Where do you draw the line emotionally? 💗

@Ailuraphilelove8tear9

Very easily.  I am built that way. I just wait to see what happens next. When I listen to people here, of course I sympathize but it is their issue, not. mine. It has never prevented me from sleeping.

Compare this with medical staff who see terrible things regularly, lose patients, professionals like police folks, attorneys and judges whose job often include horrendous evidence. They all are used to these mental shocks, with a few exceptions, of course.

@Ailuraphilelove8tear9 

🙏 Namaste all,

I don’t think that’s the right wording, because the heart doesn’t have the power to think — the brain does. I believe it’s the brain that handles thinking, not the heart... 

@Ailuraphilelove8tear9

This is a great question as well as an excellent post in general! I look forward to reading more about other people's experiences and strategies.😊

Whether I'm listening here on Cups or offline irl, I have found that knowing my limits and how much emotional bandwidth I have available are important. Learning exactly where those limits were and how to be fully present for others without going past those limits was a bit of a journey for me. Having healthy boundaries is also very important. If I'm burnt out, I cannot help anyone. Knowing when to say "no," take a break or step away are crucial. 

I always build a "decompression period" into the time I spend listening. It's time after I'm finished listening where I do simple things that help me feel grounded and in tune with my own feelings and needs. Sometimes it's a short guided meditation, grounding exercise, stretching or walk outside. Sometimes a shower helps me reset. It can also be as simple as a cup of tea and checking in with myself. 💕

@Ailuraphilelove8tear9

How do you separate your feelings from others??!!

for us we use to  be emotionally numb a lot with our own emotions but we like take on others issues a lot then we feel things for them still being numb to own emotions this was done big time with our mom but when we learned  boundaries  this stopped as we came to see we  have a right to personal  space even emotional  personal space

so now we set boundaries even emotionally  we step back take time away from the person at times we learned a long time ago a like asking God  to shielded  us  at times from taking on others feelings for us this helps a lot  

the prayer or  could be called meditation is asking Him to put angels around us naming each  side like putting a shield all around   us  this same can help with  night terrors  and nightmares if done right before going to sleep

have a friend who beliefs different  she will ask  the energy  of life to shield her and say it like being safe inside a bubble  so not talking on other people emotion  

both us and others have tried this and really helps

When someone is sharing their emotions with me, in the moment I will feel what they are feeling, or maybe, even a deeper emotion. After our conversation though, I will digest what had been said, and pull myself out from that emotional state. Of course, I'm still learning to perfect this skill, so there are times, where I'd be worried and stressed for that person for a couple of days after our conversation.

@Ailuraphilelove8tear9

@AiluraTheCat This is a really good question. I separate my feelings when they separate theirs. Coming on this platform means a lot to me, but when I log off, it's different when you feel like you're still on 7 Cups when a friend talks to you. You know... only needing you when things aren't going right and when they feel better, they don't come back. It hurts and I had to let a few people go because of that. 💔

@AiluraTheCat

This is such a beautiful post, it is so important to remember that we are also human beings, and we have emotions too! 

I think I set boundaries by taking breaks, practising self care and reaching out to the community for some light hearted conversation and bonding.