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How can something that's so hard for me come naturally to everyone else?

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Last Updated: 06/12/2018 at 3:44pm
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November 17th, 2015 3:15am
everyone deals in different ways. What starts out bad always ends up good so don't worry so much one day you'll look back and laugh about it x
June 6th, 2017 2:37pm
We all feel like this at some point, sometimes what seems natural to everyone...behind doors took a lot of practice, patience and work. Of course , we rarely will see that. Second, we all have unique abilities that come natural to us but hard for everyone else, i'm sure you have them too. It is possible you have not identified them yet :)
May 27th, 2015 7:35am
We are all different, the things you then find easy others might not. And they have the exact same question as you
August 16th, 2016 8:56am
You make yourself think it's hard therefore it's even harder. You make yourself think you can't do it. So you need to push yourself into positivity and say "I can do this! And I will!".
February 19th, 2018 3:29am
Everybody is different and has different struggles, something that comes naturally to you may be hard for somebody else.
February 18th, 2015 2:32pm
Everyone is different. Don't compare yourself to others. You have your own rhythm. You'll find that you will also have things that you're better at ! Sometimes it's understanding others, or maybe expressing your emotions in art. And if you have to work twice as hard for the rest, it doesn't mean you can't do it at all. You just need to work harder. Just give it your best. You know what they say, it's 5% talent the rest is hard work. Work hard and you can do anything you want, even the things that don't come naturally !
February 20th, 2018 12:38am
Based of off the three learning theories as specified: behaviorism, Cognitive information processing and Constructivism. We are all different and our minds are programmed in different ways. Some people are great at mathematic, while others are fantastic readers. So, we all have strengths and weakness and being comfortable with this is essential to having positive thoughts about ourselves.
March 26th, 2015 3:36am
Everyone is made differently. You've probably heard all of this hundreds of times, but that is only because it is true. Everyone is different. So it may come naturally to some, but there are others that it may be hard. Don't think that you are alone! There is always someone else that is going through something like what you are. Find a group of people that have that problem and talk to them! It may help. Really!
April 24th, 2015 5:14pm
Everyone have their own talents and I'm sure you do too! I'm sure you have things that you find easy that we find it hard. If you want to improve, you can always try to practice it to improve your skill spit won't be as hard as it was before.
July 21st, 2015 1:53am
Short answer? People are different, that's all there is to it. If it comes naturally, people find a skill hard to improve. Rather than wondering why you cannot do something as well as the guy ahead of you, wonder how you can improve and overtake him. Best of luck,
September 14th, 2015 8:13pm
Everyone is different. I cant sing a lick but i know people that can sing like a bird. If we were all good at everything then it be really dull. I am a massive nerd about most uninteresting random stuf.. but i try and own it. It is me and sometimes in my random box of knowledge i have a gem that can make people laugh. FInd your thing and Own it!
March 1st, 2016 10:49pm
It is because if that something seems to be easy for them, maybe something that comes easy for you is really hard for them. It is about how our brains and minds are wired and shaped. We all grew up in different environments, have different genetic heritage or have different sets of skills or exposure to them. It doesn't mean we can't learn hard things, and share with others what comes easy to us. We can exchange our skills in this way too
May 9th, 2016 2:18pm
Because everybody is different in their own way, and somethings are easier for some people than for others.
January 9th, 2017 11:13pm
We all have different abilities and different rates for learning or performing different tasks. Just because we do not learn at the same pace as another person does not mean that we are incompetent, however, and that we should give up.
July 3rd, 2017 5:44am
Everybody has different strengths and weaknesses. LIke, if you have curly hair, chances are you try to straighten it and vice versa. There will be something that you're good at, that others find difficult. It can take time to find out what that is.
February 5th, 2018 11:48pm
Because everyone is born different. Everyone’s life/path is different. We are not all the same, now there are somethings that most people can do but if u can’t do it then that’s ok because like I said MOST people can do it. But there are things that you, yourself can do that others can’t do. Now that does not mean that they are stupid or weak just like how when you can’t do something others can do that it does not mean you are stupid or weak. Everyone has there own strengths and weaknesses, and if your strengths are in other areas that most people’s aren’t in then that’s a good thing because it means your Unique. (Which is a VERY GOOD thing)
February 26th, 2018 12:24am
Everyone is different, just embrace what is good about you and ask people to help you in areas you aren’t as good!
June 4th, 2018 3:29am
Everyone has their own strengths, and that shows in our abilities. When I was on guard, it took me forever for me to get this one toss. Another girl immediately got the toss and it frustrated me. My band director told me to keep trying, so I did and I got the toss. Just because something doesn't come naturally doesn't mean that you can't do it. Keep pushing and persevere.
June 12th, 2018 3:44pm
I agree with the answers here, we all are different. It's also worth noting that people may fake how natural they do something. Fake it till you make it, some may say.