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When can you consider yourself recovered from self-harming?

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Last Updated: 10/15/2019 at 8:02pm
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October 15th, 2019 8:02pm
It depends on person to person, but for me, I considered myself mostly recovered when the urges to hurt myself mostly stopped, and when I DID have those urges, I was able to resist them and do other things. Recovery doesn't necessarily mean that you no longer have those urges, but if you have a healthier relationship to them, that's a good sign. Best of luck!
March 5th, 2015 3:39pm
Everyone has there own goals but as a general rule when you get to the point where you feel like you no longer need to rely on self harming to enjoy your life.
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March 3rd, 2015 9:26pm
Whenever you feel like it :) There is no set amount of time that automatically puts you 'in the clear' so to speak. Therefore, you are recovered when you decide you are recovered. And if you make a mistake? That is just a bump in the road and you can choose to get back on a healthy path and be "recovered" again as soon as you decide to! Try not to ruminate on it and beat yourself up. Forgive yourself, love yourself, you can do it and you deserve it. (That being said, if you would really like a solid number, it typically takes around 30 days to make or break a habit.)
April 1st, 2015 2:10am
When you see your scars, as stars. When they make you strong, not hopeless. When it doesn't hurt....
May 28th, 2015 1:44pm
Be clean in 4 months and never start again! I do selfharm, and i have been clean is 3 days :D I'm so proud of myself!
December 22nd, 2015 6:07pm
Some people say that you´ve recovered from self-harming when you don´t feel the urge anymore, but I think that that´s not true. The urge might come back sometimes, even though you are recovered. What makes the difference is how you deal with that urge. If you can hold it down and if you´re not having a too hard time to keep yourself from self-harm when you´re triggered and never actually have to self-harm, then I´d consider you recovered.
July 13th, 2015 8:45pm
Self-harming and other mental illnesses are ongoing. Similar to eating disorders you may still always think about it under some circumstances, but I would say that you are recovered when you no longer need that release and no longer act on those desires.
March 11th, 2015 11:50pm
When you feel like you no longer need it to feel better. It doesnt matter if youre one year clean or one day clean, you decide what is success to you
June 12th, 2015 9:11pm
When you've gone more than a year from hurting yourself and you don't generally get urges to do anything anymore.
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April 6th, 2015 3:46pm
Some people view recovery as an end goal (somewhere you end up) and others view recovery as a process, something you actively remain in. Both are totally ok ways of viewing it! Personally, I view it as a process because I feel I could return to self-harm at any age if I stop using health coping methods and get overwhelmed with difficult emotions. I am in recovery because I've gone a decent chunk of time without harming - more than the gaps that naturally occur in the months I have harmed in the past. So, the time line is very personal. My friend says he is recovered, because he has made his longest goal of 2 years without harming, so he views it differently. There is no 'perfect' way to judge this - it depends on what you feel shows you are in a safe place, using lots of healthy coping skills, and able to get through really hard moments without resorting to self-harm.
June 17th, 2015 7:07am
When you find other solution for when you feel sad: going outside, doing sport, going out with friend, doing what you like, etc. When you won't think about self harm as you first solution
July 7th, 2015 1:20am
Well the thing is that when your done with self harming and know your not going to continue, that's when I considered my self recovered
July 7th, 2015 5:36pm
I would say that when you don't feel the urge to harm yourself, when you feel happy even when you haven't harmed yourself :)
February 1st, 2016 8:05am
When you don't feel triggered to start with it again, and your wounds have healed fully. I hope you feel better :)
February 22nd, 2016 1:31am
When you can finally look back and think about your experiences, without feeling the need to relapse
June 7th, 2016 5:27pm
I don't think anybody really actually "recovers", but I would say Whenever you move on from the harm you did yourself and use it as an opportunity for growth.
June 13th, 2016 9:18pm
When you one day something bad happens and your first instinct isn't to harm yourself :)
February 5th, 2018 10:00pm
You may still have the urge to self harm but if the urge is less intense and you can find other coping methods to deal with how you are feeling then I think you can consider yourself recovered from self harm. I don't think you need to be clean for a specific amount of time, if you can overcome those sudden urges then its ok to say you are recovered.
September 18th, 2015 2:05pm
I think when you've officially decided you don't need self harm to make you feel happy or normal anymore, and when you found coping skills to do when you are feeling like you should self harm. Relapse is part of the recovery process, so if you start to think of self harming again or you relapse, don't get discouraged! You're brave and strong for making it this far:)
December 7th, 2015 9:54pm
You can consider yourself recovered when you have found smething else that soothes the pain and you no longer need too...
April 5th, 2016 10:24am
You never are fully recovered it seems, there is always the potential to relapse, but what you can consider yourself is not recovered but stronger and dependent on something else. If you are feeling down and instead think of asking for help or cuddling your pet or whatever first instead of harming yourself then you definitely are on the right track.
April 19th, 2016 3:52am
When you are able to not be triggered or feel the need to do it anymore, only then would I personally consider it to be a total recovery.
May 2nd, 2016 1:39am
That is a personal question that will be different for everyone. For me personally, I will consider myself "recovered" when I no longer feel the urge, because I've adapted enough successful techniques to fight the addiction to the adrenaline high, and have effectively worked through the core issues that trigger my relapses. For me, recovery from self-harm goes hand in hand with recovery from whatever stress or trauma caused you to start in the first place.
December 13th, 2016 6:38am
You can consider yourself recovered on day one. I think it is important to recognize, however, not to set back the counter if you release. One year of recovery is not erased by one day of relapse– pick yourself back up and never forget to count your victories.
September 18th, 2017 1:30pm
When you no longer need to self-harm when you are going through major distress. When you start using other methods to help yourself during upsetting periods in your life. When you start loving yourself and recognising your own value.