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How do you find the words to break up with someone, when they have done nothing wrong, but you don't feel the same?

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Last Updated: 01/05/2021 at 8:49am
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June 28th, 2016 8:14am
Simply tell them that though they haven't done anything wrong but you realised you don't feel the love for them..dont tell them they deserve better.. That willl make them feel worse.just be honest as they deserve it..just tell them you don't love them without any fault of theirs
November 14th, 2016 7:44am
Be straight forward but not too harsh. Remember to be sensitive of his/her emotion. Explain everything.
June 5th, 2017 3:42pm
You have to remember that being with someone that you don't have feelings for is not fair to them, if they never have done something wrong that means that they do not deserve to be let to invest any more in a relationship that the feelings are mutual
November 2nd, 2020 12:49am
I have learned that people our put in our paths for a reason, sometimes to grow as individuals, sometimes to teach us things, sometimes to make us aware of what we want in a relationship and what we dont want. I feel we evolve many times along the way and our needs can change from time to time, what we thought we wanted when we were younger is not always what we need or want as we get older. As we change and we gain more wisdom the priorities in our life switch up, which includes relationships, our jobs,family dynamics, morals and values
January 5th, 2021 8:49am
You don't have to have a reason to break up or you could have any reason, you do you man. Sometimes things don't work out, and that's okay. First, you'd want to tell them they haven't done anything wrong, they will probably think that if they were different things would have worked out so you'll want to stress that they haven't done anything wrong. If it isn't working out now, it isn't going to work down the line. Be considerate and kind, no one likes breakups and it's important to stay respectful. Be honest, tell them you do not feel the same way as you did. Maybe the spark the two of you had has burned out, and you've tried to reignite it but it didnt work out.