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Why does self harm make you feel better?

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Last Updated: 11/06/2018 at 5:30pm
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Hello, I am Lisa and I work in a person-centred approach mixed with cognitive behavioural therapy. I believe we all have the potential to be the best we can be.

Top Rated Answers
June 17th, 2015 1:41am
self harm releases endorphins a chemical that is calming and addictive and also some people feel they need to be punished so it makes them feel better but only for a little while before they get upset again
March 30th, 2015 11:55am
it makes you feel better because when you begin to focus on the physical pain it helps the emotional and mental pain to be less painful and more bearable
August 24th, 2015 9:09pm
It makes me feel like I'm for once controlling the pain in my life, not others. It also makes the numbness go away.
April 3rd, 2015 4:30am
It feels like all of these emotions are like a current under your skin, and you cut to let them out. Yet, they come back every time.
November 24th, 2015 10:14pm
You let all your feelings out without breaking objects or harming someone else, you feel like you're guilty and responsable for your own mistakes and you think that it is your fault, so harming yourself is the best thing to do without appearing like an egoist... To feel how you let it all out, to really feel it, seems to help in this moment but it doesn't,soon, the pain is right back and maybe you feel anger, maybe afterwards, you even feel worse than before and bad for harming yourself, for failing, for not being able deal with your problems, then you feel so wortheless that you fall deeper and deeper and it gets worse and worse, the only way out could be to quit doing it but this would be so difficult, it almost seems impossible but with loving and helping people on your side you are able to succeed because you're a wonderful human being and you're so worth it!
July 11th, 2016 7:52pm
Phisically, cutting releases endorphines to heal the wound faster and emotionally it gives you the sense of controll
September 7th, 2015 12:48pm
Mental pain usually hurts more than physical pain. In my opinion, self-harm makes someone feel better because the cuts you inflict on yourself is able to distract you from the aching pain your truly feeling inside, emotionally and mentally. Though, there are better ways to solve these issues.
May 24th, 2015 4:59am
Self harm makes me feel better because it makes me feel like I can take control of some aspect of my life. When everything else in my life and my head is messed up, self harming makes me feel calm and collected, because I know that this is something I can control; I can control how many times I do it. It's up to me, not anyone else.
May 21st, 2018 2:16am
When I self-harm, the guilt or the pain releases, it's like i'm being punished. Both emotionally and physically, the more I self-harm, the less I think about how awful my life is capable of strangling me. The pain goes away and it's addictive, like those puzzle games i'm fonded. Weird but, it helps me to move on a bit and ease my emotions.
December 14th, 2015 1:43am
It makes you feel like everything is being released through self harm. Its like the pain outweighs the real life pain and it helps you to cope
August 15th, 2016 5:44pm
It's a relief to let out some pain. Usually when I self harm it's because I'm feeling a lot of emotional pain, and the physical pain is a way to match what I'm feeling inside.
May 16th, 2015 11:50pm
Sometimes it helps you calm down if you have a lot of emotions and you can't find any other way. Or it makes you feel alive when you are emotionally numb. Either way, there are much better solutions than cutting to solve those problems.
September 22nd, 2015 5:13pm
Cutting releases a chemical in your brain that makes you feel relief for a short while. It makes you happy, which is why cutting seems to life your mood.
June 17th, 2015 5:55am
I feel like self harm might make you feel better because it gives a person relief, and it's a punishment that you give yourself for being yourself. There are many alternatives to self harm, and I think we all need to find that best fits us. :) Good luck, everyone.
April 5th, 2016 1:00am
It makes you feel as if you are killing the problems on the inside by hurting the outside, setting them free almost. It makes you forget everything because you are so focused on what you are doing and the pain it causes that you cannot seem to focus on anything else at that time. Self harm should never be the answer it can seriously harm you.
September 5th, 2016 4:32pm
Self harm is a coping mechanism that more often than not is either to make a person feel something or help a person control what they are feeling.
February 3rd, 2018 3:00am
It makes me feel better because I feel like I can control how I feel. For example if something happens that makes me sad, I feel out of control and feel the need to get back control
September 10th, 2018 7:46am
Self harm is used as a coping method as people see it as a "way out "for their problems.although this may help them it certainly is not a healthy way to cope with your problems and if people do act like this then instead of questioning the cuts or whatnot try seeing their problems from their point instead of your own as this instead can cause more problems then solving and is in most castes can be confusing or can be painful or in some castes can be overwhelming for the person to take in and should be spoke about with compassion.
November 6th, 2018 5:30pm
Self harm is hard to understand when you have not been through it yourself. Many people have different reasons as to why they self harm but, I have found that most people use self harm as an escape. As a way to let the pain that you are feeling internally to leave your body, as a release. Some people use it as a way to actually feel something, as a lot of people with mental health issues just feel numb, so they feel as though inflicting a type of pain on themselves will make them feel something again, as people believe that feeling pain is better than feeling nothing at all. However, self harm is never the answer. Talking about things, getting things off your chest and seeking help are the best and most effective ways to deal with your issues.
May 3rd, 2016 10:23am
Self-harm makes you feel better because you're letting go/releasing the pain inside of you physically. But it also has its harming effects and can hurt people around you.
September 27th, 2016 3:31am
its a sensation thing... when you let things build up its a way to release... it is highly addictive and dangerous! the coping skill that works best for this is holding ice cubes in your hands
May 31st, 2015 4:44am
its a relief it gives you that power to be in control and have satisfaction for a while, it helps and its not easy to quit but believe in yourself
September 13th, 2016 8:18pm
Actually, self harm do not make you feel better. It's a really temporary thing, you feel like you forget everything that is wrong in your life and it makes you feel good for a while but then your problems came back and it seems even worse. There are plenty of better ways to feel better instead of self harming even if you don't believe in it now.
February 4th, 2018 4:41pm
Self harm gives you a release from what your feeling or from things going on in life. Its a coping method that you have learnt helps even if its an unhealthy one.
February 12th, 2018 9:13pm
Because it helps releasing the pain that I'm going through and then I feel better after doing it and stop feeling depressed until the next time I feel depressed and do it again it only helps me feel better for a few hours.