonymous
December 7th, 2014 9:14am
Get some hobbies, get something you love to do. Distract yourself from whatever is bothering you. Make yourself so busy that you literally have no time to focus on the bad in your life.
Anonymous - Expert in Self-Harm
December 17th, 2014 5:09pm
Recognizing triggers and finding more positive coping mechanisms, as well as being patient and understanding with yourself on the way!
thisismejessica
December 31st, 2014 8:25pm
Basically, it depends what kind of things you want to stop. There are different strategies for different things. Since you're not specifying, here are some general tips on stopping: - ask your self why do you want to stop. - make a commitment and ask someone to be your supporter and witness. - celebrate little baby steps (every time you achieve certain milestone, give your self a reward).
Anonymous
June 19th, 2015 5:17am
I am unable to answer your question, because I am not sure about what you are specifically asking. How do you stop what?
Anonymous
June 21st, 2015 7:24pm
Stop? Stop what? Willpower, effort, trial and error. No one is perfect, you might not stop instantly but if you keep trying you'll get there. Sure you might relapse but it's better than not doing anything to stop at all
Anonymous
June 27th, 2015 3:45pm
يمكنني التغلب على كل المشاكل النفسية , بأستخدام التفكير المنطقي , وجعل الهدف في الحياة ليس العيش فقط , و إنما اكثر من ذلك ..
HereToListen2You
July 4th, 2015 10:58am
Distract yourself, do things you love, tell someone dearing, draw it all out!... on paper.., understand where you're coming from :)
MathewTheBull
July 10th, 2015 7:21am
If you're trying to achieve, there will be roadblocks. I've had them; everybody has had them. But obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2015 11:09pm
Make a list II - A list of realistic and achievable goals and dreams, a list of what is keeping you from achieving it, and a list of methods to work around it and accomplish your goals.
maggicantdraw
August 2nd, 2015 9:04pm
Time. Willpower, another method of release/control, and time are the only sure ways to quit. You won't be cured overnight. But there is hope.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 6:04pm
I have learned through personal experience that busying myself keeps the bad thoughts away. When I'm too busy for too long, that's how I stay clean
Anonymous
August 9th, 2015 8:00am
I am assuming you mean self harming. It's going to take time. Try positive coping skills and look into the Butterfly Project.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 4:39am
By realizing what you are doing, is something you dont want to do anymore, and knowing that you want to stop. so that you can stop. You cant stop if you dont really want to stop
Lyricaldancer99
January 5th, 2016 1:06am
Talk to someone always helps. Whether it is a friend, a parent, a teacher anyone! You can even chat on here for help :)
SunshineCeline
June 7th, 2016 8:59pm
You need to get your mind set on quitting. You need to want to stop. It will be hard, most likely, and it will take time, but you can get there if you want.
BrokenAndMessedUp
June 18th, 2016 1:12am
Try getting a rubber band and put it on your wrist and whenever you want to do it or think about it then snap the rubber band a little. Also try drawing, I draw on my arms sometimes and it helps me. So you could try drawing on paper or even your arms or anything.
Ashiya
February 7th, 2017 7:02am
This would depend on stopping what, self-harm? self-hate? If it's any of the two or more, the first step is to take a few minutes out of the day or throughout the day to think on it. Take time with yourself because that's the most crucial point in any situation. Or another person of whom you trust.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2018 7:34pm
Focusing on the end goal, or the main reason for wanting to stop. Memos, reminders when you feel you can't stop.