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how do I stop thinking about being perfect?

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Last Updated: 01/25/2022 at 9:24am
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April 7th, 2015 12:49am
Nobody can be perfect because it implies an state of no-change. Any humang being needs to change, to flow, to improve time by time. You can stop thinking about being perfect by understanding that no one is perfect, and if you'd be perfect, you'd be dull and absurd, you'd have taken the "human condition" from you. The beauty in humanity is that we aren't perfect, that we actually change.
May 11th, 2016 3:49am
Perfection is overrated: it's something so many of us strive for and something we will never reach since, as I believe someone has already stated, it doesn't exist. It's just a thought, a standard someone out there has set. The thing about perfection is it's less about who you are and more about how the rest of the world perceives you. In other words, we don't strive to be perfect for ourselves, we strive to be perfect so that others will see how perfect we are. And that's where it becomes dangerous. You have to live life for your satisfaction. Make choices that make you happy, make choices where you are the sole decision maker and do your best not to let others influence that. I only say this as a former perfectionist, who wouldn't even touch a project or a task unless I knew beforehand I could do it 100% perfectly. You could see how that could get annoying lol.
April 11th, 2015 12:24pm
Look around, there are flaws in everything. Look at something you love about yourself, embrace that because it is true and you are beautiful. I don't even have to say that to know it is 100% true, because beauty is within everyone. Perfection is unachievable. Finding happiness through small things, things other than your body, is very achievable. Look at the mountains, the clouds, the stars. Beauty is in everything, made wonderfully and carefully, and that includes you. Yes, YOU!
May 6th, 2015 7:13pm
"If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is, too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think." T. Harv Eker ....this is one of my favorite quotes, it won't happen over night its a process, you have to change your mindset because there's no such thing as a perfect person
August 25th, 2015 7:02am
In order for my mind to stop continuously trying to figure out how to be perfect in every way, I usually try some silent meditation by myself to clear my head of all those thoughts.
May 22nd, 2015 8:14pm
Nobody is perfect. You just have to do your own thing. Doing the stuff you like. Someone will think you are perfect and some will not. You just have to ignore them and Live yourself. If you LOVE yourself, You are PERFECT.
December 7th, 2015 10:08pm
I've spent a lot of my life thinking about being perfect, achieving perfection and worrying that I just can't achieve it. Always running myself into the ground to achieve my own interpretation of 'perfection'. Our insecurities make us lose sight of what it really is. When our vision is clouded with anxiety and fears of failure, nothing can ever be perfect because we see ourselves through contorted eyes. Some say that nobody is perfect, and that it doesn't exist, but we are all perfect when we do the best we can and be the best we can be. We just need to understand that perfection has a different meaning for every single one of us, and however we feel about ourselves or our achievements etc, we need to try and accept that we're doing the best we can in the moment. Perfection is embracing yourself and accepting what you believe are your 'imperfections',
January 4th, 2016 3:48pm
Realize the bits about yourself that you like/love. Focus on the good. Also, remember how nice it is to interact with another person who has faults just like you do. Would you like to hang around with someone who was so perfect that they never made any mistakes ever and could never relate to you? No way! It's wonderful to find someone who's made mistakes and overcome challenges and might still be facing challenges because they're more relatable and personable.
March 6th, 2015 3:54pm
Surround yourself in positive people! People that make you happy will help you to stop thinking about the negatives.
May 10th, 2015 2:39am
Start thinking that no one is perfect and that we are all in the process of being the best that we can be. Everyday is a new beginning to become better and every morning mercy is new.
June 22nd, 2015 4:59am
You need to think that everybody is already perfect in their own way. You don't have to be perfect, you just need to be just the way you are!
July 27th, 2015 8:23pm
Nobody is perfect in this life. You can either win or fail. It's just temporarily effect. I mean you can't be perfect. But if you are perfect for others who accepts you I am pretty sure that is something special and sweet :)
August 4th, 2015 6:58pm
Possibly to come to the realisation that you never will be because no one is. We all makes mistakes, do wrong and have imperfections but we all have good qualities also and embracing those can make you feel more worthy.
September 14th, 2015 5:02pm
No one is perfect, i'll repeat no one is prefect. If you realise that it will be alot easier to stop thinking about it. There is no reason to try to be perfect, be yourself, be the best version of yourself and you'll be as perfect as a human can be. That's not easy, I know, but it's worth it.
November 30th, 2015 3:20am
Realize that there is no such thing as being perfect, find the things about yourself that are beautiful, tell yourself you are perfect!!
November 30th, 2015 4:43am
Remember that no one is perfect. Even when you look at someone and think they are, they also have insecurities and flaws rhey are dealing with.
December 28th, 2015 12:08am
look around and think of one flaw for each person you see, think of one flaw in yourself. then look at a good thing in everyone and yourself and realise that no one around you is perfect
December 28th, 2015 2:26pm
Remember that no one is perfect and that we are never going to be perfect, so don't change the way you are to be perfect. Accept yourself for who you are
February 6th, 2016 11:24pm
Being perfect is just a term somebody made up at some point. But it isn't real. There will most probably always be things you don't like and things you like about yourself. Try to accept your flaws and appreciate your strengths. The both of them are what shapes you, makes you special and individual and if perfect does exist, then it is to say that everyone is perfect in their own way.
May 10th, 2016 12:35pm
no body is perfect in this world ,instead thinking of being perfect think about how to love yourself always love yourself and love whatever you do ..
June 28th, 2016 3:09am
Look in the mirror everyday and tell your self your beautiful in every way and don't let any one tell you other wise
August 9th, 2016 11:56pm
It's a process for sure. It takes a lot of work. You have to learn that perfection really doesn't exist. You have to learn to love yourself with all your imperfections. Whenever you have a negative thought about yourself stop it and come up with 3 positive thoughts. Work on challenging these negative thoughts whenever they arise. And don't try to do this on your own. It's okay to lean on someone for support. They can really support and help you through this journey. The best of luck to you. And just know that I think you're perfect just the way you are. *Hugs* and lots of love
August 10th, 2016 12:51pm
Stop comparing yourself to others ! You are wonderful just the way you are ! There is no definition in perfect only peoples perceptions of other people. Surround yourself with positive people, good friends and do something you love everyday :)
January 13th, 2020 10:51pm
It is honorable that you realize perfection and the constant striving for it can be unhealthy. A tricky situation to navigate. Do you make an inventory daily of your accomplishments? Do you express gratitude toward yourself for what you do well? Are you able to appreciate how being imperfect can also be perfect? By expressing appreciation, and being in a state of realization, there is often a better balance found in life between perfect, wanting to be perfect and dealing with the imperfections. It takes some work and self awareness though it is worth it to live a happier and more satisfying life.
July 27th, 2020 6:14pm
Ask yourself, "what is perfect?" "what does perfect mean to me?" "is it how I want to view myself or for how others view me?" To find the thoughts behind why you want to be perfect and to identify motives and what would happen if you ever did hit "perfect?" So in all reality what does perfect mean to you and what creates this barrier in to thinking you are not perfect? Who is perfect to you and why are they perfect? To really observe your thoughts and gain an understanding of why this may be constantly on your mind.
January 25th, 2022 9:24am
A very important step towards achieving this would be, first of all, to stop comparing yourself to others. Every individual is different from the other ones, and we certainly do not know what privileges or opportunities someone has, which means that making comparisons is not helpful for us. In addition, try to ensure yourself every day that you are doing the best you can, and even if you make mistakes, that is normal, because none can avoid them and because they help us understand ourselves better. Finally, you can try to use less the term "perfect", as it usually causes stress, and try to replace it with other words, such as "effective", "helpful", etc. You choose!