If I want to participate in a group conversation, how do I know when I can talk, and what to say so I don't make a fool of myself?

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Last Updated: 09/03/2018 at 10:25am
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Anonymous
February 24th, 2015 4:18am
You can talk when ever you feel comfortable to do so, there is no pressure to say anything, but if you see a comment from someone which you can relate to, then feel free to say something, you will not be judged, you will be supported.
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2015 4:03am
Participating in a group char may be a difficult task. You might want to start over by talking to only one person who seems to greet you and once you get more acquainted with the subject of the discussion you can proceed more easily.
OptimisticOmega
April 1st, 2015 3:06pm
If you're meaning a group conversation on 7 Cups Of Tea, just go for it. Head first, introduce yourself, say hello ect, you'll never make a fool of yourself. We're all non-judging people and we care. (: Just follow the chatroom guildlines and relax.
Anonymous
May 4th, 2015 10:53pm
Most people just like it when you be yourself. Chances are that they wont think you are making a fool of yourself. Whenever you feel it is right, just go ahead and say whatever is on your mind :)
YoureMyHero
May 26th, 2015 1:04pm
Be yourself . if the people in the group are your friends they shouldnt judge you. and anytime its quite its the best time to talk
poptart99
July 20th, 2015 9:46pm
youll know when its the right time to say something (: just make sure its positive and think before you say it and you should be a ok
dbettis1
September 28th, 2015 10:05pm
I think the best way to approach a group conversation is to just listen for pauses or a subject that you feel comfortable commenting on. It can be kind of awkward just jumping into a conversation, but if they're talking about something you can comment on, go ahead and jump in!
Dana13
December 1st, 2015 12:33pm
Make sure to not interrupt the person speaking at the moment, speak within the subject they are discussing, and don't be afraid of being a fool, sometimes being a fool is what makes the good memories :)
olimaar
October 26th, 2015 3:52pm
Try to remember that if you are among friends you can never make a fool of yourself. Just be yourself, and talk when it feels right.
UniverseChild
November 24th, 2015 1:51am
You are able to talk at any pace you like. Some like to jump right in, others prefer to hold back for a bit before they begin. Say what's on your mind, there is no wrong way to express yourself!
calmLove29
December 28th, 2015 12:17am
we are all here to help, listen and observe each others problems. you won't be judged here.your in a safe place
Anonymous
January 25th, 2016 4:31pm
Stop worrying. Conversations are a free thing, full of life and movement and sillyness and comfortableness. If you want to participate in a group conversation (on 7Cups), just log on, say 'hey' or 'what's up' and then just join in. Whenever you have something to say, just say it. Everybody else is just as weird and foolish as you are and we all say something weird or at the wrong time. People just go with it. It's not that big of a deal. :)
Anonymous
July 26th, 2016 3:28am
You can only be a fool if you feel like a fool. If you want to talk. You should talk at a time you think is fine to talk.
Anonymous
August 15th, 2016 11:47pm
You can talk whenever there is a pause in the conversation or it feels like a good time! And say whatever you want! You could try responding to what others said and relating to their topic.
Anonymous
January 1st, 2018 1:55pm
Don't worry so much about it. Say what comes naturally to you. It might be helpful to remark upon what is being currently said and elaborate on it to help create a nice flow of conversation. But it's probably more important to know who you're talking to and knowing what they're comfortable with, so as to be aware of what not to say as well.
Anaiviv01
September 3rd, 2018 10:25am
Social skills are all about having the good flow. Flow is not a random word: a group conversation is a big stream made by little personal streams merging all together. To ease the process you can visualize group communication as a river with waterfalls, other little rivers, muddy zones where communication stagnates and so on. You know your goal is to let the river flow and add some value (your value) to the group conversation. Speak when you feel the river needs more water, add your personal remarks, be welcoming towards "new rivers" merging. Try to keep up with the pace of the conversation, adjusting your rhythm accordingly.