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How do you get over unrequited love?

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Last Updated: 05/11/2020 at 7:19am
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Top Rated Answers
raquelita234
January 21st, 2015 1:12am
What's important is to fall in love with other parts of life. There is that person you love, who isn't returning feelings, but there's so much more out there than one person. Listen to music that makes you happy, go places that distract you, hang out with friends who can make you smile and laugh, and work on loving the world around you so that one person seems insignificant in comparison.
BalancedBeing
July 12th, 2016 5:48pm
Experiencing unrequited love is one of the most painful things I've been trough. It took me a long time to get past that wall, and what I can say to heal others is to allow yourself to completely let yourself go and cry about it. It sounds simple. But what I mean is; whenever the thought of the person comes into your mind, you cry. Always. Don't resent or hold your feelings back. The more you hold back, the longer it'll take to heal your heartbreak. You can't force another person to love you back. Just realise how blessed you were for having the experience of feeling love. Not everyone is lucky to find love, or fall in love. So celebrate that. Love that person in your heart, even if they don't love you back. And once you've done that fully, try to understand that love in itself is worth feeling, it is just us humans that makes love complicated. But you just had an experience where you got to understand what it is that you truly desire in a person. Take that knowledge and honor it in knowing it will come an opportunity for you where you will get those feelings back one day too. Embrace the fact that the love you feel now will change into friendship. And lastly, honor yourself with compassion and self love as you let them go. Because you are worthy of so much more than you know.
ALLisWELL279
February 22nd, 2016 7:48am
self worth is the key. on this planet our first responsibility is our own self. so giving you time to a person who dont love you back is disrespecting our own self
RileyTwiggs
May 30th, 2016 4:25am
As difficult as it is and as perfect as you may see that person to be, there are others. There always are. There are over 7 billion people on this Earth, it is hard to believe that there can only be one possibility for you. Believe me, even if you're LGBTQ (I'm lesbian, I understand the struggle to find a partner), there are always others. Always. Even if it takes a while longer to find them.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2015 10:49pm
Crying, eating a lot of ice cream and talking with good friends. I realized that I was the only person in the relationship and it is not healthy to fixate on a person who doesn't like you the same way back.
Anonymous
August 24th, 2015 7:33am
i have an unrequited love too, i tried so hard to get over it by more often hanging out with my friends
LM7196
August 7th, 2017 6:18am
Accept the fact that he/she doesnt feel the way we feel for them. If they dont feel the same way then it cant be helped. Another way is spending much less time with that person. As we spend much less time around that person, the less we think about them.
RoseIeroWay
May 12th, 2015 12:34pm
This is a hard one: the only thing I can say here is that you know how you feel for this person, but if they do not feel the same, then it's their loss.
Anonymous
June 18th, 2015 7:26am
By learning to accept yourself and moving on. It's to know that you'll find the right person in time.
originalRabbit76
July 25th, 2016 10:02am
You need to remember that you see fine before you met them and that you are confident and that somewhere in the world there is over 1000 people who would love to date you
Anonymous
November 8th, 2016 4:55pm
I went for a walk. I read books I listen to music I talk to God I read positive impact hang out with good friends eat good food watch things that were positive writing in a journal making a song talking to your mom a loved one anybody
EndearingOcean1111
May 11th, 2020 7:19am
Turn to yourself. The love you've wished from someone else, give it to you. Take care of yourself as if you were your own parent. Our relationship with ourselves is the one we know is gonna last a lifetime. So if we nurture ourselves, we will be thankful for the extra love we get from others, not dependent on it. Do things for yourself with a little extra love. When you cook a meal, add something extra and think of it as something you would have done to surprise your partner, but instead you do it for yourself. Things like that! I hope this answer helped you, even if it's a little bit.