How do I stop?
Last Updated: 06/12/2018 at 7:34pm
April Zamzow, CSW, MA, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
There are many times in our lives when we could use an ear to listen and help us through the things that we are struggling with. I can do that.
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Stopping is difficult. If we are talking about additions, they exist in many cases; if we are talking about self-harm, drugs, purging, or even with people. Stopping is realizing you are self-sufficient and if something is hurting you, you need something beneficial or less harmful to replace that addition.
Depends what you're trying to stop. I would first examine the root of your problem - if you can find reasons you are doing something it becomes easier not to do it. Journaling and talking with others can help you figure things out. I'd also weight the pros and cons of whatever you're doing. Ask yourself: What is good about what I am doing/why do I do it? What is negative about what i am doing/why do i want to stop doing it? What is hard about not doing it/why haven't I been able to stop yet? What is good about not doing it/what can I gain from stopping this behavior? If this behavior is dangerous to you or others, it may be time to talk to a counselor or psychiatrist or other professional for support and advice.
Get some hobbies, get something you love to do. Distract yourself from whatever is bothering you. Make yourself so busy that you literally have no time to focus on the bad in your life.
Recognizing triggers and finding more positive coping mechanisms, as well as being patient and understanding with yourself on the way!
Basically, it depends what kind of things you want to stop. There are different strategies for different things. Since you're not specifying, here are some general tips on stopping: - ask your self why do you want to stop. - make a commitment and ask someone to be your supporter and witness. - celebrate little baby steps (every time you achieve certain milestone, give your self a reward).
I am unable to answer your question, because I am not sure about what you are specifically asking. How do you stop what?
Stop? Stop what? Willpower, effort, trial and error. No one is perfect, you might not stop instantly but if you keep trying you'll get there. Sure you might relapse but it's better than not doing anything to stop at all
يمكنني التغلب على كل المشاكل النفسية , بأستخدام التفكير المنطقي , وجعل الهدف في الحياة ليس العيش فقط , و إنما اكثر من ذلك ..
Distract yourself, do things you love, tell someone dearing, draw it all out!... on paper.., understand where you're coming from :)
If you're trying to achieve, there will be roadblocks. I've had them; everybody has had them. But obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.
Make a list II - A list of realistic and achievable goals and dreams, a list of what is keeping you from achieving it, and a list of methods to work around it and accomplish your goals.
Time. Willpower, another method of release/control, and time are the only sure ways to quit. You won't be cured overnight. But there is hope.
I have learned through personal experience that busying myself keeps the bad thoughts away. When I'm too busy for too long, that's how I stay clean
I am assuming you mean self harming. It's going to take time. Try positive coping skills and look into the Butterfly Project.
By realizing what you are doing, is something you dont want to do anymore, and knowing that you want to stop. so that you can stop. You cant stop if you dont really want to stop
Talk to someone always helps. Whether it is a friend, a parent, a teacher anyone! You can even chat on here for help :)
You need to get your mind set on quitting. You need to want to stop. It will be hard, most likely, and it will take time, but you can get there if you want.
Try getting a rubber band and put it on your wrist and whenever you want to do it or think about it then snap the rubber band a little. Also try drawing, I draw on my arms sometimes and it helps me. So you could try drawing on paper or even your arms or anything.
This would depend on stopping what, self-harm? self-hate? If it's any of the two or more, the first step is to take a few minutes out of the day or throughout the day to think on it. Take time with yourself because that's the most crucial point in any situation. Or another person of whom you trust.
Focusing on the end goal, or the main reason for wanting to stop. Memos, reminders when you feel you can't stop.
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