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NEW - Addiction Support Automated Taglist
by tommy
Last post
 July 11th
...See more Welcome to the NEW Addiction Support Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply below and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist as of Dec 2024 (updated by @tommy) @akshi2611 @BeautifulCurse @exuberantTalker9747 @freeman @Helentreat12 @Hobzz @HopefulMamaof4 @ivoryLime3964 @JasonneedsinTx @Jenna @joyfulUs2825 @kindShade3891 @matchamochi07 @Mhmdi @Oceansky93 @peachLime4859 @PFord79 @Property1094 @Rainboho @Ren1478 @Sahilwj @sensiblePine5487 @SerenelyClean @Snowy00 @tommy @tornwillow @xmoonsie16x0
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Appointment
by RobinVanDyck
Last post
 3 hours ago
...See more Just made an appointment with a psychologist hope it helps
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Porn addiction
by Ocelot1628
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Im struggling to find ways to set boundaries and overcome this addiction. To those who have gone through it and have tips - and ways of thinking of life and their actions that helped them grow as a person please let me know. I would love any help, and anything helps.
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Mirroring 12 steps in a poem without God or spirituality
by OnceAWeirdKid
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more So I am a recovering addict and an "adult child" In my meetings we are working with 12 steps. I personally cannot stand it because I don't believe in any higher power and I have trauma deeply connected to God and spirituality so the 12 steps makes me FURIOUS. So I re-wrote them for myself and then I made it into a poem. And this is the end result. I confess my powerlessness, To the dysfunctional parents, Who made me feel like I didn’t belong, And that everything I did was wrong. I’ve come to understand, That only I can give me grace, Because the power they made, And nobody would come to my aid. I decided to take back control, Over myself and will, Now I’m in my own care, I’m awake and aware. I’ve searched my head for what it’s for, I searched my heart fearlessly, Painstakingly questioned my morals, Hoping another spring will be floral. Admitted my faults, Not only to myself, I got others involved, But there is no quick fix to resolve. I have come to terms with my fate, I have accepted my mistakes, And seen my defects, And how my actions effect. I humbled myself as I begged to question, Myself to remove my wrongs, So I can reach a life where I belong, I seek in myself to become strong. I made a list of the people I hurt, I searched for them on high alert, I confess my sins to my power, Cared for it like a flower. I tried to make it right for them all, I confess my sins and tried to heal the scars, Where I can I find compassion, Redemption is my newest fashion. I continue to work to be my best self, Looking inward and admitting, When I’m wrong or in my feelings, My sins are in proceedings. I searched through mindfulness and meditation, To come in contact with myself, So I can become a better version of a person, And working on becoming positive and assertion. When this thinking has awoken my better self, I try to pay it forward and try to help, This is giving you hope and strength to carry on, Welcome to an emotional marathon.
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Addicted to mastubating
by CamilleYEEE
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hi everyone, I’m addicted to mastication and I’ve been trying to quite for months now. I always have relapse every week and will find myself mastubating cause I can’t handle the urge. I feel very disgusted especially since I feel like I’m not worthy or good enough to be with my friends cause of my disgusting habits. It’s very hard and I’ve taking measures for it such as downloading porn blocking apps, putting child lock in my own phone but I still find ways to get off such as looking for d pics and even finding some audio online of ppl moaning. I’m a Christian well trying to be and this is ruining my head. I failed more times than I count and I’m so sick of it. I need some ppl to help me stay accountable of my actions. I want to be clean of this mastubation. I cannot live like this anymore of shame and guilt. I made it a goal to change myself for the better and this is one of my goals. Please help me in this journey
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Nunca deixe as pessoas te tratarem assim!!
by independentBunny4526
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more Amiga, eu passei por isso bem recentemente e quero te contar de coração aberto, sem nenhum filtro. Um dia eu fui corajosa e falei: “Se você for homem, liga, fala na minha cara—não fica falando só por mensagem, escondido atrás de uma tela!” Eu pedi sinceridade, presença, respeito de verdade. E sabe o que aconteceu? Ele pegou exatamente as minhas palavras e devolveu—mas esqueceu de levar o respeito junto. Falou frases como “queria fechar essa boca sua”, “às vezes dá vontade de pegar essa boca sua”, misturando o que parecia carinho com algo que me fez sentir pequena, controlada, como se eu tivesse que me calar pra ele. Aí eu percebi a diferença—e foi o meu instinto me protegendo, como sempre faz quando a gente sabe ouvir: eu pedia pra falar e ser ouvida; ele falava como se quisesse me impedir de falar. “Fala na minha cara” virou desculpa pra ter o gostinho de dizer o que ele quisesse, sem se importar com o que eu sentia ou merecia. E eu decidi: não vou ligar. Não por orgulho, não por birra—mas porque eu me respeito. Não vou dar o gostinho de alguém usar a minha voz contra mim, nem deixar ninguém falar “na minha cara” só pra me humilhar ou me controlar. Se ele quer conversa de verdade, com respeito, ouvindo também—ele que venha, ele que ligue, ele que fale com dignidade. E se não for assim? Fica aí então. Eu já fiz a minha parte com coragem e verdade, e isso já basta. Amiga, lembre‑se sempre: a sua voz é preciosa, os seus sentimentos merecem ser ouvidos com carinho, e ninguém tem o direito de pedir pra falar “na sua cara” só pra te calar ou te tratar mal. Se a pessoa não sabe falar sem machucar, sem diminuir, sem querer controlar—então ela ainda não está pronta pra te ouvir, e você não tem por que se expor. Seja fiel a você mesma, respeite o seu coração, e lembre: quem te quer de verdade, te quer falando, sorrindo, sendo você toda—não calada, não pequena, não diminuída. Coragem, sempre! 💛  
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porn addiction recovery (log in)
by northernlights101
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more to ones who haven't seen my previous post: hello, this is a log in post to track your porn abstinence. this isn't an official event or anything, I'm just another addict trying to bring like-minded people together to help hold each other accountable. if you wish to start new, you could just follow the instructions given below! and do introduce yourself at the other post used for discussions - porn addiction recovery (discussion) - Discussion | 7 Cups [https://www.7cups.com/forum/addiction/SexandPornAddictionSupport_723/pornaddictionrecoverydiscussion_353938/?post=3850627] for more clarity you could check out my original post - porn addiction recovery - Discussion | 7 Cups [https://www.7cups.com/forum/addiction/SexandPornAddictionSupport_723/pornaddictionrecovery_353678/] how does it work?  1. on your day one, you can reply to the post by simply mentioning 'day 1 - xx/xx/xx (the date)' and as the day's progress please continue responding to yourself to create a chain with your logs only. this doesn't have to be everyday, just whenever you have the time.  2. if you miss a day, as in, end up giving in to your urges simply say 'counter reset - xx/xx/xx' or something similar but short and sweet. and continue replying the next day to your own comments, do not start a new chain, please. (this is so there aren't too many reply pages and we don't lose count easily) 3. please do not reply to another person's comments. only reply to your own comments. (just so we don't disrubt another person's logs and make it messy)  thank you for joining us in this journey!! 
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@fossilfellow Addiction Recovery. *T.W*
by fossilfellow
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more I'm making this new thread, and I decided to make some changes. I realize that the previous method I was doing is a trap, which keeps me stuck in an exhausting pattern. To be completely honest with myself and my healing, I'm switching to a Traffic Light System. 🟢 Green - I stayed completely clean all day. No intentional engagement with triggers. 🟡 Yellow - I have a brief slip or a boundary cross that I successfully stopped within 5 minutes. ( This resets my green streak, but let's me save my overall streak before hitting red. ) 🔴 Red - A full relapse, or engaging in triggering loops for more than 5 minutes. Resets the overall streak back to Day 1. This will be incredibly difficult for me, but I want to heal, and be a normal healthy person. I will do my best 🤍
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About my twin sister (TW)
by raspberryGrapefruit9210
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more Just kind of need someone that can listen but basically I don't know what to do about my living situation where I (17) and my twin sister, who smokes weed all day, doomscrolls, SH, and yells and argues with my mom. Mind you its only us three. I go to school, she doesnt. They kicked her out for her bad grades and she dropped online school and does nothing all day except mindlessly watch tv. Not too long ago she got home from the mental hospital for a week she stayed and yet she still hasn't changed one bit. i'm worried about her and I have tried multiple times to reach out to her but she always rejects. It hurts bc I wish we were closer and that she wasn't doing all of this. I know it deeply hurts my mom too. My twin also has ADHD and I know she struggles with other mental health disorders but what can I do to help her. I feel like I can't even be close to her. She is super toxic and lost all of her friends no surprise and constantly complains and denies everything. And the police has come to our house multiple times but they dont do ***. I'm scared she wont even do anything good in her life and she says she just wants to sell her body as if she can make a living like that. Which she has done before. And she's a MINOR ffs. What can I do about this pls help? I know someone can't change if they don't want too but I have tried on multiple ocassions being nice to her or saying hi. She never lets me in her room tho or wants to talk. So its kind of like we're strangers that live in the same house. Last night I was woke up by the sound of her using again. And my older sister isn't much in the picture because she moved out and is not in contact with my twin anymore after they had a big fight. :( any suggestions or help with this please.
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Bellybutton fetish
by amusingScarf4764
Last post
 Monday
...See more Hello! I need to talk openly about my fetish, preferably with a woman who can help me with it!
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I need help!
by ElectricSoul3646
Last post
 Monday
...See more Hi, I am Ali. I am a 2nd year bachelor's student studying chemistry as major. I am creating this post as I think I have reached a point in my life where I don't have any potency to save my life from this lust full curse. This post is going to be lengthy as I am not hiding anything from the members of 7 cups and I will add details so that I could find the best solutions.  My Problem I am addicted to Porn and Masturbation. I think porn has ruined my life, my peace. Almost everything, there is not any aspect of life that has not been affected by pornography.  How it started Back then, when I was just 6 I found my first pornography on computer where I used to play video games. There were several clips, I can hardly remember them, but it's where it all started. I knew it was wrong but I like it at that time. My Sexual Abuse I remember there were a friend of mine and there were no good ppl. His elder brother often calls me as I was child I did not know anything at all, he was the first person who exposed me to genitals, he did wrong things with me, he abused me. At that time, as when someone is exposed to such things, they often exhibit some sort of unusual behaviours. For me I do remember, playing with me genitals in the school bathroom. I did not know what I was doing, but I was doing not knowing what was right and wrong.  Development of Addiction  As I begin to thrive, in the 5th grade I got my first ***, randomly touching my genitals. I knew at that time, like I had a wave of thought that I should stop it as soon as possible. But I did not, I keep doing it. I then coupled it with porn. I remember watching late night porn and ***.  Escalation  At that point, I realized that my porn patterns were becoming more and more aggressive. Like first I was watching normal porn, then it quickly escalated to Hardcore stuff. Now the hardcore is not making me feel happy anymore. Dopamine Destruction (lack of Happiness) I know what is Dopamine, porn ruined my happiness system. I have realized at this point , that after quitting porn my life would be different, it will be all happy. I have to struggle with mood swings all of my life, and I think the major reason is the Porn and Masturbation. As long as I keep doing these things my brain gives me packets of dopamine otherwise it did not do anything at all. Cortisol Alteration (Stress Addition) It's a normal thing for me that as I begin to quit these things, my adrenals above my kidneys rapidly producing cortisol. The stress hormone, and there is not dopamine to detox it. As my brain only gets dopamine from Porn and Masturbation or nudity.  The Big Depression  In the 11th Grade, the situation becomes extremely scary. It was the time I finally decided to ............ , I was about to eat 20 tablets of Escitalopram. But I did not. Nobody can understand my situation like the way I do. Because I was exposed to nudity at such a young age and my Brain was not processing that things at all. I begin to repress my feelings. I was confuses whether I'm addicted to sex or it is happening naturally to me. I remember all the days I was just motivating me to not to do sex, not to think about it, I was convincing my friends that sex is not good blah blah blah. I remember crying in the washroom after ***. I was like behaving like a mental patient. Just watch porn, *** and this cycle keeps going on. I shared it to my family I begin crying in front of my sister and told everything about it, she is like my mom. It did not really helped me.  My Physical Appearance (The main issue) I was not ugly at all, porn made me ugly. Masturbation did, not gonna lie. I know sharing these things is not appropriate and it's shame. But I will share,  * I'm skinny, masturbation did it. All of energy being wasted there.  * I am having hairfall issues, it's just masturbation.  * My mental health is not so good, just because of it.  * Emotionally, it made me feel that I don't care about me. If I really cared about me I have stopped doing these things a long long time ago. But I did not.  * Spiritually, it is breaking my connection with God Mechanism (My *** Pattern) Not hiding anything, right after ***, I feel deep shame, guilt, remorse, a wave of depression. After it, I begin planning that I will never *** again. But after a few days, like after a stimulus I begin doing that again. I have repeated this cycle thousands of times. If I ever go more days without doing it I feel really sad and like if my brain is recovering it from me. Synaptic Pruning yk. I want freedom from It. More ever, the most horrifying thing about my addiction Is not. After a few days of quiting porn, I begin spending more times in washrooms. IDK but it happens automatically, I begin touching my genitals, like looking at it, idk why I do this but this part this happens own it own. Like looking in the mirror that my *** is good, and then eventually it leads to relapse.  My Research on Porn All across the internet, I have watched a few documentaries regarding the harmful effect of porn on individuals, their love life and the world where we all are living. I have studies books about it. I have Fight the New Drug community, at first it was an eye opening discovery to me but my addiction is so strong that it is not leaving after all that things.  Longest Streak  16 days  My Hope  I think I can quit porn and I will one day. 
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How do i escape the claws of phone/social media
by sagewashere
Last post
 Sunday
...See more Hey does anyone in here struggle with phone addiction? In the real world its taken unseriously and just as "gen z thing". But i genuinely feel that thing consume me little by little. I try my best to break the patterns but letting go feels too heavy. I waste hours of my precious time just stuck in zombified state. At this point im starting to feel hopeless and that its impossibe to do this on my own (i dont have access to help rn) and sometimes i just think "*** it ill just let go and let it take over me completely" but for some reason i still hold on. Im aware that phone usage makes me dumber and thats one of the most devastating parts. I would appreciate if youd share your experiences or ways to cope.
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Journal/Log for Vyvanse Abuse/Addiction
by JamessA24
Last post
 Saturday
...See more 24, addicted to vyvanse pills, I've been taking more than my daily dose and it has affected my life since I started in January 2024. I want to start a journal on here and talk to others who are also struggling with this. The last time I abused was on Wednesday, 2 days ago, so you can say I'm 2 days clean not including today. I want to post on here daily to keep myself accountable and feel supported by like minded people.  Day 1: Complete Day 2: Complete It's been hard but I know I'm strong minded.

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