How do I stop feeling so afraid of social interactions?
Last Updated: 05/17/2021 at 10:09pm
Caroline Middelsdorf, MSc.
I am a warm hearted, patient, calm and open-minded therapist. I am here to dedicate my expertises to my clients and their individual challenges, thoughts and feelings.
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You are beautiful, amazing and talented, if I know it, everybody should, including yourself. Don't be afraid of what people think, and you'll never know until you try. There are so many people who are afraid of social interactions, you're not alone. And most importantly you're not alone in overcoming it, everyone here at 7 Cups of Tea is prepared to give you their full attention. You are loved, precious and cherished, don't let anyone tell you different. never let what people think get in the way of you fulfilling your dreams. People are like cake, there are a few nasty ones, but all the rest are DELICIOUS. Don't hold yourself back. Love yourself just like everyone loves you xx
Take the whole situation slow. Every little interaction will help you learn and become more comfortable. It may be a daunting task but you need to step out of your comfort zone. Learn from every interaction and use what you learned to grow.
I think that it takes courage to take that one step and get out into a social situation. I also think that we need to have tool kit to help us relax if things get to be really stressful. For example, I find having a button that I have deemed "lucky" helps to ground me. I also like having water with me, so I can take a drink of something cool to bring my body temperature down. One last thing, having my phone with me helps immensely. That way if I get panicked I can bury my head in my phone and I know that I look "normal".
Social Interactions can truly be nerve-wrecking, and sometimes it gets the best of us. =) It is too easy to dread what might happen if you make a mistake, or give a bad impression. But even though you might feel that people are watching and judging you, they are usually accepting and friendly. Keep Reminding yourself that people are friendly, and like you, they yearn for connection, (most importantly, they want to connect with YOU). You will realize that there is really nothing to fear about.
By talking to as many people as you can and not bothering about what opinion they will have on you .
Take a deep breath and try your best to be friendly. It can be hard but will be rewarding for you. The relationships you gain will make it all worth it.
Try to realize that there are no written rules about social interaction, how you socialize is completely up to you whether it's online or in real life, play by your own rules.
You need to try and rationalise your thoughts when you ask what the worst that can happen ask yourself it it really is possible, and then think about whats the best thing that can happen and picture you self doing it seeing as optimism is usually less exaggerated than pessimism. Also get yourself in a good mind set, do some thing fun before you go to the soical interaction or make yourself laugh so you'll have more of a positive and energetic mind.
You have to be yourself because no one can be a better you. It sounds cliche but it is very true. People will either embrace you or shun you but that's okay. Short answer of getting over the fear of social interaction is to forget others are there in the sense you feel no judgement. Be confident.
Practice your breathing and start small. Start with another person, then when you are feeling comfortable be around two people. Then three and then four and so on. Remember to breathe.
Go and face them. This is the most effective way of dealing with the fear within you. If its hard, do it step by step. Whatever fear it may be: fear of height, fear of water, fear of crowd, just face it and it goes away.They are just like monkeys. They come behind you and threaten you, you run, they run behind you. But as soon as you stop and face them, you see them running away.
The only way to get better at interacting with people is to interact with people. It might be time to slowly introduce yourself to some people! :)
Start slowly. Talk to a person, or a few people, privately. Start with people you know and trust, like family. If it's people your own age that make you uncomfortable, speak to a therapist or teacher. Build up your interactions, before trying them out in a conversation.
Try to focus on why you want to go, and try to make that a very conscious goal in your head. For example, visualise yourself walking up stairs and at the top of the stairs is achieving your goal. If you're feeling anxious on the way there, try some breathing techniques or consciously unclench all of your muscles. Remind yourself that you will feel infinitely proud of yourself after that social interaction, and that that pride, and your goal, is completely worth it.
I learned that other people's judgments of me don't need to influence how I feel about myself. Knowing that at the end of the day, I would still love myself, took off a lot of the pressure for me to fit in and conform to other people's opinions of me. That release of pressure took away my fear and anxiety of social interaction.
It's important to keep an open mind when dealing with social interactions. You have to get out of your comfort zone, take the first step and be confident. Introduce yourself and try to radiate a positive vibe. Tell yourself, that social interaction is healthy. Human beings are social creatures, social interactions will make us grow as a person and make us learn to connect with more people :)
This can be hard, I know from experience. Try starting off with hanging out with a small group of friends, two or three people. Try this for a week and if you're comfortable, try going out to maybe a small shop. I hope this helps!
I’ve felt like this many of times. It’s like everything is so big and scary. Mindfulness helps a lot. Fofboc helps. Sit on a chair with your feet flat on the floor (or you can stand up). And just let your thoughts float by like buses driving past you. Do this for 2 minutes and you will so much calmer.
I find visualisation most helpful. Try visualising a social event that goes smoothly and imagine yourself feeling positively about interactions. Use positive affirmations such as "Everyone is friendly" and "I am happy to be in this situation." If you find visualising something like this too difficult in your present state, then I would suggest taking one step at a time. I started a course that I was extremely nervous about and I was trying not to think about all of the people that would be there. During the drive to the venue, I found myself nearly talking myself out of it. So I told myself that I was going to do it. I was in no mind to visualise, so I repeatedly told myself "I can do this, I can do this," in my mind, in a voice that was stronger and louder than the negativity.
Ease into it little by little. Go with someone you know and trust. Start with small groups. Practice in the mirror so you can see how you are saying things so you can be more confident when in front of others. Try to be yourself. Be calm. Try to find like minded individuals so the conversations will be easier and more comfortable at first. Don’t he too hard on yourself. You can also start online or texting it can be easier because you are not actually in front of the person and tend to be less shy in those situations
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